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Alone on holiday

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RecoveringMillennial · 24/08/2024 22:28

Feeling more upset about this than I usually do, so wondering if I’m overreacting. Please be kind.
On holiday with a group of friends (couples). Two of us overslept and missed dinner. Other hungry friend has food brought by DP. When I say I’m hungry later (10:30ish) DH says I’ll be fine to go and fetch something on my own. Only a 5/10 minute walk, but in a foreign country and late. I can’t explain how hurt I was by this and I can’t get over the lack of care or consideration. I also suspect he didn’t want to leave the bar.
He does have form for being selfish so I don’t know if this is worse or just the final straw.

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FatherConfesserTheGuesser · 25/08/2024 15:21

bananamum13 · 25/08/2024 15:01

I often travel alone - if I couldn't go out after dark for food on my own I'd be screwed!!!

Can you really not see that it isn't the same issue?

Sameshitdifferentdayx · 25/08/2024 15:27

FatherConfesserTheGuesser · 25/08/2024 15:21

Can you really not see that it isn't the same issue?

So the husband is expected to drop what he's doing to go with her and/or get food?

Sameshitdifferentdayx · 25/08/2024 15:47

Demonhunter · 25/08/2024 13:43

Has nothing to do with being a "cool girl" although well don't for the attempt at being a patronising arse!

If I had slept through dinner in a group holiday, I got up 4 hours later and my DP was chilling having drinks with the group, I absolutely would not expect him to come and find food with me, because I'm a grown woman! Mine would undoubtedly offer, but I would never in a million years expect it, because he is on holiday too, not just there to be at my beck and call! Even if he didn't offer, I wouldn't think him selfish, unkind or unbothered, and certainly wouldn't be crying on MN about it, calling him such and saying I was alone on holiday!

🙌🙌

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 25/08/2024 15:48

Imagine this post the other way round.. husband slept for 4 hours and was now expecting wife to go fetch him food... 😂😂😂

Sameshitdifferentdayx · 25/08/2024 15:48

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 25/08/2024 15:48

Imagine this post the other way round.. husband slept for 4 hours and was now expecting wife to go fetch him food... 😂😂😂

You can just imagine can't you! Dear lordy

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 25/08/2024 15:50

Sameshitdifferentdayx · 25/08/2024 15:48

You can just imagine can't you! Dear lordy

I can imagine cries of LTB if the shoe was on the other foot 😂

Ginmonkeyagain · 26/08/2024 10:14

Well quite. He's her husband, not her maid.

longestlurkerever · 27/08/2024 00:03

The OP didn't even tall about accompanying her. More running an errand

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