Blanked him after he cancelled our date, AIBU?

[Sadorpetty]

New relationship of 6 months.

He can be a bit flaky. I try to be understanding when he's stressed with work / family matters but after him cancelling on me at short notice this morning I'm left feeling sad and unappreciated again (because it isn't the first time, he has form for it)

We won't be able to see one another next week so planned to go for a 'valentines day breakfast' this morning, as we generally can't do Fridays and weekends (children/work) and won't see each other for the next 10 days.

He text me at 7am saying

"I feel like shit today. I just want to get DC into school and get back home to relax before work. How about you take (friend) for breakfast and i'll see you tomorrow if you can do that. Sorry to cancel"

He isn't ill, that isn't what he means. He means he's tired or can't be arsed.

It upset me. I'd made an effort and was excited to see him. He knows Fridays aren't realistic.

I replied "oh thanks a bunch, it's very short notice"

Sorry, he says.

I spent the day feeling sad and unappreciated.

He text me later on saying he'd look out for me on my way home from work.

Well when I did see him and he started to walk over to me I just carried on walking, I know he clocked me and will probably think I've been really rude.

How would you have handled this situation?

There is a pattern of me putting in more effort and energy than he does and I'm just tired of it.

No idea when I'll hear from him again and not sure I want to now.

Am I unreasonable and petty or is this perfectly reasonable after being messed around?

Well done, you put yourself first and put your boundaries in place good job dump him start again

Mm that is not good.

I’d say your hunch about him being inconsiderate and oblivious to others’ needs is absolutely spot on. I’m getting “really can’t be arsed dealing with other peoples inconvenient feelings” vibes.

well done for ditching the man -you’re worth more than that.

I'm glad you've dumped him.

I obviously don't know you but I do know that anyone is worth more than being treated like this. He may or may not be into you but he doesn't value you or your time enough.

Someone is taking the michael, and it sounds like him. If he was too ill to see you in the morning, he must be unique in that his illness last until he doesnt want to be ill. Time for someone better, who wants to be with you

GET SHUT! he will sap your energy! You will end up feeling shit every time. Tell him you decided to take a single friend after all, for breakfast & you have both met two nice single guys 🤣

I think you just have to be honest and open with him about how this makes you feel. Use "I" statements rather than accusatory and that will improve the communication.

You left feeling sad and unappreciated...sit with these feelings as they are obvious indicators of how unhappy this relationship is after 6 months ONLY.

Pull back I think texting you at 7am in the morning he knew earlier he wasn't going to meet you or was thinking this the day before.
Dont keep giving him your time you will always have disappoints like these in the future.
Widen your circle date someone else.

Keep up... He was dumped last week.

Hope you're okay OP

It's pants when a relationship goes to pot, no matter how long or short it is.

Can you imagine life with him ? Constant let down. Is that what you want - to be sulking and upset and not talking to him. What a sad boring lonely existence. Move on and don't look back.

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