To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

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I know men strongly prefer larger breasts, that's what 99% look at, and want, even when the rest of a woman's figure is just straight up and down as long as she has big boobs it's hot/amazing etc to them.

I know I could get laid (men will sleep with anything that isn't Quasimodo), but I don't want to be settled for, a body just to use but that they aren't really turned on by.

So I just don't feel like sex, never in the mood, I don't want to be dating where a man is just eyeing up other bustier women all the time and feeling unsatisfied/wishing there were two balloons up top in bed.

Why 8 years? But honestly it’s fine not to have sex if you don’t want to, nobody cares if another person is having sex or not. Why would it be unreasonable?

Absolutely fine to not want sex but plenty of people find smaller boobs attractive.

Loads of men love a small boob.

Which straight men though? Most of them just seem to go on and on about massive ones all the time.

Erm not all men prefer bigger breasts and men don't just find breasts attractive and don't just focus on breasts when it comes to sex. This is a really bizarre belief on your part.

It just so happens that it's been 8 years to date, I didn't plan it 😅I only posted on AIBU for traffic.

I think the 'unreasonable' part, if you could call it that, was the reason for not wanting sex, because I feel so uncomfortable, unsexy, unwomanly in my body.

Do you just talk to 19 year olds about this?
My DH prefers smaller boobs and he definitely isn't saying this to make me feel secure as I have other features that he prefers differently to mine as we discuss other people and our preferences from time to time.

Don't be ridiculous. Any man worth a relationship will be having sex with a person they care deeply about, not a pair of tits.
I have loved and had sex with my DH fatter and thinner. I am 55 years old and weigh over 15 stone and when he looks at me he still sees the 20 year old I was. He calls me his beautiful girl. Objectively, I am far from it. He likes breasts but if I had to have a mastectomy he would continue to love me, because I am substantially more than my boobs, and so are you.

I know men don't only find (mainly large) breasts attractive, but it does seem to be quite a big part of it for them. Just the impression I get...

This is like saying “all women like muscly men” or “all women like men over 6ft”. You MUST know that it just isn’t true?! Surely?

OP, how old are you? Any man worth his time, doesn't give a sod. Seriously.

Imagine a man saying he won’t have sex because he’s got a six inch willy and believes that women only like 10 inch ones so he doesn’t want to have sex or date a woman because she’ll be eyeing up men with bigger willies!

Absolutely ridiculous!

Not my experience? I bf for years so my boobs were completely off bounds and my ex didn’t care, most men I met were “ass men” anyway!

I never talk to 19 year olds 😅I don't speak to many men in real life about this, why would they be honest anyway? It'd also be really out of place and not appropriate for most of the men I know.

If you 100% know that your DH likes smaller breasts then good for you 😁

I’m an A cup and my boobs are gorgeous, even if I do say so myself. 🤣

I’m 53 and my small boobs are still pert, plump…,sorry too much of an overshare there! X

You said that most of them go on and on about big breasts. But if you haven't talked to them then how are they going on and on? Most of the men that I know I have no idea what they prefer because it's not something that we discuss.

My boobs are barely existent, in all honesty I couldn’t care what a man thinks of them! I still have sex& not once has anyone complained they’re too small…. Well not to my face anyway 😂

Oh, of course women (any person) is not just a lump of flesh. That isn't what I meant. I'm not talking about my value as a human being. I'm just talking about being sexy/satisfying to a man.

Do you not worry that they were secretly disappointed? I wouldn't like having sex with a man who wasn't 100% into me.

If you don’t want to have sex then fair enough, that’s your choice and no one will question it but you’re just deciding it’s because all men like larger breasts.

I don’t even have pancakes, I have nothing, I’ve always longed for bigger boobs but being in my thirties, I just can’t see it happening now 😂 However, no man has ever said to me that they wish I had bigger boobs. They might have lied to my face but it’s not stopped sex, it’s not put them off, infact most of the men I’ve spoken to have said they prefer the behind than bigger boobs!

Also, I’ve found loads of sexy lingerie which suits smaller breasts perfectly for when I used to feel self conscious about them but I don’t now.

In my experience most men prefer a nice ass over boobs.

There is a thread on the sex board you may want to read - you and the OP sound very similar and you may find it helpful.

Think this is a you problem not a man problem.

You feel self conscious about your boobs and you're projecting this insecurity onto people with no basis in fact.

Lots of men like small boobs, lots of men don't care what size they are, lots of men care more about the woman they are attached to than how they look.

Some men do like large boobs, true. But it's not all of them and it's not like the size of boobs isn't immediately obvious when you meet somebody.

Mine are a D cup, breastfed for three years and I’m 43. Somehow…they’re still standing 😂

Men don't talk about these things in front of women (well not most of them anyway). I think culture and porn over the past 50 years or so (Playboy, Page 3, Lads' Mags, nowadays online porn) has kind of shown that big breasts are preferred...I'm assuming here.

Same here - most men I know it's not something we'd ever discuss.