To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

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I know men strongly prefer larger breasts, that's what 99% look at, and want, even when the rest of a woman's figure is just straight up and down as long as she has big boobs it's hot/amazing etc to them.

I know I could get laid (men will sleep with anything that isn't Quasimodo), but I don't want to be settled for, a body just to use but that they aren't really turned on by.

So I just don't feel like sex, never in the mood, I don't want to be dating where a man is just eyeing up other bustier women all the time and feeling unsatisfied/wishing there were two balloons up top in bed.

I thought it seemed familiar and weird

Kindly OP, this is so far from the truth. I have small boobs, used to be self conscious of them when I was a teen but I love them now. I’ve had loads of compliments from men. I remember expressing insecurity in front of a guy when I was much younger about my small boobs and his reply was ‘anything more than a handful is a waste’. Even now, my husband loves them but he’d absolutely always choose bum over boobs! I find it really sad that you’ve convinced yourself they’re this massive deal, they’re really not.

I feel like a mug for replying now!!

I am the same re six packs. I like a man with broad shoulders but that's got nothing to do with a six pack.

Why? This is a real post. It's something I've felt uncomfortable with and hated (my breasts) for years.

I don't think men prefer large breasts, I find small breasts look great in a blouse.
Who knows, I'm not a man.

No, I'm afraid this is a real post. I feel insecure about a part of my body and it's put me off sex for years. Why should that be a wind up? I wish it was.

I just want a man to find me attractive and desirable. I didn't say that appearances are the only thing that matter.

How strange that you don't take this great lesson to your own thinking about men...

It's quite obvious you don't speak to many men in RL...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with small breasts . I prefer them to these massive things that a lot of women have surgery for.
I was with a lady many years ago that refused to take her top off because she only had small boobs .
You are what you are , be proud of what you have .
Big boobs only gives you bad backs and sweat rashes.

So your husband has never really liked your boobs then. So why didn't he choose a bustier woman if he wanted to be with a woman he genuinely found sexy? This is absolutely what I don't want to happen to me.

As someone with a large matronly bust, trust me, you do not want the kind of Neanderthal pervs that slather over that. Most of the lovely men I’ve met in my life were indifferent to the actual size and smaller boobs give your clothes a much more flattering drape.

Please, please try and get over this warped sexist mindset that you’re too imperfect to please men. Flip the thinking that men should be out of their mind with gratitude to have someone as awesome as you in their company.

I sometimes felt my small breasts were inadequate and even expressed this feeling to my husband once . He responded with "Any more than a mouth full is a waste". We were married for 49 years before he passed away. I hope this post isn't offensive. I just wanted to point out that it takes more than big boobs to keep a man interested!

I don't think she was saying that her husband doesn't love her boobs. I think she was saying he hasn't had to learn to love them; he loved them from the beginning.

I meant my husband did not need to 'learn to love them', he just did. So I've been spared the dreadful fate you so fear 🙄

In my experience, men like boobs, legs and bums - but don't necessarily care about the size of any. I've got E cups and, quite frankly, could happily do without them - they're heavy, aren't especially perky these days and I find it tricky to look elegant. You'll likely still be perky for many years to come and have so many fabulous clothing options that don't make you look matronly or OTT cleavagy. Try to embrace your body as it is - there are lots of men out there that either prefer smaller breasts or simply don't mind the size. One of my friends has A cups and is absolutely stunning - she's got an endless array of admirers.

She meant that her husband loves her boobs and it has nothing to do with the size of them. It’s not that he’s had to learn to love them because they are small, it’s that he loves them because they are hers doesn’t care about the size 😂

Men these days seem to be more interested in arses. I was a 32A most of my life. After babies and being overweight I had empty tits. Got breast enhancement. Then my husband left me.

Men these days seem to be more interested in arses. I was a 32A most of my life. After babies and being overweight I had empty tits. Got breast enhancement. Then my husband left me.

One man I knew once said that anything more than a handful is a waste.