To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

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I know men strongly prefer larger breasts, that's what 99% look at, and want, even when the rest of a woman's figure is just straight up and down as long as she has big boobs it's hot/amazing etc to them.

I know I could get laid (men will sleep with anything that isn't Quasimodo), but I don't want to be settled for, a body just to use but that they aren't really turned on by.

So I just don't feel like sex, never in the mood, I don't want to be dating where a man is just eyeing up other bustier women all the time and feeling unsatisfied/wishing there were two balloons up top in bed.

What a bizzare post.

Men look at faces and would much rather sleep with an attractive women with small breasts than an unattractive woman with large breasts without a shadow of a doubt.

It’s like posting saying women only like a 6 pack. That’s absolutely nonsense. As long as I fancy his face then I’m hooked as are all of my friends. I literally couldn’t give a shit about a 6 pack.

I completely get what you're saying, but men seem to care less about being seen as sexy by women. Women want to be desirable and feel desirable and I think that is ok.

But if you are not having sex because you honestly believe that your boobs are small and therefore no man will want you really, then you are indeed saying that women's role is to be a lump of flesh, and that all men are shallow.

Which is a depressing thought pattern.
It's like the "all women want the alpha male" crap. Just look around at all the people with different body shapes who have a partner. Plenty of very slender women have husbands. Is every husband lying about finding their slender wife attractive?

Obviously not all I said most. Whenever we say 'all' it's never right.

Join a dance class. That might help you feel sexier/ more’in’ your body

I can name five of my male friends who prefer smaller breasts

I actually agree with you here, on a personal level as we’re all different.

I feel much sexier now with larger breasts than when they were B cup size in my early 20s.

You're obviously either meeting the wrong type of men or are getting your ideas about what men like from the wrong sources. Lots of men aren't bothered whether a woman has large breasts or not, to a decent man a woman isn't reduced to literally a pair of tits alone.

I come from a family of very small-breasted women for generations, my mother, my daughter, my sisters and I all have small busts, the one with the largest is only an A cup. However we are all attractive, intelligent and interesting women and have never had a problem with men being attracted to us, want to have sex with us, fall in love with us, want to marry us and have children with us.

You're fixating on your breasts completely unnecessarily.

Did the men you slept with give any indication they weren't happy with your chest ever?

It's not the size. It's the size in proportion to the hips. If anything. This is a crazy conversation.

I'm 30. I should maybe have been more specific in my post. I'm not talking about men who only value women as a sum of body parts, absolutely not. I'm just talking about being physically sexy and appealing to men; men want to sleep with women they find beautiful and women want to be desirable.

Can I ask what age you’re dealing with here?

Any man who is really into you won’t give two hoots about the size of your boobs. He’ll love them because they’re yours.

No it's not, I'm posting it here because it's too embarassing to share with anyone in real life.

What other bizarre beliefs do you have OP?

I meant I want a man to find me fully attractive from the start, not 'learn to love' or 'see past flaws' because of a nice personality over time...

It is a crazy conversation 😂 Not all men like the same thing! Any boobs go I reckon, they're just grateful to see them mostly. Mine are small and I've had no complaints haha. Lots of sex had, now married. It's just never really crossed my mind to be self conscious about my boobs and I'm not a hugely self confident person

Absolutely none! I have never slept with man who has had any issue with it. I used to joke about my non existent boobs but most men would tell me they preferred that.

Recently whilst out with friends we all got talking about our post kids bodies and I brought up my lack of boobs, to which my friend’s husband said I was talking rubbish as I was hot. (Friend had no issue with this)

I think this is you feeling insecure about your body and projecting it onto others. I understand it, I used to hate my body but I’ve learned to love what I’ve got and it has never been an issue with men. They like the confidence you have in yourself!

There are definitely men out there that aren't fixated on big breasts. DH has loved me (and my boobs) throughout many different sizes! You'll find a decent man OP that sees you as far more than a pair of tits

You can have an ugly face with big boobs or smell boobs and be gorgeous….

Most men would chose the gorgeous face! Your fixation on big boobs appears to be warped.

My husband has not learned to love my boobs because they're small! The cheek of it 😂

I hope so, I think most want both though? 😔

Ya think?! 😁

I would agree but I think lots of men don't care about proportion at all, they just seem to think that a straight body (little to no hips) but big to huge breasts is 'hot', 'wow', etc. Obviously I'm not saying all men, but I'd guess the large majority.

Have you posted about this before?

I remember a very similar thread a few months ago where the 30 year old OP was absolutely adamant that all men only feel attracted to women with large breasts, if they were in a relationship with a small-breasted woman they'd had to settle, and if they said they liked smaller breasts they were lying. Many posters suggested the OP should get therapy because despite hundreds of posters telling her her beliefs were mistaken, she would not accept it.

Was that you OP?