I hate my height

[Purpledolphin223]

I’m 5’8, nearly 5’9 and I absolutely hate my height

Most of my life many of my friends have been shorter than me, dresses don’t cover my bum, cropped shirts are just a nightmare and have only had one relationship (I’m 20)

I just feel so unfeminine sometimes, most guys are my height and pay me no interest as I’m not shorter than them, I think I have a nice personality and I’m kind and friendly, but it feels not enough :((

I just don’t know how to get past this, I’ve always dreamed of being smaller. Even photos make me so embarrassed I stand out ridiculously tall from the others

Obviously heels are not an option

Sorry the rambling, just needed to get this off my chest, my friends say my height is lovely but I don’t feel happy at all

If you're in Asia then it would make more sense. I went travelling there and standard clothes shops had nothing that fit me

5ft9 in the UK seems pretty common.

I am 5 foot 9 and my daughters are also tall but I really can't relate to your concern about it. I've always loved being tall and I also often wear heels. I don't feel it's that tall but as others have said perhaps try to 'own it' and feel confident in how you look. I'm sure your shorter friends wish they were tall like you and I'm sure you look great!

"I think it may depend on your build as well - if you are a larger build then you will look bigger...."

Yeah.... no great comfort for some of us who fit both bills.

I get it OP.

Just try and focus on the positives as it is something we cannot change about ourselves.

My close friend 'got it' one day when I was standing in the middle of Debenhams and I asked her to look round - every person on that floor was shorter than me.

It is what it is...

Bless you OP, it’s shit to have a physical attribute you feel at odds with.

We all have them; yours might be your height, mine is my nose! The reality is my nose isn’t going anywhere so i have learned to live with it and get on with my life regardless.

You don’t have to love your height, you don’t have to feel super positive about it - you just need to learn to accept it and let it go because it’s just ONE of the million things about you.

It will not stop people liking you, loving you or you achieving the things you want in life.

I will say at 20 it’s really hard to accept your body but please try to follow some strong body acceptance pages on social, try to buy clothes which look amazing on long legs and taller girls, embrace the other parts of your body and life that you love. You will in time come to accept and like who you are I promise!

In terms of boys - there are lots of men who love tall women and there are lots of men who wouldn’t give it a second thought and fancy you tall or short. Men in their 20s are a bit fickle though so if anyone gives you shit over a physical attribute then tell them to fuck off and be pleased they’ve shown themselves for the dicks they are.

We all have our insecurities OP, you can learn to accept yours

I don’t think 5’ 8 is massively tall, to be honest.

Two of my good friends are really tall and both love it. One is 5’ 11 and the other is 6’. The latter will happily wear 6” heels - if she can find them in a size 9

I’d love to be a bit taller, I look like a womble

I really get where you're coming from, that's how I felt when I was young, especially as I had a growth spurt before any of the boys in my year at school! But I'm just under 5'10 now as an adult and honestly I don't even think about my height now at all, and haven't since I probably turned 18? Your height honestly is nothing out of the ordinary, I see women who are taller than me and also think nothing of it, I'd try to embrace it, it doesn't matter if you are taller than your friends? If you just look and feel confident, no one will think anything of it. And if men who are shorter than you have an issue, it's their problem for being short? Not your problem for being taller I ended up with a man who is nearly 6'9 so now I literally never think about my height ever, I'm short now

Your post is very sad. I'm 6', my daughter is 6'1 and we absolutely love being tall. There has never been a single negative about it. Wearing heals is out of the question? Really? We wear them all the time. Being tall is amazing.

I know a very tall guy who I was infatuated with in the past. I still have a soft spot for him many years later (ashamed to say that, I am married).
He is married to a tall woman. Just saying. I am a shortie.
I don't see an issue. Please don't feel bad. There's a lot of positives in being tall

I'm short which brings its own set of issues... That said I have learned to love the good things about it. Sadly my daughters do not want to ve short like me apparently

Are the rest of your family a lot shorter OP? Does that make you 'feel' taller than you are perhaps? IYSWIM?

My DD2 is 23 and 5'8/9 and the tallest of my 4 DDs by an inch or so. She doesn't seem particularly tall compared to most of her peers. She's taller than me but shorter than DH. Her BF is the same height as her and she wears her heels when out somewhere nice without a care.

Don't let it take over your life OP. Forget about it! Enjoy your life! So many young people are all lovely and tall nowadays anyway :)

Embrace it. Most models are tall. I feel quite short these days at 5.5/5.6, it seems everyone is getting taller.

@doadeer

I'm the same height as you. I used to feel exactly the same when I was younger. Really self conscious. And I had size 7 (now size 8 - how?!) feet.

Then I met my partner at 20 he's 6ft 3, we are the perfect difference! He loves my long legs and never ever makes me feel big.

Try to see the positives, clothes usually look good when you're tall - there are plenty of tall ranges in places like topshop too, you will have lovely long legs like a model.

You will hopefully come to feel different about it.

I’m 5ft 3 and I have size 8 feet!! My mum is short and has small feet and my dad is tall for a man with size 8 feet. I’m not sure how I ended up with big feet.

5 foot 8 is honestly not that tall OP. I’m nearly 6 feet tall! And I happily wear heels, and am very feminine.

You’re only a little taller than average, and I don’t think you would stand out in a crowd for your height (unless all of your friends and family happen to be very short). I would try and focus on your feelings of self worth and self esteem, because those you can change, and because I expect you’re worrying about a perceived flaw that other people just don’t see.

Get your clothes from the tall range.

I’m just over 6ft and I understand how you are feeling but I think the best advice is to embrace it- you won’t get any shorter! I did this and wear 4 or 5 inch heels when I’m out at clubs etc (so I’m around 6ft 5inches then). I’m of the opinion that any guy who wouldn’t date me because I’m tall isn’t worth dating anyway so no loss to me. Always stand tall and be proud in photos- I think confidence is the key. Clothes can be annoying- I used to be only able to get jeans/trousers from LTS but now I find next, ASOS, new look and Dorothy Perkins all have tall sections on their websites.

I'm 5'0 and absolutely hate it. I'm ridiculously self conscious about my height. I thought I'd grow out of it but at nearly 40 I still wont leave the house without heels on.
Grass is always greener....
However point me to one woman who isn't self consious about some part of their appearance...

I'm 5'8 and have always wished I was shorter. I hated wearing heels on nights out when I towered above my friends and stood about the same height as the men. Doesn't make you feel feminine at all.
I'm a bit more at peace with it these days as I don't wear heels anymore and as others have said people around me seem to be taller. I do begrudge having to pay more and have limited options for tall clothing though.

Your tall OP. But it depends on your body shape too I’m sure you look fine. As women we all would like to swop something different for what another woman has. Look in the tall section for dresses.

I'm 5 8' as well and have been since I was 12/13, which was awful at that age. I hated towering over all the boys and pretending I wasn't interested in any of them.
Late teens/20s it gets better, you feel a bit less vulnerable waiting alone at bus stops and the boys catch up, feel less insecure and stop calling you a freak. 44 now and very comfortable with my height.

Next do a Tall Ladies range which is nice (Dd is 5’11)

Gosh 5’8/9 isn’t that tall at all these days. Most of the local sixth form girls seem to be around that height. I’m surprised it makes you feel very tall; I would understand if you were 6’2”.
I wonder if you are dressing well for your height? Are you very slim too, that can add to a gangly feeling.
Do you think being a couple of inches smaller would really make that much to your life? Maybe work on something you can change, your self esteem.

You always want what you don’t have. I’m 5ft 1 and most of my friends were the best part of 6ft.

I was so jealous, so statuesque and beautiful.

There a reason tall women are chosen as models!

Being 20 is difficult generally, I’m in my 30s now and finally got to the point I don’t care what other people think. It’s liberating!

I totally understand where you are coming from @Purpledolphin223 I’m 5ft8 and although apparently it’s not that tall I feel like a giant at times! all my family and I mean all of them are between 5ft and 5ft6! I’m some throwback from older generations apparently . I also look nothing like my family I always get questioned as to whether I am adopted!

I'm 5'8 and really don't feel very tall, I would happily have an extra inch or 2!

I'm 5ft 9'and have no problem with it. To be honest 5ft 9 really isn't that tall nowadays.