To make child pay for his own uniform?

[Unifrom]

My child is 8 and is very unorganised, he’s constantly losing his belongings at school and with the cost of living I can’t keep up like this. They never get found/returned despite them all being labelled.

The latest thing is his fleece, that costs £19. Went missing on Monday and hasn’t been handed in, need to sort it. He gets pocket money at £2 per week and saves this up to buy something big, so he can cover this.

Me and DH can’t agree on whether he should have to pay for the cost of a new one out of pocket money.

So AIBU to think it would be a good life lesson for him to have to pay for a replacement? Or is he too young to have to pay for his own uniform?

Yes, yes they do..

@Unifrom

I didn't say I thought you were an authoritarian impatient mother who is doing a bad job - although that's what I think you heard me say.

That's what I mean about internalised figures who criticise us for not measuring up. That's what you hear regardless of the reality.

It's not an all or nothing world. You might be a great mum to your son and still be wrong about this particular thing.

I think when people say you are wrong about this you hear them say your whole parenting is terrible.

Talk to him, he's not daft.

Tell him you can't afford to keep replacing what he keeps losing. Ask him to help you by being more careful. And tell him that when he helps out by not losing his stuff, he'll get a reward. Be really clear about the reward, every day adds a small amount - blend of term if you have not lost anything, you will get abc.

The carrot is mightier than the stick ;)

So you’d use food as a punishment for a two year old in the hope you were teaching them something?

Aged two.

Unless you have actual evidence that he's definitely being slack then no.
My dd lost a whole new pe kit bag and it ended up being Found when the teachers did a huge clear out and it was behind the bookshelf! There's no way she would have found that.
They need support and help at this age from home and From school.
Don't punish hi.

*threw

How do you know she wasn’t playing or exploring? Ie doing normal, cognitive development for a two year old?

Slightly different but DS (same age) wreaked two pairs of joggers at school in two weeks. They were £4 from Primark and I made him come in with me and replace them out of his pocket money the second time. He shrugged and said it's only £4 that's two weeks pocket money.

Our school has a uniform rail where uniform is left and people can make a small donation to the school or take something and swop it over