CF and the City

[ThePriceOfSugar]

I live in NYC.

A couple of months ago, an old friend got in touch with me for the first time in about a year and expressed that she wanted to come to the US on holiday. I said cool, I'll give you my recommendations for NYC.

Just now, she's said to me "I'm arriving on March 10th and heading to New Orleans on the 17th. Is it still okay for me to stay with you?"

Needless to say, she never even asked. I'm quite breathtaken by the cheek. Last time I saw this girl was 6 years ago, when she....invited herself to stay (different city).

I'm not down to save this girl $2,000 in hotel and convenience bills. But how should I phrase my reply? Hold me back....

I think I'd be sending her a link to air BnB. CF indeed!!

"Ah no sorry, we didn't discuss accomodation. I'm not having overnight guests, still happy to meet for a drink/catch up though. Shall we say the first Friday/insert other random day?"

“Sorry I’m actually away then”

New Yorkers have a reputation for being rude, so go nuts with your reply

Or just, 'Nice try. Enjoy your Air BnB'.

You just need to say a simple,

"No you can't stay with me. If you need some recommendations for nice areas give me a shout and if you fancy catching up for a drink give me a shout when you arrive"

You just say, oh sorry you must have got crossed wires, I'm not able to host you but X and Y look like nice hotels

“No, sorry, if you’d have asked previously I could possibly have found a way to make that work, but not now.”

We had people visit us more in NYC than at any other time, but they were always close friends or family.

I’m just here for whatever the exchange is in the end!

@Sparklfairy I AM SO TEMPTED. But I know that all the sensible people here have better advice... 😈

Does she have your address? What are the chances she will just turn up?

could you just say ‘No that’s not possible’ and be done!

"I don't remember discussing you staying over - we must have crossed wires. Sadly I'm not able to have any overnight guests, but I'd love to meet up whilst you're in the city! Let me know when works for you."

Sorry, unfortunately my place isn't suitable to accommodate guests but I can recommend good hotels for you to stay.

I'm confused, I offered recommendations, not accomodation. Did you misread? Unfortunately I cannot offer to put you up. Happy to offer recommendations per my previous message.

@theemmadilemma this is quite delicious

This one! To the point but can’t be accused of rudeness.

Toying with sliding some true shithole places into my recommendations also. Never make a reservation at Piccolo Angolo in the west village y'all

Following to see how this goes 😂

@theemmadilemma

This is perfect

Please do. 😂

Yay a live CF thread, I always see them after it's all over.

Do you want to still be friends with her?
Because that'll determine how rude you can go 😁

Dont put "sorry" or "unfortunately" in because that'll open the door for her begging you or trying to guilt trip you.

I'd change the message to
*I'm confused, I offered recommendations, not accomodation. Did you misread?
I cannot offer to put you up. Happy to offer recommendations per my previous message.

“ hey! I don’t remember you asking to stay 🤦🏽‍♀️( the emoji is important) I’m actually hosting some Jehovah’s witnesses/ friends/family that week. They asked in advance and have offered to pay for my inconvenience”

Yanbu. I also like @theemmadilemma message!

Oh OP I can't wait to see your reply!

I'd just ignore her - cba with CF's.

Id just be breezy about it, I guess she thinks as she stayed with you last time she can again.

" Wires crossed! No space for overnight guests at mine, but I can ask around for good air bnb recommendations for you? "