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To just want the correct payment from "friend"

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hardyloveit · 12/10/2019 19:53

So a group of friends are going to a show. I organised it and said I don't mind paying for the tickets (so we can be together) as long as payment was in my bank prior to booking.

Anyway there is 6 of us going and I said I'd swallow the booking fee etc so it came to £35 per ticket.

4 have paid and I booked the tickets (6) as the 5th (I'll call her Z) said she had paid.) Didn't have any reason not to doubt (yes i did check online banking and she said it could take up to 2 hours to go in)

Booked tickets and still no money from Z. I message her privately (we have a group Whatsapp) and said it's still not there. She said she will call the bank.

The next day I asked again and she said it didn't go through so she will put £30 in now. I said okay and it's £35!

Still no money by lunchtime. That evening she said she had been super busy and will do it in the am and said £33 and I corrected her agin at £35!

Next day she sends me a photo which was a note to her oh saying
(Oh name)

Please can you put £34.99 in Hardys account and then my bank details.

Still NOTHING! I've now wrote in the group chat if anyone knows of someone else that would like to come let me know ASAP

I know it's only 1p but how many times did I have to correct her in saying it's £35!

Ive swallowed the booking fee etc which was nearly £5 as we are having the tickets posted as some are coming from work.

She has now wrote back in the group that's it's unfair she can't go! Someone else (Y) asked why not and Z had the cheek to say I'd given her the wrong bank details so couldn't pay!

I replied saying no Z that's not true. I've given you a a week from when I said about payments before the ticket and you keep saying you will do it but not with the correct amount. Z has said I'm being unreasonable. The rest of the group haven't commented in the chat since but have privately messaged asking why Z is being a twat!

So aibu to try and find someone else or is Z

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hardyloveit · 12/10/2019 19:54

Sorry that's quite a long post!

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 12/10/2019 19:56

So did you get any money from her?

SilentAlarm · 12/10/2019 19:57

I’m confused. Has she transferred £34.99 (so 1p short) or still nothing at all?

SmellbowSmellbow123 · 12/10/2019 19:57

Z isn’t part of a lunch club is she?!

TheZeppo · 12/10/2019 19:57

Not remotely unreasonable. Perhaps she’ll learn something from this!

mineallmine · 12/10/2019 19:58

Z is being a cheeky cow and you've handled it fairly.

ProseccoIsTheAnswerHere · 12/10/2019 19:58

She’s taking the piss out you, she knew how much she had to pay and taking the penny off is sending you a clear message here

Fiveletters · 12/10/2019 19:58

Bizarre behaviour. I wouldn’t stop her coming if she’s paid and is just 1p short. But if she’s still not sent anything then you are right to ask someone else to go.

Karwomannghia · 12/10/2019 19:59

Good on you!

hardyloveit · 12/10/2019 19:59

Nope still no money!! She has the correct details as the other month she put some money in my account for something and hers like mine saves them.

I think my sister is going to come with us now. Basically whoever bloody pays me first!!! And £35!

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LolaSmiles · 12/10/2019 19:59

She sounds flakey and unreliable but if I had £34.99 on its way thrn I'd suck up the penny for ease and make a mental note not to book for her again.

Either way, if she's not going now then find someone else.

BeesKnees4 · 12/10/2019 20:00

@SmellbowSmellbow123
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Hopefully not!!

hardyloveit · 12/10/2019 20:00

It's the bloody penny that's annoyed me as I had to correct her several times on how much it is!

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stanski · 12/10/2019 20:00

@SmellbowSmellbow123 haha I was wondering the same

Raphael34 · 12/10/2019 20:01

Obviously she’s a cheeky twat. And the rest of the group agree with you. Just sell the tickets to your sister or another friend

hardyloveit · 12/10/2019 20:01

@SmellbowSmellbow123 haha no I don't think she is in the lunch club haha! Although she can be dramatic but she definitely would have wrote in our group chat if someone had "made her cry"

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insanemumof3 · 12/10/2019 20:02

she doesnt want to pay and has no intention of paying. she wants you or the others to accept responsibility for the ticket as shes a victim now of your "unfairness". the CF!!

C0untDucku1a · 12/10/2019 20:02

Yanbu. Delete her from the group.

Scarydinosaurs · 12/10/2019 20:02

I take it she hasn’t paid at all? Definitely not your fault.

SmellbowSmellbow123 · 12/10/2019 20:03

Can’t believe how these CF’s seem to think it’s ok to piss about with other people’s money!!

SunshineAngel · 12/10/2019 20:03

People who offer to buy tickets or anything like that for large groups are GOOD people who do in GOOD faith. People who don't pay them back straightaway are ridiculous and rude, and should never be offered anything again.

tobedtoMNandfart · 12/10/2019 20:03

YANBU. If everyone was a CF like her you'd be down £175!!

hardyloveit · 12/10/2019 20:04

Omg she's just privately messaged me ranting about how unfair I'm being when I gave her the wrong details for my bank.
I've just replied saying no that note you wrote to your oh, the bank details were correct on there! I've told her either my sister or W's sister will come and I've told them both it's whoever pays first.

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tobedtoMNandfart · 12/10/2019 20:05

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InsertFunnyUsername · 12/10/2019 20:05

YANBU. She was hoping you would forget or feel awkward keep asking her. Also very weird to haggle you on the price, even for a penny.

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