Friend dumps junk on me

[MyameVyce]

My friend keeps dumping her unwanted stuff on me. Stuff is in bad condition and it would be unfair to send it to charity shop and no one would take it for free even. That leaves the option of taking it to the tip which is really hard for me to do because I’m on my own with a 1 year old. getting to the tip that’s 10miles away at the weekend, and getting the stuff into the right bins without DC having a meltdown because I’ve left her in the car is not fun .

Recent examples of these gifts are a broken bread maker that I don’t have a clue how to fix, a mouldy bouncy chair (black mould), newborn clothes when my DC is 1, and a set of rusty pans. This time it’s a grotty old mini fridge and the door doesn’t shut well.

She brings this rubbish every time I invite her round. I tell her: no. Please take it away, I don’t need it/want it. And she says oh that’s fine, take it to charity or pass it on if it’s not for you. I’ve told her that it’s not easy for me to get stuff loaded up in car to take to charity/the dump and then she just ends up leaving it behind anyway. I think she does it so she can feel eco because it’s not her sending stuff to landfill.

I live in a small space with no storage. I’m super peeved that I’m having to spend the weekend sorting out disposing of a fridge instead of doing something I want to do with my kid!

AIBU to load up the car and take the fridge and the rest back to her tomorrow AM?

YANBU, but I would stop inviting her over if she's refusing to listen to you. She sounds irritating!

She's an annoying shit. Just stop inviting her over. Go to her house and drop the stuff off. Me er see her again.

Gather it all up, dump it in her garden/ hallway or whatever and tell her to fuck off. Stand up for yourself.

I wish I could put it all back in her car. Unfortunately it’s street parking where I live so she’s often parked down the road. Ideally I’d go to the car with her every time she left to make sure the crap was going home with her, but I can’t leave DC unattended in the house and go down street where I wouldn’t be able to hear her

Then tell her she can't come around anymore. You're not a tip.

Do not let her in your house.

I think I'd go round and leave it in her porch or on her doorstep.

Message her:

"That doesn't work for me. You need to come and pick up today or tomorrow at the latest. I made it clear that it was not wanted. You need to take it to the tip yourself. Let's stick to meeting away from my home as this has become a regular occurrence with items neither of us want. I'm not sure why I'm being used as a tip?"

OP, I'm really not seeing why you're not standing up for yourself here. A friendship should be about support and not to add to your mental (and physical!) load!

This.

She's no friend.

Wtf am I reading. Stop being so passive. If this is real you need to stop them from even bringing the stuff into the house. Just tell them NO at the door.

Text her hourly asking her to pick up her rubbish. Add comments like - I’m a single mum I don’t know why you want to make my life more difficult.
Assuming she doesn’t reply then yes dump it all her doorstep.

Take the stuff back to her house.

Then stop inviting her round and tell her why.

Put it in a bag on her door step. Text
her : Hi friend told you I didn’t need those things. Left them on your doorstep.

Assuming you drive, I would take that fridge back to her, and tell her not to give you anything else, because you don't have the room.
Or just dump it on her doorstep.
That would annoy me so much.

Put the stuff in your car and dump it on her doorstep. Message her telling her to stop bringing her crap to your house. Don't invite her over again. Simple!

This is so awful! I am so cross on your behalf!

Take it back.

Take it to the dump and when you make plans with her again- say- please do not bring anything over and IF she does- take it straight back to her car!

Take the fridge back to hers and leave it on her doorstep. Do it tomorrow.

Stop being such a doormat. Load it all up in your car and leave it in her front garden.

Dump it in her garden

Wow OP this woman is bullying you by ignoring your protests.

THROW YOUR OWN SHIT OUT is what you should be saying.

How utterly pathetic to accept this. Sort yourself out and stand up for yourself.

Is she a real friend? If you don’t invite her round would she make arrangements to meet you at hers/other places? Would she miss not catching up with you?

or are you a useful friend to her that she won’t bother with if you stop being useful?

That fridge and all her other crap wouldn't have got past my front doorstep.
As pp have all said ,stand up for yourself and tell her straight.

Jesus...this is atrocious.

She brings this rubbish every time I invite her round

It is SO simple.

Do. Not. Invite.Her. Ever. Again.

What you should actually do is invite yourself to her house and take all her shit back to her.
Then leave.
Hopefully the penny will drop and an apology will be forthcoming.
If you must continue to see her please continue to not invite her to your home and if she asks remind her why.
Ideally return all her shit and block and delete.

What bizarre behaviour. If you stopped inviting her round, is she likely to leave junk on your doorstep?