DH being cruel to small fish

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DH is part of a team sport - has been for years no issues usually with it.

he has brought home a small ‘goldfish’ in a tiny tank. This small fish has been passed around different team members. Apparently if it dies on your watch you have to pay a fine.

the fish clearly isn’t being cared for properly, the water is cloudy it has no filter or air stone.

Ive looked up the type of fish and it’s not even a goldfish - it’s a small orange tropical fish that requires a heater.

I'm absolutely furious! I hate any cruelty to animals and think this type of lads game from a 40 yr old man is ridiculous.

first off mumsnetters AIBU? And if you think no what should I do?

worst part is that DH agrees that it’s cruel but for some reason ‘doesn’t want to cause a fuss’

Fucking hell, this would rile me beyond belief. When it comes to animals though, I am next level insane so I’d probably leave him!! I abhor cruelty like this.

I would be really mad at this. Just awful. Not funny in the slightest.

Please do not let it be passed on to anyone else and offer it to your local tropical fish store 😢

It’sa certain breed of human that is cruel to animals/creatures
not one to be around

Let them think it died and pay the fine if he doesn’t want to cause a fuss, then keep the fish, or rehome it responsibly. Personally I would be making a fuss though, can’t imagine wanting to associate with people who think that’s okay.

What an absolute arse your DH is. Take it to a pet shop and see if they can take it in for rehoming. Anyone who abuses animals are vile; poor defenceless creatures at the mercy of idiots like your DH. Do not ignore the suffering of this poor fish.

at the very very least he can say the fish died , pay the fine and stop this cruelty, However, he could also be a grown man who has opinions and says Im not doing this anymore with the fish, its cruel. I think he would actually get some respect from others.
Living creatures are not toys, why don't they get a class bear and have fun with that instead!

That's foul. I'd be strongly encouraging DH to make a fuss, and I certainly wouldn't be allowing the fish to go back.

I remember when I got my daughter a betta (Siamese Fighter Fish). I spent weeks researching and getting the tank ready for his arrival. And fish aren’t even my bag!
This has really saddened me.

The men are all pathetic. Including your DH for not wanting to make a fuss

They are all terrible for participating.

Sorry, couldn’t tolerate that. There are fish re-homing sites, I’d be straight on there, sod the fine. I’d be disgusted if my DH behaved like this, he needs to man up.

The poor thing’s gills and fins will be burning. Without the proper water treatment, it’s like swimming in toxic waste.

Thats hideous. If they dont care about the poor fish, it's probably worth noting that fish are protected under the Animal Welfare Act - so, in theory, failing to provide for the needs as stated in law (the 5 welfare needs) is leaving your DH (and others) at risk of committing a criminal offence.

That is just utterly foul. I can’t bear animal cruelty and coming from grown men who should know better is absolutely disgusting. How can you bear to even look at him. I’ve got fish and they are such fun little things, that poor fish deserves better.

Take it to a local pet shop - preferably not Pets at Home - and get the poor thing rehomed. Then dump your spineless DH.

This is disgusting and I would be furious not least at the not wanting to cause a fuss part. Like grow up and associate with decent responsible human beings with brains. So pathetic.

Unbelievable. That poor fish will be struggling to take oxygen from the water if it's dirty, and that's beside the fact that it's a tropical fish and requires a heater!

I would be taking the fish to a pet shop or donating it to someone who can care for it properly. It's not right.

He either needs to rehome it or buy the kit to look after it properly.

Do you all eat fish and chips?

https://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2006/45/section/4

I'd report them all to the RSPCA tbh

urgh. I think the term you could apply to your DH is ‘moral cowardice’.
maybe make it clear that the ‘fuss’ from his teammates will pale into insignificance compare to the fuss he’ll be getting from you if he doesn’t commit to looking after the poor fish properly and telling them he’s not playing their nasty game any more.

I'd be taking the fish and finding it a good home at this point. No way i'd be leaving an animal to suffer in my house, it wouldn't be going back to his mates either.

I'd be furious too.

What will you do op?

And what’s the relevance of your Q?

Fish sourced for food aren’t previously confined to a tiny polluted environment where they will experience a cruel slow end to their life 🤦🏻‍♀️

Say it died, pay the fine and rehome the fish!