I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

Sending a hug @Waffletots I hope it went as well as it could.

He will be regretting his behaviour for sure and will have to live with that.

Good luck to you with the pregnancy and your current and future DCs.

You tell me???

"Pile on"??? Is nobody allowed to speak up then, or are you the arbiter of all the posts??!

It was not the context of her posts AT ALL but I'm not giving this shit any more airtime at this point.

I am so, so sorry this is happening to you and I'm so glad you have family with you.

That post you were defending has been deleted, so maybe move on.

Waffletots you've absolutely done the right thing by reaching out to your family. I expect you're with your siblings now. Sending you a huge unmumsnetty hug.

This is the worst bit right now. But, it will get better with time, I promise.

@Waffletots I hope you're getting through the evening.

A lot of people are thinking about you xx

these threads are the most worrying when OP is pregnant and she’s now full of stress and sadness and I imagine rage.
Wishing everything goes as OK as it can do for you @Waffletots and that you and baby and DC are safe and with loved ones who will help you. I’m so sorry this is your situation right now and I hope you’re given lots of love and support to get through this time x

God what a cunt. Good luck to you OP, well done for being so strong (even if you don’t feel like it, you are!)

So sorry OP. Karma will catch up with him - cheating being disgusting at the best of times, but on a wife who's 38-weeks pregnant... It's abhorrent.

Sending strength and a hand hold.

I've had other things to do this evening. Is that ok with you?

I won't change my mind about the appropriateness of the comments in the circumstances.

Thank you and good night.

You sound incredible OP and your baby is really well developed by now and the’re resilient, they will be okay. Do what you can to look after yourself at such a difficult time and remember you have a whole village (or more) of people supporting you on here. You will get through this.

Sending you love and strength

I’m so sporty. Hope you’re being looked after xx

So sorry to read this. Sending love

Sending you all the strength in the world op.
You sound like you have a wonderful family and your head firmly screwed on.
Hugs to you 💐

Sending love

No advice, just hope your okay.

Oh OP, I'm so sorry. Can you let us know that you're not alone, your DB and SIL are with you and that you are safe, if you can xx

Bloody hell @Waffletots, I’m glad you have family around to support you right now. Take care of yourself and the baby, check in with midwives if the stress feels too much. I’m sending love.

It's not only women. There is at least one man here rooting for the OP and wondering why some men have to be such utter fuckwits.

This!

Wake up, OP.

She's got impatient and taken matters into her own hands. No matter what he was planning to do before (presumably stay with op) when he is thrown out on his ear he will go straight to her, which is what she wants. They deserve each other. What a bloody mess.

Op, I would also add that before you take our advice you need to have it out with him. She could have been a one night stand (which may be one night too many for you) and be making more of this than there is. There could be all sorts going on. Remember, there are a fair amount of female nutters out there as well as male ones. You owe it to each other not to act too hastily on the say-so of a stranger. I am not encouraging you to go into denial, which will be all too easy to do, but I do think you need to talk to him. it might actually be easier to do that if he isn't in the house with you, so if you pack his bag as planned you could allow the talking/texting to begin once he is out of the house. If there is nothing to it and he is a decent guy, he will understand why you reacted the way you have.

OP, I am so sorry you are going through this. Get rid of your crappy cheat of a husband. You and your children deserve better. You stay in your home with your babies, that sorry excuse for a man can leave.

You are strong, you are brave and you will get through this.

Wake up to what? If you’re going to make snarky posts you need to read the updates first.

Have you at least read the OPs full posts?