I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

Can you not? There's over 25 pages, obviously I didn't read them all. Ffs

@Ablar ... there was nothing to stop you just reading the OP's updates, which would have given you all the information you needed - of which there are only a couple of pages

You don't deserve this. Sending you strength and love ❤️

Sending love op. You have got this. My daughters dad did this after I had a miscarriage, whilst I was morning my loss he was meeting another woman telling her I don't even live in the same house.

Yeah, ok! You could've read the OP posts. There's no need to read the others pages.

Let's bring it back to the OP and the devastating news she's received today. Take your bickering elsewhere.

I hope you come back OP as you will get so much help from the decent ones here. I'm so very sorry you find yourself in this situation. Your husband is an utter shit.

Hang on just a minute.

The OP has literally known that her husband is cheating for less than 24 hours. She does not need to hear lectures about the effect of a divorce on her children!

She hasn't lamented anything about the H that I have seen. She needs to stop. Now.

Please please read others before posting!! Over 25 pages, yes I didn't read them all but I don't need tagging several times saying the same bloody thing

You missed a few updates.

I’m so sorry to hear this OP but at least you have irrefutable proof.

Get ahead of him. You are one step ahead now, keep it that way. If you aren’t up to this yourself, Give your brother all your details to allow him and SIL to help you

withdrawn 50% of money from the joint accounts so you can’t be screwed by him getting there first. In fact seeing as you’ll have 2 kids, take 70%

change the locks on the house

submit a CMS claim stating he has no overnights. I would not be allowing him any with the three year old, so you can maximise CMS at this stage when you are going to need money. He lost his right to easy access to your children when he had the affair.

Do not put his name on the birth certificate of the second child (this will not affect child benefit or CMS)

apply for universal credit tomorrow as a single parent - you need to be financially secure to help you play the long game of battling him being a dick, because he will be when he realises he’s lost the game!

ensure child benefit for your first child is in your name

file for divorce

all these applications can be done in a day if your parents keep hold of little one and your brother helps. Your head will be a mess, but fight fire with fire! Be ahead of the bastard!

In the bottom right-hand corner of every OP, at the start of every thread, it says "OP posts: see all". If you click on that in the future, it shows you every OP update without having to scroll through every page to find them.

Nothing to add except support and best wishes to you OP.

The post you were replying to had really duff advice. Your plan is so much better OP, we’re all here supporting you

Jesus OP, you poor thing. I can only imagine what’s happening in your house right now. Very glad your brother and SIL are there too. That will make him squirm.

What an awful, awful human he is. A total failure.

You can just read the updates. Click on see all comments in any of the PO’s green boxes.

Screenshot all that you received so that she can’t recall/delete messages.

You don't have to read all the posts - just OP's which are fewer than two pages. Reading all of an OP's posts is a good habit to get into before posting yourself. 😊

So sorry OP, send you love and strength and am glad you have reached out to family xx

You're not a fool for believing in your relationship. I can't believe this has happened to you at 38 weeks pregnant - what an utter scumbag. I'm sorry xx

Yes that was the context that Oakleaffy posted in - that because of the husband’s cheating, the OP and her kids are going to go through the turmoil
of a divorce.

It was somewhat clumsy wording, but not deserving of the pile on you and others are giving her.

P.s. ‘Hang on just a minute’? Are we monkeys?

Aw, I’m so sorry op. Nobody deserves this.

Remember you are an excellent mother and this is not a reflection on you. Be strong.

Why does your husband have an office job where he has to work Sundays in the actual office until 6pm?

Wow I thought I was in a rare scenario. Sorry @Kell0710 💐 And me OP only a few months ago so I really do feel your pain. You will come through this. I'm only 9 months on and the OW in my scenario got herself pregnant within months of me. You sound strong, wishing you all the best.