I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

Oh OP, I know you’ve had pages of well
wishers, but my heart hurts for you. The shock is huge. Take any help offered. Xx

She likely doesn’t know how far along she is etc. You have no evidence she is deliberately spoiling the birth of a child, to suggest so is a reach.

Also the poster that suggested he was buying lingerie as gifts, it’s not a Mills and Boon novel. The implication that affairs are purely about sex is shortsighted.

Either way he’s scum

I am so very sorry. I am glad you have family to support you at this awful time, take care.

My Dsis is going through something similar right now. So you have my utmost sympathy (albeit not as far along as you) I'm so sorry it's such a horrible thing to do and I wish you and your little ones all the best

Sending you strength this evening @Waffletots I hope that he is at least honest this evening and finds somewhere else neutral he can stay for the foreseeable future.

So so sorry this happened to you OP. Keep your loving family near you - you can do this.

He’s an utter monster but as pp have also said, the OW is awful and irresponsible to do this when you are 38 weeks 2 weeks before Christmas. Something has gone wrong between them and she’s lashing out. Even if she never knew/believed his lies - any reasonable person would wait until you’d delivered safely. Not that you should give her a moments thought.

He’s shown who he is. You are a worth more. Your kids will be fine.

xxxx

I am so sorry. You must be reeling. It will be a horrible roller coaster for a while. Look after your physical body as best you can for you and your baby and so it has the best chance of healing emotionally. Allow space for the difficult feelings that will show up for a long time but plan the best future for yourself and your children.

He doesn’t deserve you. You will survive and you thrive again. 💐

She does know. OP says as much.

'Wicked' is not a word I'd use to describe many scenarios. It's strong to the extent that it's usually used as hyperbolic overstatement. Telling the wife is one thing but the timing of this particular disclosure is breathtakingly cruel and vindictive.

The lion's share of the blame belongs with him, but in this situation 'wicked' is an entirely appropriate descriptive for her actions. What a horrific thing to do to someone. I'm appalled for you, OP.

🙏❤️🙏

You and your child and your unborn baby are the most important things in your life now.

Please take care of yourself xxx

In situations like this I hope the "give it out and get it back threefold" comes true

@Waffletots you’re not a fool, at all 💐

Sounds like you have an amazing family, your parents, brother etc, so I’m glad you have your support system.

Hopefully he’s already came home, faced the music and left sheepishly with his bags. Arsehole.

I’m so sorry.

I am so very sorry that you are going through this truly shocking experience OP, nothing to add to what others have said. Even though it feels and is devastating you will come out of the other side. I do hope that there are people in real life who are surrounding you with love, care and practical support

Please do not fill the thread up with bickering and emoji posts before the OP has a chance to update with how she is/ how it went. Threads automatically lock at 1000 posts and OPs often don’t bother making new ones.

I’m sure I’m not the only one that really feels for her and wants to know that she has her family around her and is doing okay. I’m also sure I’m not the only one that will volunteer to build her a new patio if her worthless husband kicks off.

OP, thankfully you are independent and don't need to rely on him financially, but I hope you take him to the cleaners!

Wrap yourself up with the support of your family. Let them help you.
And you will survive and you'll be amazed and proud of yourself in time to come.

I'm so sorry x

Are you the bit on the side?

So very sorry OP, look after yourself x

I was going to ask this. It sounds like he’s been enjoying weekend dates with his girlfriend.

be prepared for the possibility that she has let him know that she has texted you.

was your ‘D’H with you last night when you got the text?

So not the sort of industry where he’d have to go into work on a Sunday, ie retail or police……he’s taking the piss!

Just seen this, am so sorry. Heartbreaking