We were away for Christmas. In laws have our key for emergencies. The night before we left, in laws came round. I was in the middle of packing and a lot of things were everywhere ( but the house wasn't actually dirty ).
MIL kept saying, ' don't worry about cleaning the house before you leave, you won't have time '.. ( she's been asking me whether I was packed to go for about a week before I left. I don't pack a week early. I tend to pack the day before and I always manage fine. I travel a lot and always have and have traveled with my kids a lot too, so I do know what I'm doing..
Anyhow, the house wasn't dirty, there was just clothes everywhere as I was packing. MIL kept repeating I should not worry about cleaning.. kind of annoyed me, as it wasn't dirty. But OK.. I ignored it. She then said she'd come and clean while we were away. I said no don't worry at all, it's not dirty..
Of course, we got back and it's clearly been cleaned a bit ( fridge has been cleaned, for example ). Of course I'm grateful and I've said thanks. But I'm really uncomfortable with it. I assume she thinks I'm a dirty cow of course. Just the way she kept saying I shouldn't worry about cleaning - when it wasn't really dirty. The fact she was here when we were not here and the fact I had declined the offer of her cleaning my house.. it's annoyed me. I won't start a fight over it, but next time we go away, this can't happen.
AIBU?
In laws cleaned our house while away....
ohnnoclean · 28/12/2022 08:22
Stressedmum2017 · 28/12/2022 09:09
She obviously has higher standards than you and wanted to make a nice surprise for you on your return. I think it was done with good intentions. Lots of people do have a thorough clean before going away. Not really sure how you make a mess to pack to be honest, the stuff comes out drawers and into the suitcases....
HarvestThyme · 28/12/2022 09:17
My parents do this. So I bought them the specific cleaning products they like, and leave them out in a bucket on the counter whenever they visit. They get into tiny spaces with steel wool and toothbrushes. It's quite something.
They have stories to tell about their 'slovenly' daughter, and I have stories to tell about my batshit parents. I also have a kitchen sterile enough to perform surgery. They're happy, and I'm.... amused.
You're not wrong to be offended, OP. But you can choose to be uncaring about the offence. And ask MIL if she has a preferred brand of cream cleaner for next time.
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