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Snooping neighbor has cut the top off my tree so he can get a better view into my garden. How should I approach this with him

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mug2018 · 07/01/2022 08:56

I'll start off by saying that I live in a really lovely close, where my neighbors are in red supportive & kind (I'm a recently divorced single mum)
My Nextdoor neighbors are generally really kind. Pop round to feed the cat when I'm away, put my bins out, help me with jobs I'm stuck with etc. However, Mr Neighbors is so unbelievably nosy. For example, when I was sunbathing on my trampoline he text me to check I was ok as he had 'noticed' I'd been asleep for a while 😳
He regularly comments on what I've been doing when I've been in my garden 😣
On a number of occasions I've directly told him to stop nosing into my garden, and also in front of his wife (she told him off too) (he looks out of their upstairs, spare room window)
I have a tree that I'm growing to try to mask his view. I was away for a few days over Christmas and having come home, I see it's been cut to the level of the top of the 6ft fence. It's not s massive tree but it will help when (if it ever is allowed) to grow.
I'm amused but equally fuming.
My partner is going to build a canopy over my patio in the spring that will mask his view, but for gods sack ... this has now pissed me off.
How would you approach this. They are generally really nice and kind people, but this is just a step over the mark 😩

OP posts:
Ericabro · 30/04/2022 20:37

I would consider changing your locks in case he had keys cut from when he had a key also love x

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 30/04/2022 20:39

Well done OP 👏
Nicely resolved.

bellabasset · 30/04/2022 21:10

I can't believe he didn't know that it was totally unacceptable to look at people in their gardens. I don't blame your dd for being reluctant to go outside. Those sails are ideal if you can fit them so you can take them down when it's windy or they're not in use.

mug2018 · 30/04/2022 23:03

@bellabasset .. we have a shelter put up that obscures his view and gives us privacy without blocking our sunshine
I also made it perfectly clear to him, after he passed comment on it 😣 .. that it was installed purposely to provide privacy & prevent him from snooping.
He was made to feel very uncomfortable & he knows I will name & shame him, without warning & with evidence, if I catch him doing it again.

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StyxBankDweller · 02/05/2022 18:29

mug2018 · 30/04/2022 23:03

@bellabasset .. we have a shelter put up that obscures his view and gives us privacy without blocking our sunshine
I also made it perfectly clear to him, after he passed comment on it 😣 .. that it was installed purposely to provide privacy & prevent him from snooping.
He was made to feel very uncomfortable & he knows I will name & shame him, without warning & with evidence, if I catch him doing it again.

Good for you!

EnjoyingTheSilence · 06/05/2022 08:04

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