I hate my height

[Purpledolphin223]

I’m 5’8, nearly 5’9 and I absolutely hate my height

Most of my life many of my friends have been shorter than me, dresses don’t cover my bum, cropped shirts are just a nightmare and have only had one relationship (I’m 20)

I just feel so unfeminine sometimes, most guys are my height and pay me no interest as I’m not shorter than them, I think I have a nice personality and I’m kind and friendly, but it feels not enough :((

I just don’t know how to get past this, I’ve always dreamed of being smaller. Even photos make me so embarrassed I stand out ridiculously tall from the others

Obviously heels are not an option

Sorry the rambling, just needed to get this off my chest, my friends say my height is lovely but I don’t feel happy at all

@Purpledolphin223 when the pandemic is over, if you want a break from feeling tall I'd recommend a holiday to the Netherlands. You'll struggle finding many men who are shorter than you even with heels on, and most women will be around your height. I thoroughly recommend it.

I’m also 5’9 which turns out to not be tall enough for the tall range at ASOS!
I do feel tall sometimes if I’m surrounded by smaller friends but I’ve never ever had a problem getting boyfriends. Neither has my 5’10” daughter. I think you’re blaming your height for a lot of things when your height isn’t the whole problem.
You’re not going to get shorter so you have to embrace your height. Wear flats, buy tops or dresses from the tall range.

Men who like petite women have penis security? Really? What a vile thing to say.

Wow, I’m 6ft and rarely even think about being tall (other than buying clothes, but even that has got easier in recent years). 5ft9 is a very average height to me, not exceptionally tall at all. Generally if people mention my height it’s in a very complimentary way. I’m really surprised by your post OP. With kindness, perhaps work on your self esteem? You can hardly change this...

Insecurity

Reading your op again you’re not really that tall. You should be able to find clothes and men. Maybe mix up who you hang out with.

But definitely embrace your height.

@PreTishBerson not exactly. I have been with tall guys that have had no penis insecurity. Very confident in bed and big cocks to match their confidence. Some tall guys have a preference for smaller women, That's what they prefer. Like I said who gives a shit. My self worth and self esteem is not embroiled in what men think about me.

I'm 5'9 and love it. I've never had problems attracting men and think clothes look good on me. I also think I can get away with being a bit heavier, 11 stone at the moment and fitting fine in to size 10. The only thing I'd change are my feet, they are size 8 and I have always wanted them to be smaller. You just need to learn to embrace it.

Oh and if you like heels, wear them! Why are they not an option? I wore 3inch wedges yesterday.

I'm 5'8". At school I stooped as all my good friends were about 5'1" and I felt enormous, but since then I've loved it. I always felt lucky as it's a pretty ideal height. I feel like a lot of clothes are made for this height. I hope you can learn to see the positives, you should walk tall and proud.

I am 5'10" and used to feel similar to you. I'm now nearly 40, and I don't give a shit anymore. I used to avoid heels but now I wear them as high as I feel like and enjoy towering. For me it's just been age and various life experiences which have given me the confidence to embrace my height.

Being taller does mean you can eat more without putting in weight - which may not seem like a big deal when you have a 20yo metabolism, but once you get close to 40 those extra height inches really do make a huge difference which is awesome.

I’m 5’11. I was very self conscious in my teens, but now I just don’t care. Trousers and dresses not fitting properly are the worst things.

There’s nothing you can do about it, so why worry.

I am 5"3 and my husband is 6"5. My ten year old DD is already 5"1. I wish I were taller but I do I hope my daughter doesn't go over about 5"8 or so for her sake but TBH she isn't so much taller than many of her female classmates. It is the boys who are shorter and I imagine they will shoot up over the next few years.

I'm 5 foot 7 and I feel tall. I am taller bar one from every single woman I know. I'm the tallest in my family,I'm the tallest by far out of dps family..his family are all and I mean all even the men are 5 foot 4 and under.
I'm taller than all my friends except for 1 acquaintance.
I've had comments and people taking the piss sometimes. I hate it at times. Shorter woman are seen as feisty and cute, a woman to admire and.be with judging by the crappy on facebook..tall ones are seen as tr
Boring or manly

I've never been short of men though or male attention. Dp is 5 foot 4 and is not bothered, tell me to wear heels etc but I rarely do these days.

I'm 5'10. I used to HATE being tall when I was younger, but the older I've got, the less it bothers me.

I think when you're younger (and single), appearance seems much more important, and anything which makes you less than perfect really matters.

I'd say finding your 'style' as a tall girl would make you feel better about yourself. I accepted that all dresses etc would be too short, so just wore them with thick opaque tights / leggings and long sleeved thermal tops underneath.

Also, I think lots of men are less bothered about height than you might think - I went out with several men shorter than me and it was never an issue. If a man is put off by your height, you probably don't want to go out with him anyway!

I'm short, just over 5'2". I'd rather be taller, however I don't really care one way or the other. I'd love to have proportionally longer legs though. I'm always envious when I see women my height or shorter whose legs are longer relative to their overall height. Kylie Minogue is a good example, tiny, but with relatively long legs. Keira Knightly is an example of the reverse, quite tall but with relatively short legs. Oh well, main thing is mine work.

I was always tall and my DM (also tall) always built me up about it - 'You'll always carry your clothes well... you'll look slim even if you gain a bit of weight... it's very elegant... don't stoop, put your shoulders back, yes, like that, amazing!'

I love my height, except for the nuisance with trouser length (and bloody sleeves!). I feel less tall now than I did as I think there are more taller teenagers around than there were.

And you will find a bloke who appreciates your height and likes you for you and not because he can come over all Man the Protector of his Little Woman.

I’m 6’ & tbh I’d assume 5’8” or 9 was fairly average for a woman of your generation, although letting my height dominate my thoughts or influence my life in any negative ways hasn’t been a thing for me. Were you taught as you were growing up up to feel it was a negative thing? It really isn’t.

Honestly, I never had a problem with men not being interested because of my height (quite the opposite on occasion!), or felt unfeminine or let my height determine whether I wore heels. They’re all choices you are making OP, especially when it comes to men. I’d suspect that any lack of success in that department is far more likely to come from a lack of confidence (caused by your perception that your height is an issue) than your actual height.

Maybe some counselling to get to the root of the issue you have and help build your confidence could help - you are so young, you could change your perspective with a bit of help & look back in the future and realise how inconsequential the height thing is. If you could realise in particular that men you are interested in are extremely unlikely to even be thinking negatively about how tall you are (unless they are utter cockwombles, in which case it’s no great loss..) & let that go, also focus on whether they appeal to you & go from there.

As an aside I worked for years in a job where as a team we’d work to help make positive changes in clients lives - one of the most interesting exercises we did was to get them to write down the top 20 attributes they would want to find in a partner. Then take those 20 and from them choose the top 5. The top 5 become the ‘deal breakers’ & the next 15 are ‘bonus attributes’...

For example my top 5 deal breakers would be sexy, kind, funny, faithful & ‘gets on with my friends’. Someone else’s might be successful, confident, clever...etc etc. I saw lots of these lists over the years, from men and women with a few who had surprisingly shallow deal breakers...and I still never saw ‘short’ come up, or ‘tall’ or ‘average height’ as it’s not something that makes any difference in the big scheme of things...

I'm 5'9" too and to be honest although I was "tall" when I was a teenager, most of my son's friends tower over me now as do most of my friends DHs. I never lacked for boyfriends either.

The only thing I hate is that my height is in my legs and I can never get trousers that are long enough but as for heels I habitually wore 3 and 4 inch heels for work. If any men didn't like it, well that was their problem

I’m 5’ 11”. I’m not attractive but have had times in my younger days when I was practically beating men away with sticks, especially men who were shorter than me- some men seem to fetishise tall women.

I’m 20 too and 5’9, I don’t feel too tall at all!

I used to, in school when I was by far the tallest including all the boys, but now I feel I generally ‘blend in’ pretty easily and even when I don’t - I like being tall lol.

The only thing I don’t like is feeling self conscious wearing my platforms ): working on that though!

I’m 5,7 so a fraction shorter. I don’t feel huge, I like my height. I married a 5,9 guy. Divorced after 14 years. Am now dating a 6,4 guy and loving feeling dinky 😂

I understand where you’re coming from, OP.
Actually I am 5’7” and would love to be a little shorter.
But I’d also love nicer teeth, bigger breasts and to be less of a loser so there you go

Sounds like I am your exact height op. My sister is three inches taller than me... you arent that tall!

You are 20, you have your life ahead of you. If your height really bothers you, can I recommend CBT or acceptance therapy? Your height isn't going to change, so I advise you to work on your attitude towards it.

I'm 5.9/5.10 but never felt overly tall as my older sis is 6.1, not a problem with men all my Bf /Dh were/are 5.11-6.2. Even in heels I was 6.1/6.2 guys loved it.
Never feel bad about the way you are OP. 😊