I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

So sorry OP hope your doing OK. You've been so strong you got this x

Ablar, now you can tell Inkyblue to read the full thread! 😜

Remember, OP, none of this is your fault. And, awful though it is, you will get through this xx

You can read all posts belonging to an OP at one time; unfortunately, I don't think that there's a quick way of reading all the posts made by others commenting on the thread. (It might be possible for those with a paid subscription, but I don't know.)

So sorry you're going through this, what a terrible shock. I hope he has the decency to give you the truth.

The stress will be worse for baby than a glass of wine! If you really need one, have one!
I feel for you and send hugs x

@Waffletots have you checked with her whether she told him she told you? If she hasn’t you still
have the element of surprise. You could ask her if he is working of course. You could ask where her where he is if not.

i hope you are ok. What an awful terrible shock.

Not into shaming people really for not reading and knowing as much as others do. I'm sure others will though

Obviously I also didn't know you could do this! Soz I'm not as perfect as everyone else

There are no words strong enough for either of them!! It’s going to take every ounce of strength but for now make yourself the priority. Let family take your little one, plenty at this time of year to excite them with and you focus on taking care of you and the soon to be new arrival. Sending a virtual hug, you will get through this xx

@Waffletots, this is horrific, but it’s good that you now have definitive evidence. The dirty dog has been duping you and your toddler, pretending to be a loyal and faithful family man. He has chosen to make a mockery of his marriage and family.

Your loving supportive family are a godsend who will be there as you move through the grieving process and go from strength to strength with your babies.

Well done for taking decisive action op and sorry you are going through this.
Hope your family can support today

I'm so sorry op. I've been there but I had my baby and he would go to his brothers but met up with his ex. I'm not going to lie it took me a good year to feel like my old self again and be happy. I moved in with my parents at the time but got a job and got my own place then met my dh now. I couldn't imagine ever staying with someone that would behave in that way and constantly looking over my back. It's hard op but you will get through this little by little it hurts a little less until it doesn't hurt at all.

Yea, didn't know you could do that either! Thanks though

This!! 100%!!

My ex-H started an affair when our child was 6 weeks old. Told the OW that he was only staying with me because I had MH issues and wasn’t strong enough for him to leave (spoiler alert - my MH was fine). Told her we didn’t sleep together (we did), told her our marriage was over (it wasn’t). Gaslit me into believing I was going crazy and was paranoid etc etc. It’s such a boring cliche!

10 years on from being in your shoes (where I felt my world had ended) and I promise you that it was the best thing that has ever happened to me and my daughter.

Sending so much love and strength to you OP xxx

Oh Ablar, please get your sense of humour out of the box. Lighten up and try to enjoy the thread. It’s good, and if there are posts on there that you don’t like, skip them.

Well done on calling family op it’s HIS shame not yours, you have done nothing to deserve this.
I had a similar experience years ago had a two year old and a baby when I found out. It’s very hard to get your head around it and he will come up with all sorts of excuses but hold fast, he has told you who he is now and at absolutely the worst possible time for his reputation. All your friends and family will rally round, I would tell everyone including your midwife so she can support you. I wouldn’t have him at the birth it will be too difficult, take your mum, sister or good friend.
You and your lovely dc will get past this xxx

Just ask him

You poor poor woman. No advice but I really feel for you. This is not the news anyone wants to hear when they are so close to giving birth. She could have waited to tell you after you had had the baby as it’s clearly been going on so long.
good luck to you, and well done for getting rid. It will be ok 👍

Sending so much love OP. You are one amazing mother x

Oh, she's 'sorry to be that person' is she? Is she hell. Despicable pair of bastards.

Yes, she’s an absolute Cunt. Never ever absolve her of her part in all this. Karma will get her in the end.

Go to OP's first post go to the bottom right corner and click see all. Then you will see only the OP posts but all of them without having to read through the responses from others. Then you can read all the info so far that she has provided and don't have to scroll through loads of pages

@Waffletots I'm thinking of you tonight and sending my love and support. So sorry for what you're going through. Terribly said and traumatic for you and you of course are understandably reeling and blindsided. It's not about me, of course, but it's made me think back to when I was in a similar situation and it was my loving parents who wholeheartedly supported me and made an awful situation slightly more bearable with their enduring love and help. Thank goodness you have your Mum and Dad and your brother and sister-in-law. You are not alone - lean on them to help you get through the next few weeks and months. My wholehearted sympathies.

This op. I’m so sorry. You will come out the other side of this stronger - he has done this to your family, not you.