I hate my height

[Purpledolphin223]

I’m 5’8, nearly 5’9 and I absolutely hate my height

Most of my life many of my friends have been shorter than me, dresses don’t cover my bum, cropped shirts are just a nightmare and have only had one relationship (I’m 20)

I just feel so unfeminine sometimes, most guys are my height and pay me no interest as I’m not shorter than them, I think I have a nice personality and I’m kind and friendly, but it feels not enough :((

I just don’t know how to get past this, I’ve always dreamed of being smaller. Even photos make me so embarrassed I stand out ridiculously tall from the others

Obviously heels are not an option

Sorry the rambling, just needed to get this off my chest, my friends say my height is lovely but I don’t feel happy at all

I'm 5'8 and never felt especially tall. Yes I have shorter friends but there are plenty taller too and plenty men 5'10 and above so I think it's your confidence and not your height. You are hardly a giant. I do have a long body in relation to my overall height so longline vests under everything are my friend!

Well I’m 60 and I’m 5’9, I have not lost any of my hight yet I think the yoga helps . When I was about sixteen my then boyfriends uncle came over to me and said stand up straight don’t stope you are a stunning girl be proud of your height, he said nothing worse then a tall girl trying to make her self look shorter.

So I took that conversation to heart and have always stood tall, have alway had loads of boyfriends , and two husband. I also think lots of girls now are tall.

Also next and new look both do a tall range, you just need to look online.
And yes I do wear heels 👠 the 2.5” ones,

So be tall and proud!!

I’m 5”11 and always felt like some sort of giant when I was a kid. However now I love my height and am proud of it - I come from a family of tall people. My boyfriend is 6”3 so I feel small compared to him. Can’t wait to make lots of giant babies

I’d have loved to have stopped growing at 5’9. I think it’s a nice height—tall but not towering. I was 6’0 at 13 years old and still have the emotional baggage of the teasing I endured. Boys treating you as some sort of asexual giant is awful at that age.

I will say, I am now comfortable with my height. DH is taller than I am, and I’ve found clothes to suit my frame. Find some shapes that suit your body type. Invest in some good quality items of clothing that really fit well and build your wardrobe around them.

I understand the feeling of wanting to shrink and fade away, believe me. However, what I have learned is that hating your size will do nothing to help you. It sounds trite, but I can say from personal experience that it will be a huge burden of your shoulders if you can grow to love yourself in own skin.

5'9" is the average height for men in the UK. Which means, roughly speaking, that most men are taller than you (presuming you're in the UK)

As pp have said, perhaps go to the Netherlands where men average 6'!!

I'm 5'8" and don't feel especially tall either. I'll wear staggeringly high heels too.

Proud of my height and proud of the space I take up in this world.

I'm 5'11" and 39, I'm finding it easier to get clothes now than even 5 years ago. Asos, next, topshop all do good tall ranges. I'm also a massive fan of high heels and get a lot of compliments on my height. Really think confidence and standing up straight makes a difference with guys as they all seem to like the idea of long legs!!

You could change your mind as you get older

I'm 5'9

I always felt I looked gangly, I used to slightly bend my knees when I met men shorter than me, and generally just used to feel embarrassed about my height.

I'm 28 now, and love my height. People used to comment that clothes naturally looked 'classy' on me as a result of my height, and I used to see it as a feeble attempt to make me feel not self conscious, but now I actually feel that way. I like having long legs as I feel it can make even a simple outfit of a nice top Jean's and boots look dressy.

This isnt me saying tall is better than short. They both have their perks and qualities and pull of different looks and styles better. I'm just content that I've adjusted my style as a taller lady to something that really suits me and makes me feel confident.

I’m the same height as you and it’s not so much my height that bothers me but my build. I have broad shoulders and long arms. No cute little jackets for me. Huge pasty style feet, so no nice strappy sandals. It has affected me. I make zero effort now because I will never look feminine no matter what I do. Oh and maybe I’d feel better if I had a decent chest to balance it all out. But I don’t. I’m a horrible shape, and it’s 90% things that can’t be changed. Tall in proportion women look great. Sadly I’m not in that group. Sorry OP. I’m not being hugely helpful here!

I'm your height and I like it. I've never found it out people off but maybe I've just never noticed.
Some men have commented that I'm tall or whatever but I've never taken it as a negative.
Think of all the supermodels that are tall.

I'm the same height as you and I love it, my husband is an inch and a half taller than me.

The only downside has been when bootcut jeans were in fashion and it was hard to get them long enough.

I'm 5"8 and at 41, I've embraced it. Used to feel very self conscious especially as a lot of my friends were shorter than me and I always felt they got more attention from boys. But now I'm not bothered and am proud to be tall.

That said...it's always limited my choice 8n men. Before i met DH (who's handily a six footer) i did try not to be size-ist and date men shorter than or same height as me. It never worked, the chemistry wasn't there...but i realise now that was down to my own insecurity about not feeling 'feminine' enough.

Time will help, but try and own your height if you can - and wear those heels! Supermodels are tall!

Although my size 8 feet are another matter entirely...

5 ft 11 here and I love it. Wear heels all the time. I find buying in the tall section definitely helps, especially when it comes to jeans because my legs are so long.

I think now a days it’s so usual to be tall! I see loads of younger, teenage girls now who are easily six foot so in comparison 5 ft 9 really isn’t that noticeable at all and nothing to feel paranoid about.

I'm 5'9" too and love it. I definitely felt self conscious at certain points as at uni my group of friends were 5ft but now embrace my height.

I love wearing heels and towering over the guys at work who hate it. 😂

I can get away with carrying a bit more weight due to my height.

Yes sometimes clothes can be an issue but my height is less of a problem than my boobs.

You are not going to be able to change your height so best to stand tall and embrace it.
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I’d love to be your height OP (I’m 5’ 6’’). DD aged 20 is almost 5’ 10” and used to hate it because she was taller than her friends but has really embraced it now. As @Twizbe says, walk tall and own your height. I think tall women look fabulous!

I’m the same height as you and it’s not so much my height that bothers me but my build. I have broad shoulders and long arms. No cute little jackets for me. Huge pasty style feet, so no nice strappy sandals. It has affected me. I make zero effort now because I will never look feminine no matter what I do. Oh and maybe I’d feel better if I had a decent chest to balance it all out. But I don’t. I’m a horrible shape

Christ, not another one! Why do some women put themselves down at any opportunity?

Broad shoulders, long arms and a small chest are attributes to be admired. They are the things that help you to wear clothes well. It’s the shape that designers work with and the shape of catwalk models. I’ve got all three of the above and flaunt them all, plus legs, in fabulous clothes whenever possible.

Height is a weird thing. I’m 5’6”, all through school I was the same height as everyone else. But once I left school and started my adult life, I felt like such a freak because most women were around 5’2”. This was in the late 80s when we all wore heels, and my deepest wish was to shrink a bit! It doesn’t help that I’m quite slim with long legs which makes me look taller than I really am.

It was never as issue with boyfriends, and the only people who ever made unkind comments were (short) women.

I think I made peace with myself in my late 20s, when I met my husband. Which sounds dreadful, rather like once I was off the dating scene I could relax about it a bit, but that’s honestly how I felt.

My office colleagues are all short, so I do feel ungainly in comparison, but they’re not unkind and I’ve been WFH since March so it’s not an issue.

I used to feel that wearing flats made it very obvious that I was self conscious about my height, but that feeling has diminished as I’ve got older.

I'm 5ft 8 used to hate it when I was younger but since my twenties have learned to love it. Height is seen as an advantage even for women IMO, shows confidence depending how you carry it.

I haven't rtft but you need to learn to love yourself.

“and have only had one relationship (I’m 20)”

I’m older than you and have never been in a relationship so you’re doing better than me! I’m 5’2.

Nobody would want to be a short and dumpy loudmouth. Most men prefer long legs if what men think of you is important. 🤣🤣

I’m 5’10 - at school I was bullied for being tall, slim and academic. It took me a long time to realise how utterly ridiculous that was, and all three attributes have served me just fine.

At 5'8 the majority of men are taller than you. The UK average is 5'9 and for men under 40 it's 5'10. So more than 50% of men are taller than you.

I will say I am taller than you and it's never been a problem in that way for me except for at school where I did feel gargantuan and ungainly. But you know, everyone feels that way at school, one way or another. It's soon over!

I'm 5'6 and I am one of the shortest of my friends who seem to range from 5'7 to 5'11. They are all gorgeous and elegant, I'd love to be as tall as them. It doesn't seem unusually tall to me, try and embrace it as you cant change it.

I’m 5’7.5, which is a weird in-between height, and would love to be that bit taller.

I'm 5ft 10 and love my height, I'm a size 14 to 16 so ideally I'd change that, but the last thing I'd change is my height. I'm currently living in South East Asia so I do feel tall all the time. I wash up and bang my head on the cabinet above me, I've lost count of the times I've whacked my head on the cabinet above the bin, I dish up dinner and whack the pendulum lights and to shower in hotels I have to bend my knees! 😂 I order most of my clothes in from the UK, I'm used to my jeans exposing ankles and I can't really find shoes in my size here but I love being tall. You can also carry extra weight far better when you're taller.... Thank god as I'm certainly carrying it at the moment!!!