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AIBU?

To kick her chair during the inflight meal

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CanStopWillStop · 07/03/2023 00:45

in short, red eye flight from America. The woman in front reclines her chair as soon as humanly possibly. No issue with that.

the inflight meal comes about 45mins in. She is the ONLY person in the cabin who keeps her seat reclined, bearing in mind she is sat bolt upright to eat.

I don’t believe it’s within my rights to ask her to (do the decent thing and) put her chair up so I can eat in comfort without her chair pressing against my forehead. Instead I did the petty thing and kicked her chair throughout I’m the inflight meal, so she had a taste of the discomfort that I have.

AIBU? 😂

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bert3400 · 07/03/2023 00:47

You should of just asked her to put her seat up

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Lavender14 · 07/03/2023 00:48

Why didn't you just ask her to put her seat up while you're both eating? Is this a reverse or are you 4 years old!

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GrumpyPanda · 07/03/2023 00:49

Get a flight attendant. How old are you and how cone your parents haven't switched off the router at this hour?

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gelatogina · 07/03/2023 00:50

This would drive me crazy too but yabu for not just asking her to put her chair forward

also it’s a shame the flight attendants didn’t notice and tell her. I’ve seen them do this on many a flight

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CanStopWillStop · 07/03/2023 00:50

🤣🤣🤣 uh oh, did I get this wrong? I’m inconsiderate, she is not – got it!

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bert3400 · 07/03/2023 00:53

No you're passive aggressive, you should of spoken up if you were that bothered, which you obviously are.

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CanStopWillStop · 07/03/2023 00:55

bert3400 · 07/03/2023 00:53

No you're passive aggressive, you should of spoken up if you were that bothered, which you obviously are.

Is kicking her chair non verbal communication? I’d like to think so…

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Suzi888 · 07/03/2023 00:55

YANBU

Posters have no sense of humour. 😂

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CanStopWillStop · 07/03/2023 00:59

I’m dying at the overt concern for rude recliner lady’s comfort 🤣 I would call the odd chair kick just desserts but it was only cheese and crackers on the flight…

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bhiffandcip · 07/03/2023 01:01

Why didn't you just ask her to put her seat up?

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/03/2023 01:04

I just don’t understand why you didn’t ask her? Surely makes more sense than kicking a chair?

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Sockloon · 07/03/2023 01:05

Wow how very amusing, I'm guessing we all think your brilliant NOT!

How about next time just talk to the person 🙄.

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CanStopWillStop · 07/03/2023 01:06

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/03/2023 01:04

I just don’t understand why you didn’t ask her? Surely makes more sense than kicking a chair?

Possibly outing, but since you asked… I have a stutter and dislike speaking to strangers

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Inkypot · 07/03/2023 01:06

Ok, so you know you were being unreasonable and could've asked her to put the seat up. But she also must've know she was being unreasonable by not putting it up in the first place so I'm on the fence with this one 😂
Would depend on the kind of day I'd had. If I was having a day where everything was going wrong and I'd just had enough of people then I might be tempted to do something like you OP- not saying it's right, but it would be tempting!

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CanStopWillStop · 07/03/2023 01:08

Sockloon · 07/03/2023 01:05

Wow how very amusing, I'm guessing we all think your brilliant NOT!

How about next time just talk to the person 🙄.

if I kicked your chair sockloon, I apologise. Please recline responsibly

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CanStopWillStop · 07/03/2023 01:10

Inkypot · 07/03/2023 01:06

Ok, so you know you were being unreasonable and could've asked her to put the seat up. But she also must've know she was being unreasonable by not putting it up in the first place so I'm on the fence with this one 😂
Would depend on the kind of day I'd had. If I was having a day where everything was going wrong and I'd just had enough of people then I might be tempted to do something like you OP- not saying it's right, but it would be tempting!

Finally, a balanced and considered opinion 😆💓

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SirenSays · 07/03/2023 01:10

Dislike speaking to strangers but then do something that makes it likely said stranger is going to have a pissed off word with you 🤔 weird choice but OK

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WednesdaysPlaits · 07/03/2023 01:13

Yes, you were an arsehole. You seem very proud of it which makes you a double arsehole.

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Sockloon · 07/03/2023 01:14

Okay what ever your initial post was not funny and all your replies are either. Just makes me wonder what sort of person thinks kicking a seat in the first instance is clever rather than just asking. But I guess I have have my answer 🥱.

Unfunny and violent nice personality traits.

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CanStopWillStop · 07/03/2023 01:15

SirenSays · 07/03/2023 01:10

Dislike speaking to strangers but then do something that makes it likely said stranger is going to have a pissed off word with you 🤔 weird choice but OK

Add the clause Siren… “dislike speaking to strangers… BECAUSE I HAVE A DEBILITATING SPEECH IMPEDIMENT”

i assume you understand the weird choices and words I avoid daily just to get through the day without pitiful looks…

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CanStopWillStop · 07/03/2023 01:16

Sockloon · 07/03/2023 01:14

Okay what ever your initial post was not funny and all your replies are either. Just makes me wonder what sort of person thinks kicking a seat in the first instance is clever rather than just asking. But I guess I have have my answer 🥱.

Unfunny and violent nice personality traits.

Violent 😭 oh dear god… somebody call crimestoppers

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Sockloon · 07/03/2023 01:21

Definition of Physical violence. a person is exerting control over another person through the use of physical force
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If you can't communicate with other people with our kicking maybe you should not be in public just saying. 🙄
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Fraaahnces · 07/03/2023 01:22

Reclining her seat while you’re eating is rude. Kicking even more rude. There is nothing passive about it - it’s simply aggressive. Asking her to put her seat up until the meal items are cleared away is straightforward communication. If she ignored you or said no, you call the flight attendant and ask her to get her to put her seat up. It’s not rocket science. USE YOUR WORDS. (Btw, the flight attendants usually request this in an announcement when they say that they’re about to bring the food around as well.)

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CanStopWillStop · 07/03/2023 01:23

Look, I’ll be honest – I’m tired, jet lagged and absolutely petty. Yesss I could had tapped Wreck-it Recliner on the shoulder and asked her to put it up.

But you know what. I didn’t want to. Why should I further my discomfort by forcing myself to communicate with her verbally… so I kicked her chair a few times to teach her a VIOLENT lesson in plane etiquette. (lol seriously please do call crimestoppers for my random act of violence - guilty as charged)

I shall await the thread about angry stuttering lady who kicks chairs imminently.

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Inkypot · 07/03/2023 01:24

Fraaahnces · 07/03/2023 01:22

Reclining her seat while you’re eating is rude. Kicking even more rude. There is nothing passive about it - it’s simply aggressive. Asking her to put her seat up until the meal items are cleared away is straightforward communication. If she ignored you or said no, you call the flight attendant and ask her to get her to put her seat up. It’s not rocket science. USE YOUR WORDS. (Btw, the flight attendants usually request this in an announcement when they say that they’re about to bring the food around as well.)

"Use your words" to someone who has now repeatedly stated she has a speech impediment seems like a poor choice of words.

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