To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

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I know men strongly prefer larger breasts, that's what 99% look at, and want, even when the rest of a woman's figure is just straight up and down as long as she has big boobs it's hot/amazing etc to them.

I know I could get laid (men will sleep with anything that isn't Quasimodo), but I don't want to be settled for, a body just to use but that they aren't really turned on by.

So I just don't feel like sex, never in the mood, I don't want to be dating where a man is just eyeing up other bustier women all the time and feeling unsatisfied/wishing there were two balloons up top in bed.

Stop fucking going on about not wanting to be "settled" for. Pages and pages of posters disagreeing with you and you won't accept any of it so what was the point of starting this thread? Go and get some therapy.

As someone who has worked in strip clubs there are loads of men who like smaller breasts. One of the girls who made the most money was on the small size. I say this kindly, but you need to get help for your body issues.

I'm starting to wonder if this has less to do with breasts per se and more to do with this notion that men have to be salivating over what they consider to be a perfect You.

Maybe you are blaming your breasts when the real issue is you expect too much in terms of adoration.

Perfect people don't exist.

We find them "perfect" when we have love goggles on. If the posters on this thread shared their ideal physical specimens, we wouldn't all agree. Upthread pp mentioned a public figure - I won't say which - as an example of someone who is attractive with small breasts and I thought that personally I don't find them very attractive at all. But clearly they do.

My friend used to obsess that women were ogling her DBF when he had his top off or short shorts on and I would be thinking they were looking askance at his wiry little body and probably ran off to get an anti-nausea tablet. But she thought he was drop dead gorgeous.

I don't think I've ever thought someone was physically "perfect" until I was in a relationship with them and their body became very familiar to me.

I would (and have) turn(ed) down a man if I thought he preferred bigger breasts, simply because I don't want to sleep with men who aren't really into me

And what did you base that thought on? Because you don't listen to anyone telling you that you're wrong. The men you've turned down because you thought they wanted bigger breasts, you couldn't see inside their heads, you just decided you were right.

Deal with whatever is really going on here, because it's not that you keep meeting men obsessed with big breasts who just want to use you /settle for you and your inferior small breasts. It's not.

That's very interesting and actually does boost my body confidence a smidge!

I don't know how and when I'll find peace with my natural body, I may have to go down the implants route, but I'm still in the process of working out, financially and also just mentally.

I don't disagree with most of what they say. I just struggle to alter my feelings, which are really ingrained.

Agree completely. The OP seems to want this thread to continue and continue and continue! Everyone had said pretty much the same but yet it still continues and continues 🙄

My ex said large boobs were usually veiny with big nipples and therefore ugly out of clothes. Mind you, he was a judgmental fuck and there’s a reason he’s my ex.Google famous women with small chests and see how their beauty and confidence is totally unrelated to their chest.

As a man I have to tell you that plastic breasts are a turn off for men. Not all but most men.

All the men I have ever come across prefer small breasts. They are fashionable at the moment.

What if they were really well done implants though, which felt just slightly firmer than real breast tissue (these implants do exist by the way)?

And aren't smaller boobs a turn off, or at the least not a turn on, anyway?

Really? What kind of men are they? Were they being honest?

Nope, would rather a smaller breast than a fake breast every time, no matter how good the fake one was.

It's clear she is not going to be swayed. What she has going on is confirmation bias. She will internalize anything that she believes supports her preconception that all men love big boobs and dislike small ones, but she just dismisses anything that doesn't support it. Several men have told her they like small boobs and she's still insisting it's a universal turn-off. There is nothing anyone can say which will get past a cognitive bias this strong. It's basically an intellectual and emotional armed fortress. After I talked to her enough to confirm how persistent the bias was I gave up trying.

My friend was like this she finally got a boob job before she turned 30 don’t let others put you down about surgery if it makes you happy do it!!!

And I have big breast want a reduction but I would never shame others

I’ll entertain it as I’m bored….

Think of it like this - you know when it’s clear as day that someone has lip fillers- they have duck/shelf lips? They obviously feel it’s an improvement on their own natural lips, but the majority of people would disagree and find the look unattractive.

Well, I am a 36DDD, so I expect they were.

I haven't posted many threads. I am working on my body image but it's hard. I won't be re-posting the same question over and over.