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To pull my cleaner up on this?

205 replies

Trendytrousers · 31/07/2022 18:47

I have a TikTok account but don’t post on it, just watch other videos!

Like instagram TikTok pushes accounts linked to phone contacts to your home page.

Scrolling yesterday, I’ve been astounded to find multiple videos posted by my cleaner dancing, singing and wearing accessories (hat and sunglasses) in my bedroom on her account. She’s done this many times as she has different outfits on in each. She’s sat on my bed, dancing in my mirror and posing with my hat (left out on a hanger) and sunglasses taken from my bedside table.

She cleans once every two weeks for 2 hours and I leave her alone for one hour so she can get my office done as I WFH. I have found her so far trustworthy although she’s damaged a few things I’ve mentioned to her.

Her cleaning is good but I find her a bit strange and blunt but thought that’s a language barrier thing (she’s asked a few times how I can afford to live alone in my flat)

I want to raise it with her- but am I overreacting?

OP posts:
StaunchMomma · 31/07/2022 22:13

I'd have to let her go for that, I think.

It's really unprofessional & you're paying her for the time she's making the bloody vids!!

StaunchMomma · 31/07/2022 22:14

PS - Well done Mumsnet for dealing with the Troll Hunters - they ruin too many threads.

Viviennemary · 31/07/2022 22:18

Say that sounds fun. Can we dance in your bedroom for a change, You can show me how,

Bellysmackers · 31/07/2022 22:32

🤣🤣🤣

NicLondon1 · 31/07/2022 22:32

If she owns a key, is it possible she is coming at other times or days when you’re out…?

JamSandwich89 · 31/07/2022 22:33

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 31/07/2022 19:47

Right - so let’s all pitch up at OP’s house, sit in her bedroom and watch said TikTok videos

🤣🤣🤣

CactusBlossom · 31/07/2022 22:38

Well she wasn't working very hard you've be paying her to make videos in your home with your things! If she came from an agency, you should let them know. Let her go straightaway... I wonder how things got broken is that on video? Seems like she is totally unaware of boundaries, and who knows how much further this could go if you don't cancel her services -- parties, perhaps?

vipersnest1 · 31/07/2022 22:41

@StaunchMomma, 👍

gardenofweedin · 31/07/2022 22:48

Can't imagine why you'd continue to employ someone after that, particularly if you already have had problems with her.

Wheresthebeach · 31/07/2022 22:51

You are fucking kidding right? How could you even contemplate doing anything but firing her immediately.

Tellmewhyaintnothinbutaheartbreak · 31/07/2022 22:54

No way. I’d need to sack her.

that’s a huge invasion of privacy

RedCardigan · 31/07/2022 22:56

Record everything she has posted in your house on TikTok .
Then if she has keys change the locks and tell her she is fired with immediate effect.

GoPogo · 31/07/2022 23:03

We don't know what you look like.

NotMushroomInEre · 31/07/2022 23:03

There was a person on here the other night whose cleaner brought their baby/toddler/child. I thought that person was being somewhat unreasonable.

I would be absolutely fuming if someone came to my house to do a job and started creating tiktoks. That IS taking the piss. Invading privacy, absolutely not acceptable.

RebeccaCloud9 · 31/07/2022 23:15

Oh bugger just voted wrong whilst scrolling. You are NOT u!! Sorry 😞

ChinnyTroubles · 31/07/2022 23:30

RebeccaCloud9 · 31/07/2022 23:15

Oh bugger just voted wrong whilst scrolling. You are NOT u!! Sorry 😞

You can just click on the choice you want and it will change your vote

NSA2103 · 31/07/2022 23:32

Sack her.

BellaLab · 31/07/2022 23:40

Is this like the parking threads where a diagram or photo is required? Link to the offending TikTok upload please (in order to make an informed decision on voting) 😂

Tougherpolicies · 31/07/2022 23:49

I'd sack the fecker immediately and change the bloomin locks, what a cf

Minoloso · 31/07/2022 23:57

God there are some sad sacks on here. OP, ignore them.

HRTQueen · 01/08/2022 00:10

i would let her go and tell her why

none of us need proof but as usual one demands it or makes a snide comment and others pathetically follow 🙄

it really isn’t such a big issue to anyone but the op

Elsiid · 01/08/2022 00:12

Has she replied?

brownbreadicecream · 01/08/2022 00:21

Leave a tempting hat out next time, filled with golden syrup...

SleepingAgent · 01/08/2022 00:37

Flavabobble · 31/07/2022 20:05

You need to do a reaction video, using a clip from one of her tiktoks. Shake a finger and mime out "you're sacked".

Oh this is an epic idea! Grin

SleepingAgent · 01/08/2022 00:44

Gasmyarse · 31/07/2022 21:42

Am I the only one that does not see it as a massive deal. Its only hat and glasses. She does a bit of tiktok using them. And puts them back. And does her job the place is tidy ? Maybe it's a little escape for her for 5 mins. It would not bother me. I can understand it might others though. But I would not say it was a sacking offence. That would be so unfair.

The cleaner is being paid by the hour to clean, not dick around making tiktoks. Confused

It won't be 5 minutes, I'm certain of that. Do you know how long people take to make those? It's not one shot and done Grin