I hate my height

[Purpledolphin223]

I’m 5’8, nearly 5’9 and I absolutely hate my height

Most of my life many of my friends have been shorter than me, dresses don’t cover my bum, cropped shirts are just a nightmare and have only had one relationship (I’m 20)

I just feel so unfeminine sometimes, most guys are my height and pay me no interest as I’m not shorter than them, I think I have a nice personality and I’m kind and friendly, but it feels not enough :((

I just don’t know how to get past this, I’ve always dreamed of being smaller. Even photos make me so embarrassed I stand out ridiculously tall from the others

Obviously heels are not an option

Sorry the rambling, just needed to get this off my chest, my friends say my height is lovely but I don’t feel happy at all

I'm 5'3 and just wanted to say I've only ever seen decent legs on women your height and over and I'm a bit jealous of that, don't know if that helps.

I used to feel like that when I was younger, and used to stoop, but as an adult, I love it. Heels make me 6ft and I stand tall. I've got boobs and a small waist, so have never felt unfeminine. I do make a better looking man though.

I'm 5'10. I was really self conscious in my teens as I stood out and towered over most people, including boys. Women were generally smaller 40 years ago than they are now and I didn't have any tall friends.

I grew into my height so to speak, and I've learned to love it. I'm now ancient in my mid-50s and I feel elegant and striking. My lovely DH is only a tiny bit taller than me and I like that we are equals in everything including height. I wear heels too, just not very high ones.

Really???? I am in my 60s and 5'8" - imagine how that was in the 70s! I thought you were going to say you are over 6' - even that isn't uncommon in women nowadays. I am the shortest in my household, my sons are 6'2" and 6'5" - you're obviously are mixing with the wrong people!

If you can't change it don't waste time worrying or hating it.
I'd love to be tall.
Most of the adult women I know are tall this generation is really tall 5ft8 is not unusual.
I'm sure you're absolutely perfect you'll meet a confident man tall or small soon.

Seriously, you are not that tall. 5'8" is tall but not overly so. I've been that height since I was 11. I don't tower over my friends, I wear heels, and I rarely think about my height or anyone else's.

But guys like the model type. I think if you are slim and tall thats hot.
Guys treated me like im invisible when i was heavy. I think its a weight thing rather than hieght. Doesnt help that short arses are competing over tall men, too making the pool even smaller.

If you want morr attention, work on your body to be slim. For proper relationships you need to make peace with your hieght.

Sorry but short women have nice legs too. All I've seen on this thread is people bitching about how being short is unattractive and clothes don't look nice. Try saying that too Kylie minogue, Kourtney Kardashian, Mila Kunis, Christina agularia (sp?), Natalie Portman, Ariana grande. And for everyone's information there are alot of petite models around, see asos, just maybe not on the catwork. But the women on the catwalk/runway are not always attractive.

@PreTishBerson and no men don't necessarily like the model type. A lot of men, particularly tall men like petite women. So what. We shouldn't put our self worth and what men like or don't like.

OP, you aren't that tall.
I'm 5'10 and it's been a boon most of my life. Can see in concerts, reach stuff, you carry extra weight better, never have to take pants up etc, you can hand out some awesome down the nose death stares, and most clothes - if you dress for yourself and not according to what your friends are wearing- are made with tall women in mind. I used to, at your age wear heels and give no fucks, and the skirts were pretty damn short too. I'd step out of that particular fashion box you are in, and see what else catches your eye. Some of things you'll be able to wear will make others look less than great.

I can see why it might bug you if all your friends are short,but that won't last forever, and tall blokes exist - you can catch their eyes over all the short people.
Don't hide it. Trying to do so will just make you feel/look awkward. In your place, I'd play to it rather than against it. Learn to think ' Fuck it' and use it.

(Also I'm increasingly short when it comes to the kids my sons of 17 and 14 bring home, and half are girls. I went to a gig pre Covid and was level with the armpits of most of the crowd which was a new and fragrant experience. And my husband is also 5'11 and on the rare occasion I wear heels - I have fun laughing at him for being short)

xx

@Bubbletrouble43

I'm 5'3 and just wanted to say I've only ever seen decent legs on women your height and over and I'm a bit jealous of that, don't know if that helps.

I have great legs at 5'1''!

Not to toot my own horn. I'm no beauty queen though so I'm not sure anybody cares, I care. Good for me.

[quote myhumps123]@PreTishBerson and no men don't necessarily like the model type. A lot of men, particularly tall men like petite women. So what. We shouldn't put our self worth and what men like or don't like.[/quote]
EXACTLY and this is unfortunately how young women are now primed to go out in to the world. They seen themselves through men's eyes. And sadly not even through the eyes of decent boys their own age who'd be delighted that a healthy woman was interested in them, but young women today head out in to 'the world' viewing themselves through a porn addicts lens. Not always, of course. None of what I say is always but these are the tendencies.

OP - I am the same height as you and I love it - always have. Better than being a shorty! Enjoy it - you can stand out in a crowd with heels on - stand up straight and be proud.

Ah, I would love to be your height op! I think you need to look and feel confident and carry yourself well with that kind of height though, as there is no hiding place.

If it were possible to steal from you a few of those inches of height that cause you so much pain, OP, I would! At only 4’11 I don’t know many adults who are shorter than me. I learned to sew young so I could do my own alterations as even petite sizes can be too long in the arm and leg. Can’t wear heels due to crap ankles. But what can’t be changed must be endured. OP, I accept my height, it is how it is, I hope you can do the same. Do not let it hold you back from anything.

I'm 5'8" and don't feel particularly tall. The only thing that stops me wearing heels is the fact I can't walk in them which is a shame because my legs look bloody amazing when I have heels on

You can have proportionate legs that are a nice shape and toned but the top type of legs are all that and long which requires height.

@OwlOne lucky bugger. Mine are short and stumpy 🤣

Anyway the type of guys who are
exclusively into 'petite' women tend to have penis insecurity.

I'm 5"2. I put on any kind of weight it shows straight away, when I go to gigs I strain my neck to see or see fuck all except a strangers back, and only last week I had to scale up the tesco chilled shelf base like spiderwoman because the thing I wanted was on the top shelf with only 2 left. I really hope DD is taller than me.

Grass always greener I suppose!

I am 5f8 and rather the shorty in the family, my mum was taller and my dad over 6f7 and my grandma was 5f10, uncles and cousins all taller than me. Now my dd2 is just a few mm smaller than me

Possibly as I came from a family with everyone taller I never stood out, dad never stooped and always stood tall

one of dd2s friends was 6f1 at 16 and I found that tall for a female

I'm about 5'2 or possibly 5'1. I was 5'3 but I've got osteoporosis and I've shrunk! Anyway! There are things about ourselves that we can continue to hate or learn to live with, even embrace it and learn to love it. I wanted to be tall and I'm not, you want to be shorter and you're not. Some of the things that you see as because of your height are in fact to do with your lack of confidence. Yes, it can be harder to get clothes but a lot of places now do clothes in petite, regular and tall, so there is plenty of stuff out there for you. I have issues with things being too long, but there are ways around it.

Embrace who you are and learn to love it. If you want to wear heels, wear them, it's not stopped Nichole Kidman, for one. You are perfect as you are and as there's precisely nothing we can do to alter our height you need to learn to love it or it will make your life miserable.

@MagicSummer better then being a shorty? Is that that supposed to be a diss on petite women? . For your information I love being a 'shorty' at 5 feet. It's who I am and clothes look fantastic on me. It doesn't matter what height you are, it's how you carry yourself and your self worth. I hate the bitchiness on these sorts of threads

Elizabeth Debicki and Gwendolyn Christie are absolutely stunning and they are 6'3''.

I don't think you are particularly tall, to be honest (I'm 5'4''). But I'm certain that many wonderful shorter men - who are often overlooked because of their height - would be thrilled to go out with you.