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Whos in the wrong? me or him..... hes blocked me on everything

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courtneyk92 · 05/08/2025 17:15

Been seeing some guy for a few months, almost love at first sight, he seemed obsessive over me, we've known each other 3 Years, and I finally gave him a chance a few months ago, but he seemed a little jealous and possessive, so to see how he'd react a few days ago he tried to put me down, and I said "a lot of guys like me, I like me as I am" and he went so angry and kept saying "so you admit a lot of guys like you, I knew that I always said that" I do get a lot of attention, I am 32 and he is 45 so hes insecure, but he seemed to love me and talk about how he sees no one but me... after I said the a lot of guys like me comment, he went on to an old friend of mines instagram and liked her photos lol. and he knew this friend was so bad to me, and how much we argue, shes my enemy, I told him how she reported me for fraud which was cleared and makes up stuff about me, ect and he liked her photos lol. he wouldn't say sorry, until I begged him and he said he liked her photos because he likes everyones photos, then he said because he was jealous of me. the moment I saw he liked her photos I felt like I was choking, like I couldn't breathe I felt so betrayed. he said "I love you and you. hurt me and always put me down, thats why I did it only now will you learn to respect a man who wants you to do well" I rang him crying screaming and he said I'm wrong I love you just relax please. love you I love you but I ignored him for days and he kept texting, good morning my love, I am sorry I dont want to lose you sorry for everything that happened, and I started and sent him messages saying how immature and tacky he looked and to not play with me or my father will beat him up and he blocked me on everything, I mean whatsapp, Facebook, instagram, TikTok everything.. after crying I was so upset I was blocked, I made an account pleading saying im sorry I wont bring up him liking my friends photos again and I love him im so sorry and he blocked me again, im so hurt like my heart is shattered he promised me the world and said I was the best woman he met and he wanted to marry me and have children,. im so hurt about being blocked :'( sorry for ranting just wondering what to do?

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courtneyk92 · 05/08/2025 17:16

courtneyk92 · 05/08/2025 17:15

Been seeing some guy for a few months, almost love at first sight, he seemed obsessive over me, we've known each other 3 Years, and I finally gave him a chance a few months ago, but he seemed a little jealous and possessive, so to see how he'd react a few days ago he tried to put me down, and I said "a lot of guys like me, I like me as I am" and he went so angry and kept saying "so you admit a lot of guys like you, I knew that I always said that" I do get a lot of attention, I am 32 and he is 45 so hes insecure, but he seemed to love me and talk about how he sees no one but me... after I said the a lot of guys like me comment, he went on to an old friend of mines instagram and liked her photos lol. and he knew this friend was so bad to me, and how much we argue, shes my enemy, I told him how she reported me for fraud which was cleared and makes up stuff about me, ect and he liked her photos lol. he wouldn't say sorry, until I begged him and he said he liked her photos because he likes everyones photos, then he said because he was jealous of me. the moment I saw he liked her photos I felt like I was choking, like I couldn't breathe I felt so betrayed. he said "I love you and you. hurt me and always put me down, thats why I did it only now will you learn to respect a man who wants you to do well" I rang him crying screaming and he said I'm wrong I love you just relax please. love you I love you but I ignored him for days and he kept texting, good morning my love, I am sorry I dont want to lose you sorry for everything that happened, and I started and sent him messages saying how immature and tacky he looked and to not play with me or my father will beat him up and he blocked me on everything, I mean whatsapp, Facebook, instagram, TikTok everything.. after crying I was so upset I was blocked, I made an account pleading saying im sorry I wont bring up him liking my friends photos again and I love him im so sorry and he blocked me again, im so hurt like my heart is shattered he promised me the world and said I was the best woman he met and he wanted to marry me and have children,. im so hurt about being blocked :'( sorry for ranting just wondering what to do?

I told him if he wants a wife and children in the future to not like his partners pictures., im so hurt.

OP posts:
Lovelynames123 · 05/08/2025 17:17

Wtf, you sound like teenagers. Grow up, but to be honest you don't sound suited at all, who could be bothered with the tit for tat

BallerinaRadio · 05/08/2025 17:17

Are you sure you're 32 and 45 this reads like a couple of teenagers in their first relationship

Silvertulips · 05/08/2025 17:17

Use full stops?

FionnulaTheCooler · 05/08/2025 17:17

You both sound awful. Stay single and work on your issues before you get into another relationship.

lazyarse123 · 05/08/2025 17:17

Grow up would be a start.

Sobblimminwindy · 05/08/2025 17:19

Your father will beat him up?!! 😂

Seawolves · 05/08/2025 17:19

You both need to step away from each other.

Judiezones · 05/08/2025 17:19

The most important point is, is your dad bigger than his dad? Can your dad batter his dad?

SharpWriter · 05/08/2025 17:20

You told him not to play with you or your father will beat him up? Are you 5?

AgnesX · 05/08/2025 17:20

Get a grip and act your age. The school holidays I assume 🙄

Anonomoso · 05/08/2025 17:20

Red flags coming from the pair of you.

CalicoPusscat · 05/08/2025 17:21

This is not going to work, all this hysteria

flumposie · 05/08/2025 17:22

Immature

Azandme · 05/08/2025 17:22

Well this is an immature, toxic, shitstorm all round.

You're adults. How on earth can you be arsed with such petty, juvenile, bullshit?

BeeCucumber · 05/08/2025 17:23

Goodness - so much drama! What does your Mum think of all of this?

glassof · 05/08/2025 17:23

Yeah, sure.

UpMyself · 05/08/2025 17:23

Block him and move on.

Quoting an OP is not good, but quoting your own OP before you get any replies is something else.

StrawberryWater · 05/08/2025 17:24

Dear god. Break up. Neither of you are mature enough for a relationship.

DoYouReally · 05/08/2025 17:25

I would have bet every single thing I had on the fact that your respectively ages combined wouldn't add up to 32.

You both have serious immaturity and emotional regulation problems.

"My father will beat him up".....on what planet do you consider this in any way normal?

Windyhere · 05/08/2025 17:25

Did you mean that about your dad?

OlympicProcrastinator · 05/08/2025 17:25

This is really really embarrassing and cringe. For you both. Are you sure there shouldn’t be a decimal point between the numbers in your ages?

miraxxx · 05/08/2025 17:25

I so hope that this is some bored kid trolling MN. Scary to think that it could be real adults.

FatLarrysBanned · 05/08/2025 17:26

"to not play with me or my father will beat him up". As an adult woman did you seriously say this to him? I'm embarrrased for you.

Have a think about how real grown ups act in emotionally stable and mutually respectful relationships and whether this threat would be appropriate.

You sound like either (a) you both deserve each other with your petty squabbling or (b) you've both had a lucky escape.