I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

It won't feel like it now, but you will come out the other side. I am glad you plan to go it alone, I didn't and I forgive the first and second time, the third, he walked. They are pathetic excuses of men! Be a queen!

So sorry you're going through this op. I think it's right for you to know but very nasty of her to be the one to message you, she probably wanted you to know for her own reasons. I doubt she actually cares about you and I'd block her now.

I'm glad you have people in real life to support you through this. Let others look after you and help you as much as possible as you find your way through. It will get better x

Oh Op, I’m so, so sorry you are having to go through this. I’m glad you have the support of your family. Sending huge love to you.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. He is actual trash.

Who cares what the ow is doing?

Get on to the council first thing and say he has moved out. Give them her name and number. She'll be thrilled to pick up his council tax bill.

I have literally no idea why posters who disagree keep giving it oxygen.

Didn’t the OP mention two daughters, age 3 and 1?

You poor thing OP, sending you all the strength in the world ❤️

So sorry OP you are going through this. Glad you have family support tonight, when you confront him.

I really don't think you should ask this woman for proof. It will only upset you further. You just need a frank and honest discussion with your partner as to what has really been going on behind your back. Your unborn child is also a priority.

I really feel for you in this sad sad situation which you must sort out between the two of you.

Sounds to me like you need time away from him to digest today. You are due to have your baby anytime so have a breather before making any big decisions and keep separate until you can think clearly

You’ve been so strong today. Your health and staying calm is so important at the moment. I’m glad your family are there to support.

Best of luck!!!!

I can't comprehend how painful this must be - definitely make sure you have support lined up for the duration of thw pregnancy and first few weeks as this is a lot to deal with at the same time.

OP you sound incredibly strong and intelligent in your posts

That cheating cunt has thrown away more than he realises

Sending you huge hugs, I've been there, whilst I'm over the cheating (they deserved each other!) what I'll never forgive him for is me having to lose my children every other weekend. That's not what I wanted for them and the hatred I feel for him around that is scary.

As others have said, you will come out of this stronger and realise it's a blessing in disguise that he has shown his true colours!

But to do this to you at 38 weeks pregnant....the man has a special place in hell.

Sending you love and strength ❤️ well done on getting the evidence! What a selfish cock! Don’t let him turn it around and blame stress/mental health/ midlife crisis etc. He’s made a conscious decision to have his cake and eat it and now he’s lost the lot! You however, can hold your head up high, be a great role model for your kids that you’re a strong woman in the face of adversity.

My DC adore their step dad, thinks move on and life will improve. You soon to be ex loser is set to be a part time daddy with everyone knowing what he did to his family.

RTFT. She has the proof already.

PSA

You can click the OP and read all their messages.

That way you won't pop up on threads making nonsense suggestions that are no longer relevant

I’m so sorry @Waffletots what a horrible thing to find out at any time but particularly when you are so close to giving birth. I hope your family rally round to support you in kicking his pathetic cheating ass to the curb.

Me. That's why I asked. I was interested if anyone knew.

I don't think it makes any difference to OP, he'd still be out on his ear and righty so.

It's called conversation.

The thread has moved on – the OW has sent proof.

Absolutely not. He needs to know the awfulness of what he has done to his wife and children.

Loving all the posters who disagree and find this particular comment unhelpful but keep re-posting so it pops up again and again.

Not a brain cell between them 🤦‍♀️

Your husband isn’t leaving you.

She wants him to leave you, so has sent you that thoughtful little message so that she gets what she wants for Xmas …. Your life.

Personally, I wouldn’t make it easy for her.

From her point of view. She is gutted. She wants to be the woman having the baby, with her man. She is probably more upset than you, which is crazy.

Wait - Don’t engage with her. She is going to expect her plan to work, and for you to go mental and throw him out.
You need time to think calmly and while you are calm - she is going to be super agitated at work and with her friend, & with your DH.

Take your time so you are not emotional, take control. Do not let her control or manipulate you.

Talk to your husband. But give it time for the sting to So that you can do what right for you.
Not what is right for her.

She is clearly someone who “makes things happen” don’t let her control you, or make u do what she wants. Don’t give her the satisfaction.

OP says in her first sentence that they have one child and another on the way . She later says she is 38 weeks pregnant and that her child is 3.
You can always read OP's posts even if you don't want to read the full thread.

What??