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To now be increasingly concerned about illegal boat arrivals

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CalmShaker · 14/10/2025 21:33

I've kept a level head with boat crossing arrivals but recently I've become concerned that there are some really unpleasant people being let in. This story was hard to watch on the news this evening;

Asylum seeker 'murdered hotel worker Rhiannon Whyte in frenzied attack' - BBC News https://share.google/qxzed2MD19TYPKasQ

I welcome genuine asylum but I don't believe that is what is happening anymore.
The story immediately before the above on national news this evening was the migrant who had threatened Nigel Farrage. I know Nigel is not the most popular of people but the migrant was horrid, clearly dangerous and not safe to be on our streets.
Financial cost and all other factors aside, it's the safety aspect that worry me most.

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IdaGlossop · 14/10/2025 22:26

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 22:22

Not our problem.

Wrong. Respect for the rule of law is a British value. Unless we want to become a pariah state, we cannot ride roughshod over the international legal conventions we played a part in creating and opt out of being a country in which people seek asylum.

bunsnroses1 · 14/10/2025 22:26

Eyesopenwideawake · 14/10/2025 22:04

What background checks have been done on the man who lives two roads away from you and who gives you the creeps?

What background checks have been done on the man who drinks too much at lunchtime and pisses in the park bushes?

What background checks have been done on the man who stares at your tits on the bus?

What background checks have been done on you?

I’ll never understand this- the fact that there are plenty of violent, misogynistic British men is not a ‘gotcha’ justification for allowing thousands of undocumented males in to our country.

Blinky21 · 14/10/2025 22:27

I am not concerned by immigration whatsoever other than we treat arrivals humanely, process claims quickly and open up more safe and legal routes.

Leavesfalling · 14/10/2025 22:28

IdaGlossop · 14/10/2025 22:26

Wrong. Respect for the rule of law is a British value. Unless we want to become a pariah state, we cannot ride roughshod over the international legal conventions we played a part in creating and opt out of being a country in which people seek asylum.

Wrong. We won't be a pariah. No one cares. Most countries realise there is a problem and are taking steps. We need to start thinking about the people in our own country rather than virtue signalling to people in the world who don't care about the UK's views anyway.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 14/10/2025 22:28

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lol at your “watching GB news…grubby bigoted racist Tommy R plants trying to shit stir etc etc.”
Whats the matter, your only recourse any more is to try to insult to think that will work to shut people down.
Bless your sweet heart that you can’t see that doesn’t work any more.
How are things in your safe neighbourhood.

EasternStandard · 14/10/2025 22:28

IdaGlossop · 14/10/2025 22:26

Wrong. Respect for the rule of law is a British value. Unless we want to become a pariah state, we cannot ride roughshod over the international legal conventions we played a part in creating and opt out of being a country in which people seek asylum.

It is possible within the convention and without becoming a ‘pariah state’, Australia for example.

Nooshoos123 · 14/10/2025 22:29

Grindingpoverty · 14/10/2025 22:11

Exactly. When Jews were fleeing the Nazis, they went literally anywhere they could get a visa (China, South America, anywhere). Those who couldn't get visas fled to neighbouring countries, sometimes going over the mountains on foot (if they could, most couldn't obviously). As the war spread, they often had to move multiple times, or would be caught in the country they had fled to for safety. I don't understand why we are so accepting of people risking their lives to come to Britain from France. It's as if France was a war-torn hell-hole.

I'm completely in favour of an asylum system that is only accessible from abroad. As a country we need to decide how many people we can rescue and offer asylum to that many. We cannot, unfortunately, rescue the whole world.

That’s the thing, though - Brexit took away processing centres outside of the UK. The only way to apply for asylum now is by physically being on UK soil. Rebuilding relationships with our European neighbours might help. But stirring up racial hatred is serving Farage’s political aims.

PurpleFlower1983 · 14/10/2025 22:29

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:41

I’m really worried too.

This country is completely overcrowded to the degree our wildlife is dying and our flood risk is going up, and we have 1,000 people a day arriving who will no doubt apply to bring family etc

Most from countries where women are inferior - those beliefs don’t magically disappear as they cross the channel

It’s utter madness

It really isn’t massively overcrowded.

ilovesooty · 14/10/2025 22:29

IdaGlossop · 14/10/2025 22:21

The people you nastily and dismissively call 'illegals' are human beings who have risked their lives to come to Europe. They are not coming to the UK illegally as they have the right to claim asylum. That would remain the case even if 100% of them were deported. They are irregular migrants.

I suspect that the most vocal angry people on this thread would be unable to define an asylum seeker, a refugee and an economic migrant.

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 22:30

PurpleFlower1983 · 14/10/2025 22:29

It really isn’t massively overcrowded.

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Why isn’t it? Because you can see a few fields from an aeroplane window?

Echobelly · 14/10/2025 22:30

Thing is, illegal immigrants are people just like anyone else. The vast majority will be good people. Some of them will be bad people. We can't tell which people born here will be rapists or murderers or thieves, but for some reason I suppose people find it worse that someone came here and then we find out they were bad news.

I think by all means the government should invest in ways to investigate people's backgrounds so you can swiftly deport known wrong 'uns, but don't cut off asylum to everyone 'just in case'.

MrsZiggywinkle · 14/10/2025 22:30

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:47

Why let in even more men from even higher risk countries if we can’t deal with our misogyny as it is?

Yep, couldn’t agree more.

It’s very easy for people to say the influx is harmless when they have no dealings with these people but when they are circulating in your neighbourhood or town it’s a different matter. I was in a supermarket in the dodgy part of town earlier and saw some pretty interesting and rather rude behaviour. I particularly worry about vulnerable and elderly people with more and more unsavoury types knocking about.

Made a decision that I won’t be going back to that particular supermarket.

Prodosaur · 14/10/2025 22:30

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 22:02

Obviously you’re right but they don’t care. They’re in leafy areas with safe children.

It won’t always be that way.

Whoever they are and wherever they live, they’re in for a shock. Many young people are turning to Reform, maybe some because of social media but others based on their day to day experience. It’s a mistake to label some people’s genuine and founded concerns as bigotry.

Leavesfalling · 14/10/2025 22:31

ilovesooty · 14/10/2025 22:29

I suspect that the most vocal angry people on this thread would be unable to define an asylum seeker, a refugee and an economic migrant.

Don't be smug. People can see what is happening in their own neighbourhoods by using their own eyes.

BluntPlumHam · 14/10/2025 22:31

Fionaville · 14/10/2025 22:01

We're in a small northern town. A few years ago my kids could happily play in the park with no problems. Now there are usually groups of men hanging round the park, watching them. Some of these men are taking photos of the kids and I've had to challenge them. So now I can't let my tween daughter go the park with her friends, without me there. I don't take much notice of what's on the news or stories on social media. I care about what's happening on my own doorstep. I'm sick of people trying to tell us that these concerns are wrong!

I don’t think your concerns are invalid at all. A lot of us believe in migration control and border control. There should also be quicker channels to report individuals who pose risk in the way you’re describing providing they’re convicted of a crime.

What I don’t support is hijacking of the issue and scapegoating by bigots/far right/ Tiny Tommy followers who make it a very unsafe climate for anyone who isn’t white. That’s the reality on the ground from rhetoric like OP is pushing at us. It’s breeding and inciting hate. Causing division in our communities. It’s a level of fear mongering seen throughout history by jingoistic people and when you recognise it it’s your duty to call it out.

UnlimitedBacon · 14/10/2025 22:32

I’m so sick of people shouting ‘bigot’ the minute someone expresses concern about something that’s become a significant issue.

The asylum system is broken. More people are travelling by boat to the UK than ever before. Mainly men. Asylum seekers are not some saintly mass and this idea that ALL asylum seekers will be good kind people is bullshit. Bad people lurk everywhere. As in society, there will be bad faith players who will attempt to play the system. Some will be downright dangerous. The asylum system cannot cope, so people who should be ‘processed’ in weeks, are taking years. They melt into society and go under the radar because the asylum system is a completely ineffective machine. People seeking asylum cannot be expected to survive on the limited means that they are currently given, but the current process means that asylum seekers are easily lost, and are not effectively tracked. The gig economy doesn’t help. It’s perfectly valid to say ‘I’m worried about this’ and hope for a decent conversation rather than someone sneeringly belittling you. In recent times, there’s been a significant uptick in assaults on women from men of ‘no fixed abode’ in my locale. It didn’t used to be like that. It’s not wrong to question why that is.

Leavesfalling · 14/10/2025 22:32

PurpleFlower1983 · 14/10/2025 22:29

It really isn’t massively overcrowded.

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Of course it is. Honestly do you ever go anywhere?

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 22:33

BluntPlumHam · 14/10/2025 22:31

I don’t think your concerns are invalid at all. A lot of us believe in migration control and border control. There should also be quicker channels to report individuals who pose risk in the way you’re describing providing they’re convicted of a crime.

What I don’t support is hijacking of the issue and scapegoating by bigots/far right/ Tiny Tommy followers who make it a very unsafe climate for anyone who isn’t white. That’s the reality on the ground from rhetoric like OP is pushing at us. It’s breeding and inciting hate. Causing division in our communities. It’s a level of fear mongering seen throughout history by jingoistic people and when you recognise it it’s your duty to call it out.

The only person who has mentioned Tommy Robinson is PP who accused other posters of being a fan of him.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 14/10/2025 22:33

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 21:48

Let’s do a thought experiment.

Is Afghanistan more, or less, misogynistic than the UK?

If it’s not the men just like the ones piling over here who are oppressing them, then who is?

Not a thought experiment at all.

A dog-whistle political statement. The only thought going on when you wrote that was to create dissent.

charliehungerford · 14/10/2025 22:33

Libertylawn · 14/10/2025 21:46

What’s madness is the bullshit you’ve chomped. We have a huge massive problem with a DECLINING population and yet the oldest live longest and cost the most! We NEED more young people!

Yes, we need more young people, but wouldn’t it be more sensible and sustainable to encourage and support our indigenous population to have more children, by helping them to secure homes and support childcare, rather than bringing people here from overseas, many of which do not share our culture or have a desire to integrate. You can’t deny that there are some very undesirable people entering unchecked into our country. We have no idea who they are. Where is the benefit to the UK ?

LadyHexham · 14/10/2025 22:34

People fleeing persecution are welcome.

People paying smugglers to get them into the country because they think they will have a better life are not welcome.

People waiting for their cases to be decided, and break the law, should be deported.

Leavesfalling · 14/10/2025 22:34

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 22:33

The only person who has mentioned Tommy Robinson is PP who accused other posters of being a fan of him.

Lumping people in the same box and accusing them of the same views. Terribly bigoted behaviour I'd say.

anniegun · 14/10/2025 22:35

The biggest risk to women comes from the men closest to them. The ones painting roundabouts and threatening refugees in hotels are more likely to kill you than most

Bigpinksweater · 14/10/2025 22:35

LadyHexham · 14/10/2025 22:34

People fleeing persecution are welcome.

People paying smugglers to get them into the country because they think they will have a better life are not welcome.

People waiting for their cases to be decided, and break the law, should be deported.

There are hundreds of millions of people fleeing persecution, it’s very sad but are they ‘all welcome’?

Leavesfalling · 14/10/2025 22:36

Slightyamusedandsilly · 14/10/2025 22:33

Not a thought experiment at all.

A dog-whistle political statement. The only thought going on when you wrote that was to create dissent.

"Create dissent" 🤣. You are on mumsnet?? What do you think is going to happen?

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