To not have sex for 8 years because I have small breasts

[islaw3048unfln]

I know men strongly prefer larger breasts, that's what 99% look at, and want, even when the rest of a woman's figure is just straight up and down as long as she has big boobs it's hot/amazing etc to them.

I know I could get laid (men will sleep with anything that isn't Quasimodo), but I don't want to be settled for, a body just to use but that they aren't really turned on by.

So I just don't feel like sex, never in the mood, I don't want to be dating where a man is just eyeing up other bustier women all the time and feeling unsatisfied/wishing there were two balloons up top in bed.

I can assure you it isn't! I wish it was.

I don't think that's true and can't agree. Good men like an emotional connection, personality and chemistry are important. The rest comes later and they truly, do not care. I don't know how else to tell you. You're going to have to figure it out yourself. Just go out there and make connections. You don't need to post a disclaimer that you have small boobs. Or stretch marks. Or big labia. Or massive nipples. Bodies are just bodies. They're just happy you gel and WANT to be intimate with them

Is that because they all fancy you the same women

Going by the similar thread on the sex board I would say it’s very likely not a wind up.

This is such a weird post it’s like you’ve got your information from online porn or something that’s not real life. Most of the men I’ve been with do not have incredible bodies, doesn’t mean I’m unhappy (love a dad bod) or that we have any less fun in the bedroom 😂 I have no boobs at all which I have been very conscious of but it’s never crossed my mind when having sex that the guy is unimpressed by them/unhappy with them - and I don’t live to please men. In my experience as long as you can accept your own body and feel more confident in yourself a man would prefer that much more than massive boobs and a horrendous personality, but it isn’t all about what the man wants. You’re overthinking it, I think you need to really work on making yourself feel more confident and happier in yourself and then you might feel differently. I’ve never heard men go on and on about big boobs either so I’m not sure what you’re watching/who you’re having these conversations with but it doesn’t sound healthy

I genuinely don’t, it’s my body and if they don’t like it, they don’t need to hop into bed with me. That said, I know from a few close male friends that the same worry we have with our boobs and bums, men have with their manhood.

This thread is an overshare so right place for it 😅

I look like an A cup (although I was measured as a 28C, it looks like an A), and they're still in the same place they were when I was 15! To be honest I can't love them though.
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What planet are you on OP? Im sat in bed with my DH and just asked him as i'm not exactly small in the breast dept and he said he always dated women with smaller breasts.

He just said he wished mine were smaller, cheeky bastard 😡

Beat me to it - wasn’t a few months/ about 4/5 weeks ago
The OP was adamant to a point of bizarreness and it all got very strange…

YABVU! I was a virgin until I was 25 by choice. it’s not about your body.

You sound like you have great boobs 28C that are still in the same place as they were 16 years ago - you have the stereotypical perfect body, I think you need to have some confidence in yourself and enjoy them while they are so great & before gravity hits them 😂😂

Hahahha. What's decidedly wrong with that though, if that OP has her admirers? 😅

TBH Op if you don't feel "wanted" you don't need to have sex.

I don't think I would want to in those circumstances either.

People on here may disagree with what men want or like, and they may be right, or they may be wrong.

But ultimately that's not really the point. If you don't feel desired then no, you are not BU for not wanting to sleep with them.

But give a few men a chance to get close - if not sleep with you. You might find they venture that they do find you attractive just as you are.

And fwiw pregnancy and BF can go a long way towards an augmentation.

Seriously ridiculous. Most women don’t have “big” boobs, they have average ones. Mine, in my younger day were small but I was well fancied and had lots of sex. My DH definitely likes a smaller boob, as do many other men, but I think most don’t care much.
Now I’m older and a few stone heavier my boobs are bigger, but I preferred them before, genuinely.

OK, so if you're not on the wind up OP, where are you getting your info from? Do you really think all blokes would prefer Katie Price over, I dunno, Keira Knightley or Amal Clooney? Why would you think men who are in relationships with small breasted women have settled and are secretly lusting after the well endowed?

Yabu otherwise supermodels wouldn't be in such high demand

There are lots of famous women without big boobs widely considered sexy; Keira Knightley, Megan Fox and Jessica Alba have all been crowned ‘worlds sexiest woman’ by FHM at one point and none have massive boobs, they’re all quite normal sized. The kind of women labelled as ‘wow’ or ‘hot’ in places like Page 3 or Nuts magazine are obviously not representative of all or even most men!

@islaw3048unfln do you like / are you happy with your breasts?
If you feel good about yourself that is attractive to a lot of people

My Dh has consistently wanted sex and made me feel attractive over a 12 year period, in that time my breast size has changed significantly through pregnancy/breastfeeding.

I find your outlook on things really sad. And slightly odd.

Only the crap ones who aren’t worth having.

Very shallow way of looking at things

Really? 😂

I think you are not meeting the right type of men.
But also could do with therapy to help you feel happy and confident just how you are.
And realise most men if not all have what would be considered flaws body wise. But its all about confidence.
I have always had a big chest and quite frankly would love them to be small. They hurt my back and cause all sorts off problems . Not to mention clothing never fits right.
And as others have pointed out with children and age they dont stay as pert as smaller do.
Im sure another thread very similar to this was started not that long ago.

Modelling is a bit different tbf. Its about making the clothes hang right, for women consumers, who don't necessarily want the clothes sexualised to the max.

The truth is different men like different things - just as women do. I genuinely fancy a guy with a faint belly. That doesn't mean I'd pick him as an underwear model if I had to sell the damn stuff. But I do find it attractive IRL. It looks kind of ... manly, like he isn't all fussed about his waist but gets on with life.

I find a slim waisted, snake hips type of guy most off-putting.