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To pull my cleaner up on this?

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Trendytrousers · 31/07/2022 18:47

I have a TikTok account but don’t post on it, just watch other videos!

Like instagram TikTok pushes accounts linked to phone contacts to your home page.

Scrolling yesterday, I’ve been astounded to find multiple videos posted by my cleaner dancing, singing and wearing accessories (hat and sunglasses) in my bedroom on her account. She’s done this many times as she has different outfits on in each. She’s sat on my bed, dancing in my mirror and posing with my hat (left out on a hanger) and sunglasses taken from my bedside table.

She cleans once every two weeks for 2 hours and I leave her alone for one hour so she can get my office done as I WFH. I have found her so far trustworthy although she’s damaged a few things I’ve mentioned to her.

Her cleaning is good but I find her a bit strange and blunt but thought that’s a language barrier thing (she’s asked a few times how I can afford to live alone in my flat)

I want to raise it with her- but am I overreacting?

OP posts:
thisisit77 · 31/07/2022 18:59

Video or it didn't happen

RenegadeMatron · 31/07/2022 18:59

You need to get better props for her. Think novelty sunglasses….

To pull my cleaner up on this?
RenegadeMatron · 31/07/2022 19:00

Canyoudigityesyoucan · 31/07/2022 18:58

@RenegadeMatron because I had posted something about asking for advice on a sensitive subject and didn’t want the two linked

Well, they’re well and truly linked now.

Canyoudigityesyoucan · 31/07/2022 19:01

I don’t really want to post the video because it has my flat in (very clearly, think in my bedroom with my furniture, clothes and family photos!) and also you can see her really clearly (obviously) too. I could give her TikTok account which is public but then I feel as bad as she is.

Silverfinch · 31/07/2022 19:03

Post a link to one of her other videos then, we won't know which one is your house

TalkingToMyselfAgain · 31/07/2022 19:05

If that actually happened, then I'd sack her straight away, and tell her the reasons why.

Soubriquet · 31/07/2022 19:08

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KyaClark · 31/07/2022 19:08

Canyoudigityesyoucan · 31/07/2022 19:01

I don’t really want to post the video because it has my flat in (very clearly, think in my bedroom with my furniture, clothes and family photos!) and also you can see her really clearly (obviously) too. I could give her TikTok account which is public but then I feel as bad as she is.

But you said you'd send videos to prove it?

cockandball · 31/07/2022 19:12

Sack.

Itisasecret · 31/07/2022 19:13

Jesus, troll uniting is against MN rules. What is with the obsession with MN demanding proof. I’d never post anything remotely identifying like my house or potential pics of my family on here. There are some crazy people on the internet and a lot congregate here.

If you don’t believe it move on. Op, I wouldn’t identify your house on here.

Canyoudigityesyoucan · 31/07/2022 19:17

I‘m not going to share the videos of my flat, or put her public TikTok account on her. I asked for everyone’s opinions as I need to handle it with her. She still has a key to my flat!

Im not a troll and it did happen. @KyaClark If you want a video or screen recording I’m happy to PM you so you can verify to thread!

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KyaClark · 31/07/2022 19:19

Canyoudigityesyoucan · 31/07/2022 19:17

I‘m not going to share the videos of my flat, or put her public TikTok account on her. I asked for everyone’s opinions as I need to handle it with her. She still has a key to my flat!

Im not a troll and it did happen. @KyaClark If you want a video or screen recording I’m happy to PM you so you can verify to thread!

Happy to do that for you.

GinaMaloney · 31/07/2022 19:21

Canyoudigityesyoucan · 31/07/2022 19:17

I‘m not going to share the videos of my flat, or put her public TikTok account on her. I asked for everyone’s opinions as I need to handle it with her. She still has a key to my flat!

Im not a troll and it did happen. @KyaClark If you want a video or screen recording I’m happy to PM you so you can verify to thread!

You can definitely pm me with the videos. I’d happily verify for you.

Canyoudigityesyoucan · 31/07/2022 19:23

@KyaClark @GinaMaloney you have them both via PM

Adelaide66 · 31/07/2022 19:24

Extremely bizarre behaviour

KyaClark · 31/07/2022 19:24

Oh my god.

That's so creepy. The rap one on the bed especially.

You could post a link to her TikTok because no one would know which flat is yours but I'm happy to confirm that it's real.

Itisasecret · 31/07/2022 19:24

MN is batshit. Op you shouldn’t have to verify yourself to anyone on here. In facts it is nuts people think it’s even remotely acceptable to ask. You should just let MN decide. People who think it’s appropriate to demand personally identifying information on the internet are not the full ticket.

PS - I’d sack her.

Canyoudigityesyoucan · 31/07/2022 19:25

Thanks @KyaClark I’d rather not but glad you’ve seen them and know I’m not a troll!

limitededitionbarbie · 31/07/2022 19:27

I'd immediately create another video with you posing with her cleaning stuff and tag her or whatever you do on tik tok

Studyafter40 · 31/07/2022 19:27

I believe you op. My cousin is a painter and decorator and regularly posts photos and videos of clients homes pretending they are his. In one of them he was topless! 🤮 He also stands next to cars on their driveways for his profile pics 😂

Canyoudigityesyoucan · 31/07/2022 19:28

I have never posted on TIkTok I just browse for funny videos. You should have seen my face when the full video of my bedroom came up whilst I was sat in bed….

KyaClark · 31/07/2022 19:29

No I wouldn't want to either.

It wouldn't have been so bad if she'd asked for permission. The fact she hasn't must feel like a violation.

For info, she's got over 1000 followers.

CPL593H · 31/07/2022 19:31

KyaClark · 31/07/2022 19:24

Oh my god.

That's so creepy. The rap one on the bed especially.

You could post a link to her TikTok because no one would know which flat is yours but I'm happy to confirm that it's real.

Not being funny, but you have seen film from a Tiktok account. You have nothing to link it to the OP or her cleaner definitively, unless the OP sends you separate footage of her room. If she has, my apologies.

Canyoudigityesyoucan · 31/07/2022 19:31

@KyaClark hadn’t even thought about number of followers….