To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

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I know men strongly prefer larger breasts, that's what 99% look at, and want, even when the rest of a woman's figure is just straight up and down as long as she has big boobs it's hot/amazing etc to them.

I know I could get laid (men will sleep with anything that isn't Quasimodo), but I don't want to be settled for, a body just to use but that they aren't really turned on by.

So I just don't feel like sex, never in the mood, I don't want to be dating where a man is just eyeing up other bustier women all the time and feeling unsatisfied/wishing there were two balloons up top in bed.

It really is the school holidays.....

You need more help then you're going to get on here, you need counselling love.

Ah, the thread is back.
OP, small breasts are really attractive and despite top heavy glamour models, most men prefer the natural look.
My niece is nearly flat chested. She is very confident and looks great.

My mam always had double a's and had the same mindset as you. Asked for a boob job for christmas one year.... since then ive learned its been rather the relationship killer. I also prefer a small boobed lady. Anything bigger than a handful is a waste..

Of course not all men want women with big ones!

I'm a B cup and all previous partners have been delighted with them.

I'm quite petite person so anything larger wouldn't look right.

This is about you and your limiting beliefs, not men.

If we are going on physical appearance only.

My experience is that men who have been attracted to me over the years aren’t interested in large breasts but are more in to bottoms.

I have small breasts. No one has ever mentioned them at all, ever. I think the men who like big boobs wouldn’t approach me as I am not their type.

Men have often mentioned my bottom. Men I’ve dated and random men (not in a creepy way) and my husband.

I’m so sorry that you’ve fixated on this… it sounds like your self-esteem is the reason you’ve closed yourself off to sex/men….
Please get some counselling and work on building yourself up, you deserve to be loved xx

(And it’s absolute nonsense what you believe, I’ve heard a straight man describe large breasts “like udders” and many prefer small ones. But most go for PERSONALITY, and please know it is hard to love someone who doesn’t love herself)

I wish I had small breasts and I know that there would be enough men who would find me attractive. Even if they like big breasts, one single thing isn’t what makes a relationship even if it was the first thing they look at.
Ultimately it’s personality that is important and often your natural odour.
I know women who have had a boob job to please their men but I absolutely thinks the men are vile and women controlled or stupid to undergo surgery for that reason.

I have tiny boobs. A cup bra. I have a great sex life and it’s never bothered me, but if it did I would have been reassured by several lovers who have specifically told me that they prefer small boobs and love mine. Some men really do prefer smaller ones.

You are being silly OP. I had very small boobs in my 20s. My boyfriend of 4 years couldn’t get enough of me!!

I have bigger boobs now (I’m bigger all over due to weight gain, and breastfeeding increased my boob size) and nothing has changed, I don’t get treated ‘better’ or fancied more or whatever you think

Men will sleep with ANYTHING.

I'm super hot but totally flat cheated. I'm thin. Boney even.

Men love it lol, some women too. They don't care about flat chests. You just needed to stop dating dickheads who make you feel less by oggling other women. Date somebody who is obsessed with you. Don't settle for anything less.

I think you need to do some work on your self esteem tbh op, loads of women have smaller breasts and are found very attractive by men. Attraction is subjective and I think you're operating off quite outdated myths and stereotypes and no wonder that's affecting your self confidence. It's worrying to me that this is enough to put you off having an intimate relationship. Obviously noone should feel obligated to have sex if they don't want to. But it sounds like this is holding you back to an extreme extent and that's a shame because I bet there's loads of great things about you that men would see and find really attractive so it's sad to me, that you're essentially reducing your worth to your cup size. Any man worth having sex with isn't going to care about that and will be counting himself lucky to get the privilege of being intimate with you. But you need to realise that it's a privilege in the first place.

No you’re not. I like a man with a six pack, every picture I can find of a typically attractive man has a six pack and all the women I speak to like a six pack. So it’s not possible that you’re not bothered about a six pack as nearly every single woman cares about six packs and has to look past a bit of a belly on a man to find him attractive.

Do you now realise how stupid your rationale sounds? Because that’s obviously a ridiculous logic.

Also you have reasonable sized boobs and so I think you might have some sort of body dysmorphia.

I think you need therapy.

All men are different and have different tastes, just like women do. My oh like chubbier women with dark hair, some men like petite blondes, some like big boobs, some like small, some like feet. It's very diverse!!! Not all men like bigger boobs ..

I remember people aspiring to that slim body with small bum and big boobs in the 90s. Nowadays it all seems to be about the bum and hips, and nobody cares about boobs! It’s sad and ridiculous how we women are pressured by fashions into fitting in to a ‘desirable’ shape, when there is little that we can do to change our individual natural shape.
I strongly believe that sexiness comes from confidence. I once had a friend with tiny boobs who was so popular with guys - she had a real confidence in herself that made her super attractive.
Have you got other parts of your body that you feel happier with, OP? Maybe accentuate those. But also I think you could make the most of your small chest and wear those little tops that many women feel too top-heavy for! Up to you of course, and you should wear what you’re comfy in, but I truly believe you can be really attractive especially if you work on your confidence and spark.
it sounds like you’re worried that men would disappointed… but surely if you wear tightish fitted tops then they’ll ‘know’ what to expect - so they’re not going to be disappointed.
I really hope that you can learn to love or at least accept your shape and find your confidence.

why do you think you know what men prefer if you don't speak to them ? Honestly I don't think.i have ever heard men going on about big boobs. I think you have got an erroneous idea in your head and you are obsessing about it. You might need some therapy to.help unravel this and help you to love yourself more .

there's more to a women then her boobs ! Sure some men like big ones, but not every man does. Boob size doesn't define your worth.
what about what you like in a man?

We always want what we can't have. I currently have massive (H cup) boobs, and feel deeply unsexy sometimes because gravity is doing it's job with them. I can't go out without a bra and finding underwear that isn't frumpy is a mission! I spent many a time when I was a teenager looking at the girls with perky boobs jealously.

Anyway the number one thing people are attracted to is confidence. I'm sure of it. You can have whatever body type you have and if you are confident, people will gravitate to you. A good friend of mine is gorgeous, but she won't mind me saying also very, very large with no chest. She has to bat them away! Always seeing some brand new fella, who are most often very fit and athletic! One of my best encounters was with a bloke whose 'member' was the size of a thumb. He was a few inches shorter than me too. But he carried himself with such confidence that I couldn't resist.

Long story short, men (and some of us women!) like boobs. End of. I hope you find some confidence in yourself.

In my experience there’s a split between boob men and ass men. Pre children I had A cups and still managed to attract men. I did get some fucking rouge comments when I was working on a bar such as “you’re flat but still sexy” and “I actually love small boobs”. Now they’re bigger I get the same amount of male attention, but less comments on my boobs which is weird.

In their caveman brain they’re looking at hip to waits ratio and proportions. Indicators of fertility. While big boobs are one indicator, there’s lots of others. Trust me, there’s men attracted to literally everything. Feet, hair, hands, legs, there are men who are attracted to literally shit and piss - so don’t get too hung up on what men like.

One I knew said ’more than a mouthful’

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This is very true about faces vs boobs

I'd stay celibate OP , you're not worthy of having a make shaggy you if you have small boobs.
I don't know why that's what you want to hear, but I'll humour you.