to think Swinging is disgusting? (long rant sorry)

[TanishasMum]

I have a problem with friends of ours that are into swinging - she even likes women iykwim?. The thing is, DH likes this couple and don't get me wrong they are a nice couple but I feel very uncomfortable around them especially her as she constantly talks about sex and what they get up to with other couples (makes me feel sick).

Anyway, we meet up with them once a month for a drink/meal and their DD is the same age as ours but AIBU to not want to bother with this couple anymore? My DH likes them though - I think her constant flirting flatters him she is rather big breasted and she asks him jokingly if he wants a feel . I am not exaggerating about this, she is the biggest flirt I have ever met in my life.

I think DH is more than happy to continue the friendship but I am not. I am defo not into swinging but I am wondering if my DH secretly wants to . So AIBU?

tigermoth - he does flirt with me but I am 100% not interested in them. Swinging is abnormal.

FWIW my view is that some people might like to swing and some might not, and there's no judgment either way, as long as no-one is being co-erced into anything.

But if some woman was coming rround and asking my dh to cop a feel of her wangers when I had told him I was uncomfortable with it, I would not be issuing invitations for coffee to her

some girls swing
some girls don't
some girls need a lotta lovin anda
some girls don't

Racey!
Weston Super Mare !!

Give the girl a coconut!

Looks like another of those threads that could go either way.

Racey! Every time I start feelling like the Oldest Mother IN The World, five minutes on MN sorts me out

Anyway. to the OP: it sounds like other people's swinging activities are pretty irrelevant to your situation, which is that you and your DH have issues around sex. This isn't your fault but nor is it his fault. If you (wanting sex once a week) split up with your current DH (wants it once a day) and had a relationship with someone who only wanted it once a month then you'd be the one feeling frustrated and having a partner maon at you for being an oversexed monster.

It's fair to say that for some couples, exploring the swinging scene can help sort out some sexual difficulties, but I can't see that working in your case. You need to have a proper talk with your DH about what you both want and how to get a solution that you're both happy with, whether it's him taking you on romantic dates to put you in the mood or you accepting him looking at porn and taking care of his sexual needs that way when you're not in the mood - or any other variation that leaves you both feeling happy with what's going on.

It's difficult to know what's going to swing it.

O pointy birds, o pointy pointy,
Anoint my head, anointy-nointy.

It'll sort itself out, bye-the-bi....

Steve Martin: The Man with Two Brains!

Ha ha ... I was reciting this to my son today. He found it hilarious!!

Oh pointy bird, Oh, pointy pointy,
Anoint my head, anointy-noint.

ROFL

.. and that should be 'nointy.'

Anyhow, bring on the puns!

YANBU! What they do is their own business but they shouldn't be rubbing it in your face. You don't need to know about their disgusting lifestyle.

It was a tribute to pointy's versification. I have just spent 20 happy minutes on the wikipedia 'Man With Two Brains' quotes page.

[shick]

madame, you saying I'm feckin old?!

That's the first time I've seen a grin on your face. You're normally rather strict.

rhank you wonks. There is indeed a link

however I cannot match the wonder words of racey

oh it just sinks lower.

What exactly is getting rubbed in their face, lady? That sounds a step too far. Even for madamez

ROFL @ rubbing it in your face

Zippitippitoes - are you a man?

Tee hee.....

Policy .. "Who are those arseholes on the porch?"

at last thanks for that now i can go to bed and wank

ED, I meant that as an innocent statement! Now I have awful visions in my mind