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Friend dumps junk on me

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MyameVyce · 01/11/2025 20:21

My friend keeps dumping her unwanted stuff on me. Stuff is in bad condition and it would be unfair to send it to charity shop and no one would take it for free even. That leaves the option of taking it to the tip which is really hard for me to do because I’m on my own with a 1 year old. getting to the tip that’s 10miles away at the weekend, and getting the stuff into the right bins without DC having a meltdown because I’ve left her in the car is not fun .

Recent examples of these gifts are a broken bread maker that I don’t have a clue how to fix, a mouldy bouncy chair (black mould), newborn clothes when my DC is 1, and a set of rusty pans. This time it’s a grotty old mini fridge and the door doesn’t shut well.

She brings this rubbish every time I invite her round. I tell her: no. Please take it away, I don’t need it/want it. And she says oh that’s fine, take it to charity or pass it on if it’s not for you. I’ve told her that it’s not easy for me to get stuff loaded up in car to take to charity/the dump and then she just ends up leaving it behind anyway. I think she does it so she can feel eco because it’s not her sending stuff to landfill.

I live in a small space with no storage. I’m super peeved that I’m having to spend the weekend sorting out disposing of a fridge instead of doing something I want to do with my kid!

AIBU to load up the car and take the fridge and the rest back to her tomorrow AM?

OP posts:
RampantIvy · 03/11/2025 07:45

Bowies · 03/11/2025 07:34

The fridge has gone too far.
Return and say you weren’t able to dispose of it.

Don’t invite her again she’s not respecting your boundaries and pushed to the limit with a fridge.

If you still want a friendship meet on neutral ground eg coffee shop.

She has updated.

Mackerelfillets · 03/11/2025 09:55

The only way to stop her is to take it all back round to her. Once she sees you are not putting up with it she will stop. Awkward yes but necessary.

Ihatetomatoes · 03/11/2025 10:36

MyameVyce · 02/11/2025 18:18

SHE REPLIED!!!

And she posted about 30 mins ago on a friends’ group saying she’s involved in organising a community JUMBLE SALE ahead of Christmas, does anyone want to volunteer or donate!!! 🤭 🤣 💀 I’m starting to think she’s been having a laugh all this time, like surely this can’t be real!!! If it is I can’t even imagine what trash she’ll be wheeling out for the good of the community.

She also replied personally to my message and said no problem, her partner was going to do a charity shop run anyway. The jumble sale had made me laugh but that reply has really annoyed me. She knows it’s so much harder for me to “just”
pop to the dump or the charity shop. Also … poor charity shop. Hopefully they’ll see what’s she’s bringing and refuse it at the door.

Strange friend. Now she's dumping her useless broken junk on charity shops or jumble sales. Or perhaps she actually believes people want broken items?

CruCru · 03/11/2025 10:39

With people like this, I suspect it’s that they paid their own money for things and just can’t bear to take them to the dump. They think “someone MUST want this”. I used to volunteer at a second hand uniform sale and it was amazing how much crap people would give us (summer dresses covered in black pen with all the buttons missing, things that weren’t even our uniform).

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