I know his secret but how do I play this?

[Waffletots]

I have been married for five years to who I thought was a wonderful man, we have a child and one on the way.
Last night I received a text from his female coworker telling me that “she’s sorry to be that person…. But has been sleeping with me for nearly a year, he told me he would leave you” apparently she feels bad because another coworker “let slip” that my husband and I are expecting again in a few weeks time.
Now I haven’t even confronted my husband about this, it’s been easy as he left for work early this morning and will arrive home around 6pm. I feel sick at the thought of seeing him, could she be lying? I honestly haven’t seen any signs, he’s mentioned this woman a few times and mentioned she’s the office flirt but I didn’t think anything of it.
What should I do?! I’m scared to speak to my friends and family about this, what if she’s lying?!

My very best wishes to you in this dreadful situation OP

I think the same. If she didn't lob the grenade before the birth, chances are he'd become so swept up with the new baby that he'd put her on the back burner or dump her for good. Now he hasn't got a family to concern himself with. Evil and calculated.

Sending lots of strength OP. What a horrible situation.

But I'm so glad you are standing up for yourself straight away.

Coming to this late, but I think you have been really sensible, gathered evidence and from the sounds of it there is no two ways about this. You have made a reasoned and reasonable decision based on the facts.

Good for you to get your brother and SIL there and to be ready for when he gets home.

Out of interest, and sorry if you have covered this, but do you know if the other woman has also dumped him, or do you think she already has wine in the fridge and dinner in the oven for when he drives to hers after you've thrown him out?

Speak to your midwife as soon as you can and she will support you xxx

Yes of course however my local clinic only sees adult women on specific days. You can go and queue up a couple of times a week in the afternoon (and hopefully get an appointment before they run out) but I figured that at 38 weeks pregnant, that might be awful.

Yes! Read the room, you two 🙄

I think this is about as low as it gets. Stupid man.

I went through this while I was pregnant. It will hurt for a long while but you will realise that when you leave it's for the best

This is so unhelpful! It's not the time!! Give it a rest!

Plenty of children cope very well with the right support.

@DowntonNabby

Yes it's just a really nasty thing to do to someone. She is obviously getting in a strop that he's not left OP yet. I bet she's issued an ultimatum.

I have nothing constructive to add but it's totally shit.
You will get through this though.
Be kind to yourself and take support from others when offered.

So what do you want then - the OP to ignore the whole shitting thing and stay 'for the sake of the children'????!!!

FFS!

Did you actually read the full story? The bit about telephoning the OW and getting the full story has been covered. You said to confront him when the child is in bed……the child has gone to the grandparents! The ‘getting the phone’ bit has also been covered!
Some people amaze me! And not in a good way!

Meh 🤷‍♀️

She knew what she was getting into. She knew what she was doing by spilling the beans now.

Well, they are each other's problem now. OP just needs to focus on herself, her daughter and giving birth.

Oh OP this is awful. I hope you're ok.

Hope your family tell your parents for you. After their initial anger you need and deserve their support in the coming weeks. I avoided telling close family of awful issues in the past because it made matters so final. But you need their love and support.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you, I hope you get all the support you need both now and after the baby is born ❤️

I agree. And, if it's going to happen, better to happen earlier on than have an older, more astute, child pick up on infidelity etc.

Plenty of people on here, myself included, will say they grew up in families where their parents should have separated. The key thing is the support given to the children.

My heart goes out to you OP.
I think she thought he was going to leave you and he doesn't want to. Hardly news, men rarely leave their wives. So she decided to message you. I doubt he knows.

Forget her, show your family the messages, and let your bro deal with him tonight?

Don't leave the family home. But you might not want to be alone with a toddler and an imminent birth. And maybe him pounding the door.

Oh no, I was so hoping that she couldn't back up her original message. You and your children deserve so much better.

I’m so sorry OP. Men can be such selfish twats. Sending your strength for the hours and days ahead - lean on your support network and grey rock the bastard until you’ve had the baby and are ready to deal with him. Do not be pressurised in to doing anything before you’re ready.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like you have wonderful family around you. You will be ok.
i think the OW has done this out of spite that he didn’t tell her you’re pregnant

Another one who doesn’t read the story properly. The child isn’t there!!