if i take our dcs to a wedding reception when officially it's no kids?

[happyhat]

we're only invited to the evening do, it's miles away and i'm b/feeding ds who's only 3 months old. ds is 2.5 years. i'm thinking they'll sleep in buggies in a corner?

you can freeze expressed breastmilk so you could build up a store to leave with your Mum if you did decide to do. you would definatl be wrong to just turn up with kids in tow.

I'm giving my guests the option of leaving their children at home

Perfect! It's always great to say 'I'm so sorry mum we can't take them, we are not allowed...'

Then you can take ages to get ready in peace, wear lovely clothes, enjoy yourself without wondering where your children are, without being distracted by their constant demands for attention/drinks/food/toy/toilet stop, you can stay up late knowing you won't get woken up by a toy on the face/kick in the face/screaming and running around the room.

What's not to like?!

hm...is only your mother so far away from teh wedding venue, or is your own home as far as well...
if your own home is nearer, maybe your mum could stay at your house, whilest you go to the do...that way, even if your little one won't take a bottle of expressed milk it would only be for hours rather than a day, and that really would not actually be a real problem...also...Baby's can really surprise ya when you are NOT around and what tehy do and take and whatever else for others...lil monsters they are!
See, I think it sends a wrong message when you say you can't come without Baby because you are bf or that you won't come at all because you are bf'ing....that will so encourage this myth of bf makes you housebound etc....but in the end you gotta do what you gotta do.

Yes, you are being unreasonable.

I have declined several wedding invitations for this reason. I don't particularly agree with child-free weddings, but it's the bride and grooms prerogative to have whatever they want.

Sorry!

Mmmmm

Thought of you today as I drove through Prestbury!

You lie!

Har de har!!

harris?

Oooh, lucky you!

Am out tomorrow night for a nice meal in Manchester. Other than htat - no nights out planned atm

HOping for girls night out soon to celebrate a few birthdays though.

I understand that it must be frustrating, however this day is about the couple getting married, not your child. I don't mean that in a horrid way, it's just if this couple want NO children at their wedding, they should get what they want. Either speak to them and see if they would be willing to allow your child, don't go or get a babysiter and express some breastmilk.

There is no way that both your kids will just sleep in buggies throughout the whole night in a corner, sods law they'll wake up, start screaming and give you a right showing up! Or at least, there is a risk of this happening. For this reason, I'm guessing that is why the couple have said, NO KIDS. I can understand their reasoning behind it too. If i'd spent months planning my wedding and spent a fortune on it, not to sure if I'd want it over run with naughty toddlers and crying babies.

yabu, and imo why on earth would anyone want to take a child to a mainly adult event that will be incredibly noisy and full of scary drunk people?

VVV, am I to leave the DSs at home?

To OP - why are you only invited to the evening? Do they not want you to come?

It seems to me that to invite people with a 3mo baby and a toddler to an evening event is either massively bridezilla (you must all do as I want for my day, even if it massively inconveniences you) or they don't want you there, really. Unless it's a v small daytime event, obv.

I wouldn't go.

"massively" is the word du jour for wedding threads, I've decided

happyhat, i think whoever has invited you is a bit of a spoilt brat if you ask me, families have, well, families. Personally, if someone only asked me to the evening do, knowing i have small children i would think, bugger you, im not going. In fact, we went to BIL wedding, we stayed until seven and took dd, about 14 months at the time home. Why would you want to take your children to something like that anyway, all that loud music and potentially pissed people. I wouldnt go.

hm - the third option is that the couple are genuinely utterly utterly clueless about what it's like to have a baby and to breastfeed. they may well think you can just call in a babysitter and give them a bottle. In such cases the thing to do is politely decline the invite and hope that one day they'll have kids and, from then on, squirm squirm squirm whenever they think back to their child and baby-free wedding reception. I find the smug self-satisfaction of knowing this is ample...

I don't think bride is a spoilt brat. She is having a grown up party and doesn't want children there. Why should she. Just because you have kids it doesn't mean they should be invited to everything that you are invited to. If your invited to a girls night you wouldn't turn up with your husband in tow. I wouldn't be too thrilled if I was one of the other guests who had arranged for a babysitter and other peoples toddlers were there.

God, who says the bride is a spoilt brat. Don't be so blardy ridiculous. When you ahve a party - you decide who to invite don't you, not the fecking guests! When you are 'entertaining' you can have you damn well like!

I would find it odd for family (i.e. you are part of the family and you aren't to bring children) that's just silly - leaving out some of the family - but you are your friends friends, not your kids!

x posts alucard! Am with ya mate!