To kick her chair during the inflight meal

[CanStopWillStop]

in short, red eye flight from America. The woman in front reclines her chair as soon as humanly possibly. No issue with that.

the inflight meal comes about 45mins in. She is the ONLY person in the cabin who keeps her seat reclined, bearing in mind she is sat bolt upright to eat.

I don’t believe it’s within my rights to ask her to (do the decent thing and) put her chair up so I can eat in comfort without her chair pressing against my forehead. Instead I did the petty thing and kicked her chair throughout I’m the inflight meal, so she had a taste of the discomfort that I have.

AIBU? 😂

[Mercurial123]

Not read the full thread. You just needed to ask the flight attendant to ask her not to recline. Issue solved.

[AliceOlive]

OP would be an international hero if she’d posted this on tik-tok instead of MN 🤣

[RichardHeed]

@AliceOlive

OP would be an international hero if she’d posted this on tik-tok instead of MN 🤣

Yeah cos the average user age is 12. About the right level of childishness for tiktok

[MojoJoejoe]

@bert3400

No you're passive aggressive, you should of spoken up if you were that bothered, which you obviously are.

This.

OP,youre an absolute coward and a passive aggressive one.

Pathetic.

[Doesthepopeshitinthewoods]

@AliceOlive

You just laughed at the idea of someone punching the OP in the face. Who is the bully?

Also, repeatedly talking about how much better you do things is smug and annoying.

What’s going on with you that you’ve become hyper focused on a silly interaction between two adults you don’t know, being recounted here?

No, they were laughing at the idea of me being punched in the face. Because I joined in with the OP’s silliness and said I’d crumble my crackers in her hair as she slept. Which is apparently ‘technical assault’ and would warrant the woman punching me in the face.

[AliceOlive]

@Doesthepopeshitinthewoods Oh right. We’re you the one that said PO-faced and boring a few pages back? Because that was spot on but you could add a few more adjectives.

[Doesthepopeshitinthewoods]

@AliceOlive

@Doesthepopeshitinthewoods Oh right. We’re you the one that said PO-faced and boring a few pages back? Because that was spot on but you could add a few more adjectives.

Yep. That was me! 🙋‍♀️

[AliceOlive]

Cheers!!

Now the op is a pathetic coward. For not confronting someone over reclining their seat. I suspect they think she should have asked for a manager pointed her finger while giving a speech.

I’m waiting for someone to use the word dastardly.

[MojoJoejoe]

OK, OP- I read back the whole thread and...

What I meant was, you could have handled the situation a lot better and asked the lady and been more assertive or asked the flight attendents.

Posting all these defensive responses is notngoing to do you any favours on MN unfortunately.

[OneAndDon3]

Switch the Aircon on and direct it at her next time.

[TheySeeMeRowling]

Good for OP. Kicking the back of the seat will really show them. You handled the situation well.

[Sassyfox]

Yeah cos the average user age is 12. About the right level of childishness for tiktok

I agree but it seems certain posters probably are that age, which is why their replies are so ridiculous and immature.

[whumpthereitis]

@AliceOlive

Cheers!!

Now the op is a pathetic coward. For not confronting someone over reclining their seat. I suspect they think she should have asked for a manager pointed her finger while giving a speech.

I’m waiting for someone to use the word dastardly.

Or just passed a note asking her to put her seat up? Not exactly a big deal.

Would have taken less energy than kicking the seat of someone that probably didn’t even feel it, and then stewing on it after the event.

[Iwantmyoldnameback]

So now the bully is the person who has been affected adversely by someone else's actions. Okayyy then.

[Doesthepopeshitinthewoods]

@Sassyfox

Yeah cos the average user age is 12. About the right level of childishness for tiktok

I agree but it seems certain posters probably are that age, which is why their replies are so ridiculous and immature.

But….it’s a lighthearted thread! How do you cope being so serious all the time?

[AliceOlive]

@whumpthereitis

Or just passed a note asking her to put her seat up? Not exactly a big deal.

Would have taken less energy than kicking the seat of someone that probably didn’t even feel it, and then stewing on it after the event.

Oh agreed, I’m just remarking on the overreaction the OP is getting from some posters. Pathetic and cowardly? A bully?

[WisherWood]

i have a genuine question here though… a lot of you are saying that the onus is on ME to stop her from being a jerk. I’ve begrudgingly explained why I actively avoid confrontations with strangers. Are you concerned that seat recliner sally was uncomfortable because I kicked her chair, because with that same logic she could have asked me to stop if it were a big deal. 🤔 discuss…

It's more that, had I been on the flight, I'd have been concerned about the behaviour escalating. If you're stuck in a metal tube thousands of feet in the air, with a bunch of poorly evolved apes, who aren't quite as bright as they think they are, and one of them literally starts kicking off, it's a bit worrying.

It's not up to you to stop her being a jerk. That's on her. But once she was being a jerk, I'd just prefer some kind of resolution that makes things comfortable for me. And if you want non-verbal communication, there are a lot of strategies available before you start putting the boot in. Most of the flights I've been on there have been other passengers with whom I don't have a language in common, in which case pointing and gesturing has generally worked well.

I just think you're more likely to get what you want if you try a more amicable and direct solution first. And less likely that a fight might kick off (see what I did there?).

[StaunchMomma]

I voted YABU but only because you didn't ask her to put the seat up.

If you had and she'd refused then I'd have said kick away.

[wontfixstupid]

I'd have probably done the same to be honest 🤷🏼‍♀️ I guess there's 2 violent sociopaths on the loose 🤣
Let's hope we never share a flight...

[whumpthereitis]

@AliceOlive

Oh agreed, I’m just remarking on the overreaction the OP is getting from some posters. Pathetic and cowardly? A bully?

I think that’s just Mumsnet tbh. Someone can post about how their neighbour didn’t return a smile and a wave and you can bet someone will come along to tell you to phone the police because you’ve basically been murdered.

that said, it is a bit cowardly to be so averse to making a polite request to someone (not even confrontation) that all you can do to express yourself is kicking a seat when said object of your ire isn’t even leaning on it. If indeed she did kick the seat, because someone averse to confrontation probably isn’t going to do something that could provoke it.

[Hearmeout]

I'm cringing for you OP.

[MissMaple82]

Do you go through life not speaking due to a speech impediment? I think the impediment might be an easy excuse for your poor behaviour. Yes, she was absolutely annoying and unreasonable but im sure a couple of seconds uncomfort in speaking is far better than the entire meal uncomfortable and angry. It just isn't logical

[MissMaple82]

@CanStopWillStop

Thank you Sigmund, quality input there.

Quite honestly you're coming across really really badly in this entire thread. Your clearly an angry person in general

[SqueakyRadish]

Of course yabu. How hard would it have been to speak to a member of cabin crew and get them to ask her to please put her seat up while you ate?

[Doesthepopeshitinthewoods]

@Hearmeout

I'm cringing for you OP.

I know when people say this it’s designed to try to embarrass an OP (I think this one will cope just fine) but it always makes me feel a bit embarrassed for the poster who said it.

Same goes for the ‘did you mean to be so rude?’ lot.