To be annoyed with MIL

[LeafHunter]

DHs family always go away each year. It’s him, his four siblings and everyone’s partners and children. We’re going on 2nd august.

MIL had just text to say she’s tested positive for Covid and so has cancelled the family holiday. She said she can’t guarantee she will be testing negative by then. FIL is negative currently.

Im annoyed as we’ve booked all flights, car hire etc. PIL pay for the villa and we all pay for the rest. This is widely out of character for them.

If that's the case, than the family members who can, can spend a bit more to cover them. If they don't want to, then they can find cheaper lodging or cut back on other things to be able to.

The post and the comments sound like it's full of entitlement and that's the annoying part of it all. Covid is serious. To be remotely upset at the MIL in any way is very odd and entitled sounded. So assuming that the OP is not entitled and has empathy... then instead of being upset, it's time to problem solve.

What about the bit where MiL "begged" them not to go without her because SiL couldn't possibly manage without her there to babysit? Is it "empathy" to say screw you, we're going anyway?

DH is at work and can’t check his phone there so I don’t think he knows yet. I get on with his family but not to the extent of being able to say “wtf is happening”.

That doesn't add up. You go away with his parents, siblings, there partners etc every year which sounds absolutely weird in itself, but yet aren't comfortable to ask what is going down?

It just doesn't add up. Sorry. If you are comfortable enough to go on some strange commune-type interfamily holiday, then you must be very, very comfortable and relaxed with them.

Forgot to add that I'd be delighted it was cancelled, you can now try to set a new tradition with holidaying with your DH and DC, like normal families do. Yeah you lost some money, but it surely would be a massive relief. I'd be jumping for joy if I were you.

it’s my first holiday with them due to Covid and when we got married but they’ve done this for same island for about ten years.

DH goes every year. Not OP.

I’m not so sure @DashboardConfessional as looking at the OP her DH was in a cult which his parents didn’t like.

Well, firstly OP says he goes every year. "It's him, his 4 siblings" and so on. She also says it was a vaguely Christian cult, not that he was locked in a barn in Lincolnshire for 20 years.

Secondly - I was responding to someone saying OP must be comfortable with his family if they go each year and that would be even less true if DH doesn't normally go.

Ok, chill out! Just an observation. I did say I’m not so sure.

Hmm. I suspect you just wanted an excuse to bring up the cult having advance searched. 😁

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I think it’s clear that MIL is a bit of a control freak, so maybe it’s just easier to go with the flow than object. The fact that they were considering resorting to lies to cover up for the family going without PIL bears that out.

At this late stage
she would have lost 100% of the cost anyway!

@YoYoLife OP says this is the first year she'll be going with them.

Also, just because you wouldn't enjoy something like this, doesn't mean it's not 'normal'.

To me it doesn’t add up because at such a late stage, 100% of villa cost would have been payable if not already paid already

Any update OP?