Things came to a head last week and he told her it needed to go or he would, and she basically said that's fine, my brother needed to go by the end of the month.
I hope your DB has learnt that if he plays stupid games, he wins stupid prizes. Of course she was always going to choose the dog.
(and LOLOLOL about this being Dogsnet, this place is equally full of normal people dog lovers, and people who think a dog is an abomination and should never be seen in public)
My DB was getting his life back on track, and had hoped with his new living arrangements that he would get joint custody of my niece and nephew and be able to spend some more time with them
So now he knows - he's going to need to provide his own place for them, not find a girlfriend who has a flat and move in and dominate there.
- which would be great for our whole family.
Read: Dear god please don't make me have to take my waster of a brother in again
The dog had been sleeping in the GF room when he moved in, which obviously he wasnt happy with so she moved it to a spare room, but when the kids come to stay they dont like staying in what they call the 'dogs room'. Obviously it lets them know where they are in the pecking order! My DB asked for it to go in the kitchen and the GF started to dig her heels in and its become a real bone of contention.
She should never have agreed to move the dog out of her bedroom tbh. -5 points for MumsnetGirlfriendTM. If he's not a dog lover, he isn't really compatible with this woman.
And they do stand lower down the pecking order in this house: It's HER house, HER dog who was there before her boyfriend and his kids. Don't like it, well don't be in a relationship with her.
He has gone from indifference to the dog to being absolutely fixated on it as the problem
He is not a dog person. His girlfriend is. That's a pretty fundamental difference. If somehow he manages to succeed in convincing MumsnetGirlfriendTM to get rid of her dog, she's going to resent him forever. They're fundamentally just not a good match.
- things like she'll spend £80 on a bag of food when he's trying to clear credit card debt and cant afford to take the kids to the cinema
Once more for those at the back, HER MONEY ISN'T FOR HIM.
She isn't responsible for paying his credit card debts
She isn't responsible for taking his children to the cinema or to McDonalds.
She isn't responsible for providing a dog free spare room for his children
She IS responsible for looking after her own dog to the best of her ability.
he just cant see past it, particularly now shes picked the dog over him.
OF COURSE she was always going to pick the dog over him! He played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. His ultimatum was very nearly the equivalent of her giving him an ultimatum to choose between her and his children - it was always going to go one way. Lesson learned. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
Regardless of if he can lick his wounds and get over it, I suspect that she probably can't get past him trying to give her an ultimatum to get rid of a dog so that he can cocklodge in comfort TBH. I think the relationship is probably over for her, and he needs to accept it.
The dog is treated like a prince whilst the children go without. He isn't dicating how she spends her money, it is just what is adding to the resentment of the dog.
Owner of dog treats dog like a prince, shock horror. Girlfriend of man doesn't prioritise spending on his children she didn't ask for over her dog that she did, in shock horror news story that nobody is surprised by.
I can't believe that you are all saying that you would be happy to see your kids go without whilst an animal gets spoilt rotten! It's not about him being a 'cocklodger' she knew he had kids when he moved in- so I don't know why the idea that they have a room is so baffling? The dog wont know the difference of where it sleeps.
In further outrageous news, somebody who is not-a-dog-person doesn't understand why somebody-who-is-a-dog-person understands and treats her own dog better than they would.
You can get bags of dog food for £30 you can get bags of dog food for £80. Would you all really be able to let it wash over you that £50 is being spent on special food for the dog, rather than a special meal for actual children. And of course when you get involved with someone with kids you take on a degree of responsibilty and care for them!
His. Children. Are. Not. Her. Responsibility.
Her. Dog. IS.
WHY THE EVER LOVING FUCK should she downgrade what she prioritises her spending on so that she can spend more money on "special food" for somebody else's children?!