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Original poster

To think you dont accidentally text your ex this....

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:01

My ex text me the other night "I love you" we haven't spoken in around 2 months or more and we've been split up for 6 years (though we have children so still in contact sometimes) everyone has told me it was obviously an "accident" aibu to think you dont "accidentally" text your ex of 6 years that you love them? How is that an accident? We haven't spoken in 2 months so I would imagine im pretty far down on his messages, also this was text message (he is blocked on whatsapp) and i imagine 99% of people communicate over WhatsApp especially if it was meant for someone he was dating! I know I don't even text anyone anymore but he was still far down from all the other texts I receive from random places. Why do people try to say this stuff is an accident when it clearly wasn't 🤔 aibu to think you dont accidentally text your ex you love them? (Fair enough if we was just speaking a few days ago but we haven't spoken in months)

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Lwg87 · 27/07/2023 22:04

Have you replied and asked?

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:08

Hmmm no as I've been told not to reply, whenever you mention an ex of course its always an "accident" and I should ignore....

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AlfietheSchnauzer · 27/07/2023 22:10

You're still in love with him aren't you

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:12

Nope. Just wondering why people are trying to tell me it’s an accident and always shut you down when it’s an ex it must be you are still in love with them if you dare to question their behaviour! So predictable!

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UrsulaIsMyQueen · 27/07/2023 22:14

Told by who not to reply? Surely that’s your decision, no one else’s?

234vhh · 27/07/2023 22:15

I suppose the question to ask yourself is why are you curious one way or the other? The answer will be more important to you than the one you’re currently looking for.

His motives don’t matter because you’re not him - your motives matter because you matter.

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:15

I asked for advice but was told it was obviously just an accident!

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Bodybop · 27/07/2023 22:15

Why are you posting this again? Still obsessing about it? If it’s bothering you that much just ask him?

youwouldthink · 27/07/2023 22:16

Haven't I read this already this week? Surely if you aren't interested you delete and carry on..

Circumferences · 27/07/2023 22:16

I confess I texted something like that, similar to your situation, tried to pretend it was an accident.
I was in a very strange place emotionally.

Would it be beyond the realm of possibility to check in on him from a mental health perspective.

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:16

Bodybop · 27/07/2023 22:15

Why are you posting this again? Still obsessing about it? If it’s bothering you that much just ask him?

Don’t have to read? It’s silly to tell someone it’s an accident.

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UrsulaIsMyQueen · 27/07/2023 22:16

Ask him. Or don’t. But if you don’t, you’ll never know if it was an accident or not. Ball’s in your court.

Toohardtofindaproperusername · 27/07/2023 22:16

Didn't you post about,this yesterday?.why again?
Its taking up a,lot of your energy and time . Is he worth it?

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:17

Toohardtofindaproperusername · 27/07/2023 22:16

Didn't you post about,this yesterday?.why again?
Its taking up a,lot of your energy and time . Is he worth it?

This is a different question. You don’t have to respond I don’t respond to threads I’m not interested in

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Bodybop · 27/07/2023 22:18

I think the consensus was that he was pissed

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:18

Circumferences · 27/07/2023 22:16

I confess I texted something like that, similar to your situation, tried to pretend it was an accident.
I was in a very strange place emotionally.

Would it be beyond the realm of possibility to check in on him from a mental health perspective.

He does struggle with his MH so this is possible

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INeedAnotherName · 27/07/2023 22:18

Depends if his new girlfriend has the same or similar name as you.

If you are Jessie and she is Jess or Jasmine then it would be very easy to text the wrong person. Everybody has fat thumb syndrome occasionally. Sorry OP.

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MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:19

INeedAnotherName · 27/07/2023 22:18

Depends if his new girlfriend has the same or similar name as you.

If you are Jessie and she is Jess or Jasmine then it would be very easy to text the wrong person. Everybody has fat thumb syndrome occasionally. Sorry OP.

then he would be talking to them on WhatsApp as no one texts anymore 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Choice4567 · 27/07/2023 22:20

It wasn’t an accident. He meant to text you.

234vhh · 27/07/2023 22:20

I do

UrsulaIsMyQueen · 27/07/2023 22:20

I text.

Hannahsbananas · 27/07/2023 22:20

MaxwellCat · 27/07/2023 22:15

I asked for advice but was told it was obviously just an accident!

And that’s very likely exactly what it was…
Do you really think it was meant for you?

PorridgeWithSaltOrSugar · 27/07/2023 22:20

Who pissed in your cornflakes bodybop

Bodybop · 27/07/2023 22:21

OP

Katrinawaves · 27/07/2023 22:21

What age are your children and were they with him when the message was sent?

I’m getting Parent Trap vibes about this!

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