To ask when you had your first child..

[over30sclub]

Disclaimer - not a real AIBU I couldn’t find another topic where you can vote

I’ve recently turned 30 and been TTC for a while (not happened yet :D) and it seems like every single person I know from school or in my age range had children ages ago (friends with children 10+ for example). All of my close friends have children - albeit younger - but I’m starting to think that I’m in the minority and I’ll be an older mum at the school gates, if and when it happens.

So.. I wanted to get a gauge outside of the small world that is my friends and Facebook, how many of you had your first child before 30??

YABU - I had my first child at 30+
YANBU - I had my first child younger than 30

Ps no judgment or one ups - neither is better or worse, I’m just curious to see the %
Pps I’m a semi regular poster - name changed as I picked a rubbish one before and was sick of it 😂

33 when DD was born. Would have been 35 with number 2 but miscarried at 10 weeks and for various reasons I'm definitely one and done now.

DD has just turned 8 and in her class the majority of the mums are my age, give or take a year or two either way. So 30+ seems pretty much the norm where I am.

Best of luck with your ttc journey x

I remember being at a play group with my DD when I was aged 18. I made friends with a lady who was 33 with her first child. At the time I thought she was ridiculously old to be having a baby!

I had my second DD aged 32. I was still one of the youngest mums in the local play groups.

Ah you know I was just having a down moment because I turn 28 today and thinking I'm old but it's just the way society has made us think about ourselves.

I had my first at 21 and my second at 27

15 and 25
Grandma at 36 and 50

Pregnant at 40 but gave birth at 41

Aged 44. Surprise baby!

41. I think this was too old in hindsight. I think 35 is probably a good age, so you've had time to have a "life", establish a career, and have finances sorted

Gov stats say the average is 30. It's been not too far off that most years since the 1930s.

21 and 23. I'm almost 33 and it was the best decision for us.

I was 26 & 27 when I had mine

33 and 34!

I was 29. I wanted to have my first before I was 30. I'd got my degree, my career was in a good place, I'd been married a couple of years, it was the right time for me. It took me 11 months to conceive though.

First born at 18. I am almost 31 and pregnant with twins.

FWIW I wouldn't think anything strange about anyone under 45 being pregnant, and I only would after that as it is more unusual.

I turned 30 last year then fell pregnant 2 months later. Will give birth the month before my 31st birthday but will almost be a month before my 31st (shy a few days) unless he comes early. This is my first.

I would have loved them younger, but it doesn't always work out that way. Had my first at 37 and am currently TTC at 40. I know it's not too old really and lots of women do it, but I reeeeally didn't want to be having a baby in my 40s.

28 and 32

We were 26. Would have been 24, had I not had a stillborn.
We were done by 27 🤣 (2 kids)

41 and 43. Took about four months trying each time.

45+2 It was something of a surprise to discover ds was on the way. 😀

I was 31 and younger than most of my friends.

25 and 29 but I was one of the younger ones at the school tbh (mine are teens now)

36 and 38 but our first was born after around three years of fertility treatment, so started around 33. Good luck!

31

27 & 29 but it was 20 years ago. Second youngest in a friendship group of 7 made early after DC1 was born. 13 year age difference between oldest & youngest Mum in the group (all first born DC).

28 then had another at 32.