To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

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I know men strongly prefer larger breasts, that's what 99% look at, and want, even when the rest of a woman's figure is just straight up and down as long as she has big boobs it's hot/amazing etc to them.

I know I could get laid (men will sleep with anything that isn't Quasimodo), but I don't want to be settled for, a body just to use but that they aren't really turned on by.

So I just don't feel like sex, never in the mood, I don't want to be dating where a man is just eyeing up other bustier women all the time and feeling unsatisfied/wishing there were two balloons up top in bed.

I know I have very strong, long held (I've felt this way since I was a teenager) beliefs about my body. I do post on here for different perspectives and I actually would like to believe them, it's just difficult for me to do so.

I do appreciate people who have taken the effort to type long replies.

Duck lips are horrible. I don't know much about lip fillers as I don't want them. I imagine there are more subtle, well done lip fillers, like the ones some celebrities get.

Same with boob jobs. There is some well done plastic surgery, it can be natural looking. Not all boob jobs look like Pamela Anderson in the early 90s, or worse Katie Price. Have you never seen those 'did she or didn't she?', type of boob jobs? Like celebrities who may or may not have had an enhancement, and people aren't quite sure, because it's well done?

You have posted about this several times

So confused about why my post was deleted. Don't believe I was unkind and I don't think OP is a troll, just deeply unhappy.

I used to feel like you but my husband (very happily married for ten years with two children and together for fourteen with frequent sexy times) loves small boobs! I’ve been a social media stalker and can happily confirm all his exes also had small boobs! 🤣

He was a reasonably successful model (humble brag about my hot husband) when younger so more than had his pick of all body types of women, there was no instance of “settling” for small boobs and wishing they were large. Everyone likes what they like and it’s not our job to tell other people what they “must” fancy. Oh, and the hip waist ratio thing doesn’t worry me either, I’m a happy ruler shape :) Hope one day you find someone who can teach you that you’re wrong :) we go through so many body changes throughout our lives as women, a good and real man will fancy the pants off of you at every stage x

It’s really not.It’s lots of cases, smaller boobs mean a slimmer figure

I know it's difficult lovey. I'm not blaming you at all. xx

Somebody must have complained. They can delete pretty much anything if they get a complaint about it. You could contact MN to appeal it.

How old are you, OP? I haven’t read the full thread so apologies if you have said already. I have VERY small boobs and it occasionally worried me as a teenager and young woman, particularly as this was the days of Baywatch nonsense, and I have a big bum and hefty thighs - so it’s not like I’m a tiny skinny waif 😂

However, this never stopped me having boyfriends who always loved my body. I once mentioned my insecurity to one of them who took my hand and put it on his chest and then placed my hand back on one of my own boobs. His point - ‘see how different this feels?! whatever the size - we love the breasts of the woman’s they are attached to!’

Over the years my confidence increased and I love the ease to which I can wear bikinis and strappy dresses. Apologies to all the busty posters but I also think it’s easier to appear slimmer with a small chest - my friends who are larger tend to bemoan their boobs, particularly as they get older and things go south a bit.

I am also grateful I could breastfeed my two DC, and now, having had friends go through breast cancer, I’m just happy to be healthy and give no thought to my lack of cleavage! Just enjoy your life and unique body and stop thinking that you are less attractive because of this - you are not x

@lovehoneybees Thanks for your post ❤And I'm 30. I've felt this way since I was 14/15, when other girls in school, who were also slim, developed decent sized breasts. Although I'm sure there were lots of push-up bras involved too!

I was a teenager in the 2010's, so the ruler-with-tits sort of body shape was popular then too, there were still Lads' Mags. I just felt so ashamed on my own boobs....Like you, I'm also a pear shape, but a skinny version, I'm 5f3 with a small frame, and in tight dresses you can see I'm all bottom/hip and little bust! Some of my cousins are like you, small breasts and big hips/bum, but they actually love their bums....although I can't say they have no insecurities.

I'm glad your past boyfriends made you feel confident in your body. I'm still at a stage where I wouldn't believe any man who said he liked my breasts as is. I feel terrible when I'm out and about and see women, similar size to me, with big boobs. It just makes me feel so unattractive and I hate this.

I hope to somehow get past this one day, but it won't happen overnight. I try to remind myself of all the famous women with small breasts who are dating/married to rich, gorgeous men. x