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To now be increasingly concerned about illegal boat arrivals

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CalmShaker · 14/10/2025 21:33

I've kept a level head with boat crossing arrivals but recently I've become concerned that there are some really unpleasant people being let in. This story was hard to watch on the news this evening;

Asylum seeker 'murdered hotel worker Rhiannon Whyte in frenzied attack' - BBC News https://share.google/qxzed2MD19TYPKasQ

I welcome genuine asylum but I don't believe that is what is happening anymore.
The story immediately before the above on national news this evening was the migrant who had threatened Nigel Farrage. I know Nigel is not the most popular of people but the migrant was horrid, clearly dangerous and not safe to be on our streets.
Financial cost and all other factors aside, it's the safety aspect that worry me most.

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BluntPlumHam · 14/10/2025 21:35

Sigh. Here we go again. Op you’re more likely to be killed by your relative as in brother/husband or son than you are an asylum seeker.

Check the femicide stats from home office.

Goldeh · 14/10/2025 21:37

First response nails it.

There are good people and bad people from all walks of life, being an asylum seeker does not automatically make someone a danger to others.

Reallynotsure25 · 14/10/2025 21:40

BluntPlumHam · 14/10/2025 21:35

Sigh. Here we go again. Op you’re more likely to be killed by your relative as in brother/husband or son than you are an asylum seeker.

Check the femicide stats from home office.

This X1000

CalmShaker · 14/10/2025 21:41

Goldeh · 14/10/2025 21:37

First response nails it.

There are good people and bad people from all walks of life, being an asylum seeker does not automatically make someone a danger to others.

That seems to be the standard response but I'm finding that hard to continually accept.
What is the purpose of having background checks, rules, criminal history if someone can just bypass that and enter via boat. We are then told, it's fine statistically nothing will happen. But it is happening.

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Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:41

I’m really worried too.

This country is completely overcrowded to the degree our wildlife is dying and our flood risk is going up, and we have 1,000 people a day arriving who will no doubt apply to bring family etc

Most from countries where women are inferior - those beliefs don’t magically disappear as they cross the channel

It’s utter madness

MidnightPatrol · 14/10/2025 21:42

I think it’s a bit of distraction from the absolutely vast amount of legal migration going on, which we don’t seem to have a grip on at all and is responsible for vastly more new arrivals…!

BeNeedyRubyMoose · 14/10/2025 21:42

That was a very quick shutdown @BluntPlumHam

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:42

Ignore the accusations of bigotry, everyone else is! A thought terminating cliche used to suppress debate at all costs.

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:43

BluntPlumHam · 14/10/2025 21:35

Sigh. Here we go again. Op you’re more likely to be killed by your relative as in brother/husband or son than you are an asylum seeker.

Check the femicide stats from home office.

But so are asylum seeker women.

What about men you don’t know? Can they be grouped in terms of risk, somehow..?

Sweden, anyone?

Reallynotsure25 · 14/10/2025 21:43

With all the stuff we’ve got going on at the moment asylum seekers are the least of our problems. Unfortunately you and many like you are being fed a diet of horror stories about them by individuals, groups and people with a vested interest. Look at your algorithm, question everything you are being fed and switch off every now and then.

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:43

BeNeedyRubyMoose · 14/10/2025 21:42

That was a very quick shutdown @BluntPlumHam

They’ve shut down absolutely nothing.

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:44

Reallynotsure25 · 14/10/2025 21:43

With all the stuff we’ve got going on at the moment asylum seekers are the least of our problems. Unfortunately you and many like you are being fed a diet of horror stories about them by individuals, groups and people with a vested interest. Look at your algorithm, question everything you are being fed and switch off every now and then.

No, they’re really not. The vast majority of the UK’s problems are due to overcrowding, a reliance on benefits and mental health. How does throwing in a few million extras who will need intense support, housing and no doubt carry some kind of trauma help us?

Haveyouanyjam · 14/10/2025 21:45

Almost three women a week are killed in the UK by current or former partners. If everyone put as much effort and energy into addressing domestic abuse as they do complaining about immigration maybe that would change.

Asylum seekers are not the problem.

Male violence is the problem, wherever they are from. White British men are far from immune.

Libertylawn · 14/10/2025 21:46

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:41

I’m really worried too.

This country is completely overcrowded to the degree our wildlife is dying and our flood risk is going up, and we have 1,000 people a day arriving who will no doubt apply to bring family etc

Most from countries where women are inferior - those beliefs don’t magically disappear as they cross the channel

It’s utter madness

What’s madness is the bullshit you’ve chomped. We have a huge massive problem with a DECLINING population and yet the oldest live longest and cost the most! We NEED more young people!

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:46

Haveyouanyjam · 14/10/2025 21:45

Almost three women a week are killed in the UK by current or former partners. If everyone put as much effort and energy into addressing domestic abuse as they do complaining about immigration maybe that would change.

Asylum seekers are not the problem.

Male violence is the problem, wherever they are from. White British men are far from immune.

We can’t deport these men.

Why let in more from even higher risk countries? Madness

CalmShaker · 14/10/2025 21:46

Reallynotsure25 · 14/10/2025 21:43

With all the stuff we’ve got going on at the moment asylum seekers are the least of our problems. Unfortunately you and many like you are being fed a diet of horror stories about them by individuals, groups and people with a vested interest. Look at your algorithm, question everything you are being fed and switch off every now and then.

It was headline news on BBC at 6 (both those articles I referred to).

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Haveyouanyjam · 14/10/2025 21:47

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:46

We can’t deport these men.

Why let in more from even higher risk countries? Madness

We can’t deport British citizens either? We can send them all to prison if they kill someone?

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:47

As usual - the votes support OP, but nobody actually comments because of the ‘bigotry’ accusers

Libertylawn · 14/10/2025 21:47

Haveyouanyjam · 14/10/2025 21:45

Almost three women a week are killed in the UK by current or former partners. If everyone put as much effort and energy into addressing domestic abuse as they do complaining about immigration maybe that would change.

Asylum seekers are not the problem.

Male violence is the problem, wherever they are from. White British men are far from immune.

There isn’t the appetite to address this and the stupid cunts painting roundabouts won’t look close to home at the devastating numbers of women that people just like them, kill daily.

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:47

Haveyouanyjam · 14/10/2025 21:47

We can’t deport British citizens either? We can send them all to prison if they kill someone?

Why let in even more men from even higher risk countries if we can’t deal with our misogyny as it is?

mattbee · 14/10/2025 21:47

Almost all migrants arriving by irregular means make a formal asylum claim. They are in the system. They don't bypass anything.

Are you certain you're not irrationally overestimating the risk of violence from people who don't look like you?

Libertylawn · 14/10/2025 21:48

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:47

As usual - the votes support OP, but nobody actually comments because of the ‘bigotry’ accusers

Er, no. Look again.

Haveyouanyjam · 14/10/2025 21:48

Libertylawn · 14/10/2025 21:47

There isn’t the appetite to address this and the stupid cunts painting roundabouts won’t look close to home at the devastating numbers of women that people just like them, kill daily.

I’d bet a pretty penny that plenty of the patriotic gents painting flags are abusers themselves. Just by statistics alone.

Grindingpoverty · 14/10/2025 21:48

Of course you're right to be worried. People coming via legal routes have background checks for very good reasons. We don't just do them for fun. Alongside the many genuine asylum seekers, there will be plenty of people running away from a criminal record or other problems of that sort.

When you have this volume of people coming with no checks at all, of course it will cause problems. I'm very in favour of helping asylum seekers in principle, but a lot of people seem really naive about the degree of badness in the world and assume that every single one is genuine. To be honest it's a luxury belief many of us can't afford.

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:48

Libertylawn · 14/10/2025 21:47

There isn’t the appetite to address this and the stupid cunts painting roundabouts won’t look close to home at the devastating numbers of women that people just like them, kill daily.

Let’s do a thought experiment.

Is Afghanistan more, or less, misogynistic than the UK?

If it’s not the men just like the ones piling over here who are oppressing them, then who is?

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