I know his secret but how do I play this?

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I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

Are the messages to her definitely from his number? I’m sure they are but it might be another thing he claims to try and defend himself.

Hope you’re doing as well as you can

You’re so awesome

There are also pictures.

Hope this evening goes as well as it can. Total scumbag.

I'm so sorry OP he is an absolute pig of a man.
This also happened to me- I wasn't pregnant but had two young children. I got a message whilst I was at work. It was devastating. That was 6 years ago, I am now incredibly happily remarried with a baby on the way....it was horrific at the time but I wouldn't change it for the world now.

Also please talk to your midwife about this when you see her, (I say this as a midwife). She will want to provide you with additional support before, during and after birth.

She might be trying to cause trouble for you and your partner, particularly if she knows that he considers her to be a flirt. She could have made a pass at him, which he dismissed and didn't take her up on which ultimately made her feel rejected.
Try to determine what opportunities he had to conduct an affair and calmly show him the text - watch his face.........you'll know if it is true

As I'm not on here daily I didn't know this could be done. Have already said that twice, no need for all the repeat tags and people having a go

Absolute bastard. Kick his arse out. Hope you’re ok

Again, didn't know I could

I’m sorry to hear your update op, what a crappy thing to do. Hope you are ok and glad you have family with you.

How arrogant.

It is awful op. At least you’ve got a plan. I would make sure whatever you do is make sure you focus on RL support now.

To all the posters jumping on each other - you’re all as bad as each other. If op ever did need this thread to come back to she won’t have one. Jumping on every poster and telling them to RFTF is probably more unhelpful than posters just posting their initial thoughts. You’re just filling it up.

It sounds like you’ve got good real life support op.

Oh my, all the best

Whether she’s lying or not - she’s trying to get him to leave you by telling you, you realise this don’t you? Not for one second does she feel bad about you having another child on the way. Very possibly he’s called it off with her or rebuffed her hence she’s forcing the issue now. So sorry Op. Take care.

Arrogant? Ok

Unless I'm misremembering, the OP has said that there are photos of him with the OW.

Give the rats a good slap, both of them. So many doing this and getting away with it with no consequences.

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Omg your poor thing. I am so sorry. I am pregnant and i have a 4 yrs old…i cannot even imagine what you are going through right now. Such a horrible person your H is!

Please - read the OP’s updates. She has the proof - including photos of them together. All you’re doing is causing her stress.

That’s awful. I had a friend who was in the same class at school as her half-sister. She found out about her existence when the register was called the first time and they had the same surname. Dad knew they’d be in school together but didn’t warn anyone. Her mum confirmed it. Men are absolute shitbags.

You’ve done so well. You are not a fool , he is. You have trusted the person who is meant to deserve your love and trust. He has fucked this up for everyone.
This actually happened to me at 8 months pregnant too, definitely tell your midwife. Sadly mine told me that it’s really common for men to cheat on their pregnant wives. They will be supportive. Don’t be ashamed to tell people ( I was and regret that ), they will be kind as you have done nothing wrong.
It’s going to be tough but you will manage . I’m 9 years on now and it’s fine- I got through it and am happy. You will be too. Good luck.

And what ? OP should just forgive him and move on ? Why are you apologising for him ?

So so sorry OP. You don't deserve this.

I'm so very sorry OP. Lean on your family and let them look after you. Sending love and hugs ❤