if i take our dcs to a wedding reception when officially it's no kids?

[happyhat]

we're only invited to the evening do, it's miles away and i'm b/feeding ds who's only 3 months old. ds is 2.5 years. i'm thinking they'll sleep in buggies in a corner?

Should also add that a friend recently went to a no kids wedding when her son was exclusively bf at 10 wks...she simply booked a room in the hotel for herself, dh and baby and another for her (not invited) mother...mum spent the night babysitting with cable tv and room service, friend went up and bf when necessary..bride and groom didnt even know lo was there...if that is a poss solution for you?

wouldn't work with this one sadly.

I'd call and ask re bf baby. You are not crazy and unreasonable asking.

Weddings not much fun without kids. How else are you going to get everyone on the dance floor??

As someone who said no children at my wedding, it was the larger moblie/noisey ones I had a problem with. I would never, ever have had a problem with a b/f infant being there (especially as you are not talking about taing your dc to the service).

Well if not your mum, is there someone else that could come with you to act as Nanny for the night? Even maybe someone you wouldn't use if you were going out on the town back home, but could use in this scenario because you will only be downstairs, a nephew, niece whatever?

(I only say this as this is something we did. We had a weding when dd was 2 months old and excl BF. We took my niece (13) along and she looked after dd whilst we were downstairs. At her age I wouldn't have been comfortable with her looking after dd under other circs, but felt fine doing it there. I held onto my mobile and she phoned me whenever dd started crying)

Fio, what have you got against Warner? Did you have a Bad Experience?

Fio, slightly extreme wouldn't u say...childless weddings can actually be a lot of fun and a blessed break for couples with young children....you are allowed time off u know.....

I would make it plain to the bride and grrom that you can only come if yu can bring the children. It is up to them then.

would LOVE a warner holiday and i have blonde hair

Fio, your feelings coincide with mine, see my 15:36:02 post.

If I had a bfeeding 3 month old and was invited to a wedding with no DC, I would not go. Simple!

They've got a gruesome flash intro on their website with a sort of "smoooooth classics" soundtrack and images of things like china figurines and oilpainting. And their slogan is "where grown-ups love to let go" which is worrying on a number of counts.

Sorry I am going to be annoying as I haven't read the whole thread but YABU.

I am one of the freaks who is anti-children at weddings IF that's what the bride wants. It's their wedding and as other people have said reception may not allow it.

If it's miles away and it's only the evening do, I wouldn't bother going anyway (it's possible that the bride has banked on you not coming due to DCs anyway)

Call em up and tell her the problem. She'll probably say, oh what a shame you can't come.

I know we are allowed time off from our children but like i said - how do you get people on the dance floor!?

Fiofio - do you know these people??

I said my vows with my 4yr old neice singing 'polly put the kettle on' - wouldn't have changed it for the world.

the ones in your link who are dry humping!

You can almost smell the cabbage on that website, can't you?

happyhat - do ring and ask, but with a 3mth bf and a 2.5 yr old, i wouldn't bother unless they are immediate family.

maybe just turn up at church/regerstry office instead?