I know his secret… thread 2

[Waffletots]

Hi everyone

I’ve been told to create a second thread as the first one is full https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5226374-i-know-his-secret-but-how-do-i-play-this?page=1

I am off to see my parents this morning and will update later.
Thank you so much for all of your support, looks like I’m going to need it!

OP - I am so sorry you are in this situation. You are handling it like a boss.

Keep your focus on your babies and yourself.
With any luck your POS husband will be having a hard time, I would hazard a guess him and the OW have had a blazing row. Hopefully he's finding out the grass isn't greener on the other side and has realised he has lost everything.

Keep strong and keep your head up!

So so sorry that this has happened to you. It could be that he is not replying because he or the ow has seen this thread. Both of your posts are trending. If he or she is reading this they should be ashamed for how they are not trying to at least offer you some kindness and explanation.

Another one here in total awe of you. Your brother also, hope your safely in the bosom of your family just now. You have a massive army cheering you on, concentrate on you, child and lovely wee baby. I can sense good things for you. 💐💐💐. X

Neither do I; in fact I think it's utterly ludicrous.

What care or compassion has he shown to her? Not even enough of a man to speak to her. Total fucking coward.

He loves himself too much to do anything untoward!!

For now look after yourself and your dc. Lean on your family and let them take some of the load. Your health, your baby and your dc are all that matter right now.
Do any financials you can online —- cms, claim any benefits, reduce council tax but don’t stress yourself and further. 💐Sending you all good wishes.

@allthatfalafel

And again, if he is, he's got his OW to help, you know her that he thought was worth blowing up his entire life for? She can help, can't she?

The OP has enough on her plate, none of which she has inflicted upon herself, all done by him. She doesn't need you guilt tripping her into giving a single fuck about that waste of space. Her energy should be directed back into herself and her children. All of whom are innocent.

I think he has reacted the way he has by not contacting and quietly leaving because he planned it this way with the OW. I suspect he was in on her breaking the news, hoping she would be the bad guy more so than himself.

i am so sorry you are dealing with this, you sound like such a strong person, inspiring for anyone going through something similar 🙏🏻💕

Oh wise up!! The OP said she would have liked one, and several people said, so long as it's just one!

Why did the ow cheat on her pregnant partner with a dc at home?

And who are you to do exactly the same?

People are giving her advice. It's up to the OP whose she chooses to take. Not yours I hope.

Personally I think it's more than "massively overstepping" to try to coerce the OP to care about the wellbeing of this cheating bastards, when she needs all her energy to look out for herself and her little family. It's despicable actually.

He is an absolute CUNT!

He was the one who was married to the OP. He is the one who made vows. He is the one with a child already and another about to be born.

He does not get exonerated, in any shape or form.

I'm so glad you opened a second post because I really wanted to wish you well and send good vibes your way

Stop whining. This thread isn't about you.

Stop whining. This thread isn't about you.

We are hearing her version of events. No one knows exactly what has happened or whether her behavior was a contributing factor. Maybe her husband is innocent in all of this

Are you the husband.

The OW is indeed low life trash by choosing to contact the OP and devastate her life when almost due to give birth. Nobody will argue with that.

However, the husband made the vows and as such, he is the one that cheated. So he is entirely to blame.

And his twin took over his phone, set up a separate App for OW and appeared in photographs?

I'm sorry what???? Are you the fucking husband?

It literally doesn't matter!! When that man stuck his dick in another woman, he lost any right to consideration!

Why the actual fuck should the OP give a milisecond of her time to concern herself with that cheating POS's welfare? He couldn't give a flying fuck about hers! She's 38 weeks' pregnant fgs? He hasn't made any attempt at all to contact her, to see if she is ok, to see if his 3 year old is ok, to apologise, to explain - NOTHING!

I don't GAF if he had "previous mental health concerns" - he certainly didn't appear to have any when he was shagging another woman behind the back of his pregnant wife!|

Some people are nuts!!!

Likely just one of the innumerable common or garden MRA trolls and their eager handmaidens who infest these threads.

They are ten-a-penny on this site, and threads like this attract them like wasps to treacle. They are best not given any airspace.

Is there actually something not quite right with you?

If you have nothing sensible to say then perhaps just say nothing.

That fucker is not innocent!!!! How could you even begin to think so?

That's disgusting, "her behaviour... a contributing factor"???? Really? The OP thought she was in a happy place. He was getting plenty of sex and they had conceived a baby?

But, no, the wife made him do it.

I daren't say what I really, really want to...!!!

It's not about you either and I will post as I see fit. You are not the thread police.

Any "whining" was definitely on you. What a pious attitude.