To just want the correct payment from "friend"

[hardyloveit]

So a group of friends are going to a show. I organised it and said I don't mind paying for the tickets (so we can be together) as long as payment was in my bank prior to booking.

Anyway there is 6 of us going and I said I'd swallow the booking fee etc so it came to £35 per ticket.

4 have paid and I booked the tickets (6) as the 5th (I'll call her Z) said she had paid.) Didn't have any reason not to doubt (yes i did check online banking and she said it could take up to 2 hours to go in)

Booked tickets and still no money from Z. I message her privately (we have a group Whatsapp) and said it's still not there. She said she will call the bank.

The next day I asked again and she said it didn't go through so she will put £30 in now. I said okay and it's £35!

Still no money by lunchtime. That evening she said she had been super busy and will do it in the am and said £33 and I corrected her agin at £35!

Next day she sends me a photo which was a note to her oh saying
(Oh name)

Please can you put £34.99 in Hardys account and then my bank details.

Still NOTHING! I've now wrote in the group chat if anyone knows of someone else that would like to come let me know ASAP

I know it's only 1p but how many times did I have to correct her in saying it's £35!

Ive swallowed the booking fee etc which was nearly £5 as we are having the tickets posted as some are coming from work.

She has now wrote back in the group that's it's unfair she can't go! Someone else (Y) asked why not and Z had the cheek to say I'd given her the wrong bank details so couldn't pay!

I replied saying no Z that's not true. I've given you a a week from when I said about payments before the ticket and you keep saying you will do it but not with the correct amount. Z has said I'm being unreasonable. The rest of the group haven't commented in the chat since but have privately messaged asking why Z is being a twat!

So aibu to try and find someone else or is Z

@Bluntness100 got my letters wrong.😫 X did great for finally standing up and telling everyone what was going on.

I hope
She pays up to
X! And well done you for selling in ticket xx

Well done OP! Z was in the wrong all down the line. Don't include her in the future. Have a good time.

All of a sudden there was quiet.😂😂😂

Thank you @ToothlessIsMySpiritAnimal

For those saying Z won't have any money - you couldn't be further from the truth. Her oh has a VERY well paid job. Z is on around £45k a year - no children etc she has a lot of disposable income etc. £35 is nothing to her or £60 I've come to realise she is just a CF!

Not much else has been said in the group. Z has gone silent.

Did your sister pay??

@rockingaroundthemulberrybush yes one of my previous updates says my sister paid

Good on X!

I organised a fund raising movie screening several months back, and a local real estate agent who is all over FB with her profile, breezed in on opening night saying she paid via internet banking but hadn't put her name on the transaction.

I let her and her partner through (small rural community) and said I would let our treasurer know. Sure enough it didn't go into our account and she stopped replying to emails and would not supply proof of the transaction.

So in summary, parasites everywhere! A few key people know, the treasurer of the theatre where our screening took place and double checked their accounts, no deposit there either. Word gets around, but brilliant in you case X spoke up!

I wonder on what basis she thinks it OK to pay a friend "eventually"? Surely as soon as a friend has paid out for you, you make sure you pay them back? And how does she square that with her claims about the account number and her husband forgetting to take the details to work? After all, presumably she is just as capable of making an online payment as he is? Or indeed getting £35 out of a hole in the wall and posting it through your letterbox?

Friends don't treat other friends like that - unless she's approached you with a genuine excuse for not paying you (which happens) - there's no bloody excuse! She's a flake - bin her!

Sounds like your night out with the girls would be better without her! X

This is so refreshing!

At last a thread where OP actually challenges the CF !

😊

@Beveren I think with people like Z they just don’t care, it’s not inconveniencing them and they think you won’t make a fuss because people don’t like confrontation. You can bet if the shoe was on the other foot they’d have some ‘reason’ why they need the money instantly.

This is similar to the poster the other day whose "friend" at work kept "forgetting" to pay for their shared lunch on Fridays (now out by 30 quid after several weeks !),When will these people learn they have to pay their way ? There always seems to be one CF who really takes the piss!.You are doing the right thing here .First come first served ! Notes for future reference : Always get money upfront in cash , then purchase tickets /lunches etc !

Well done OP, and “go X” excellent result.
Extra well done for the way you helped x to tell her own experience without pressuring her! The fact that she rarely speaks up about these things will strengthen the impact (although it probably won’t stop z it might make her realise her CFery credit is now limited)

Some people are really unreliable liike this. Best to try to keep things separate if you can or only book when everyone has paid by a deadline.

A most satisfying CF thread! Well done to OP and X! 👏

Next time (if there is a next time) just give a pay by date, and don't buy tickets for those who haven't paid.

Well done Op

Z kicked off saying again it's unfair and now she's going to miss out. I said she's more than welcome to book a ticket herself? I also said how u fair it was to expect me to pay for her and never get the money back. She said she would never do that and would have paid eventually.

would have paid eventually???? The cheek of it!!

"would have paid eventually" 🙄.

I can perhaps understand someone getting away with this once but not several times.

CF's think they are cuter than everyone else and love to get one over on others.

For this alone, I would not be caught by them.
Once someone has been labelled "tight" in my experience, I am on CF alert and just will not be caught out.

It's almost like a "alternative sport"😂

Couldn't you have just asked her to give you £35 in cash instead. Just to put an end to it.

@chrisbarker344 why should I have asked for cash rather than bank transfer? Bank transfer is much easier. I would have had to go to the bank and put the money in my account which is hassle for me!

@hardyloveit because whilst I agree bank transfer is easier when people cooperate, when it comes to people like this cash would be preferable as it's paid and you no longer have to listen to excuses about not having correct bank details etc. If she'd paid cash you wouldn't be on here now.

@hardyloveit ..and would you really bother to pay £35 into the bank. Just keep it in your purse. You'll need it for something.