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To just want the correct payment from "friend"

216 replies

hardyloveit · 12/10/2019 19:53

So a group of friends are going to a show. I organised it and said I don't mind paying for the tickets (so we can be together) as long as payment was in my bank prior to booking.

Anyway there is 6 of us going and I said I'd swallow the booking fee etc so it came to £35 per ticket.

4 have paid and I booked the tickets (6) as the 5th (I'll call her Z) said she had paid.) Didn't have any reason not to doubt (yes i did check online banking and she said it could take up to 2 hours to go in)

Booked tickets and still no money from Z. I message her privately (we have a group Whatsapp) and said it's still not there. She said she will call the bank.

The next day I asked again and she said it didn't go through so she will put £30 in now. I said okay and it's £35!

Still no money by lunchtime. That evening she said she had been super busy and will do it in the am and said £33 and I corrected her agin at £35!

Next day she sends me a photo which was a note to her oh saying
(Oh name)

Please can you put £34.99 in Hardys account and then my bank details.

Still NOTHING! I've now wrote in the group chat if anyone knows of someone else that would like to come let me know ASAP

I know it's only 1p but how many times did I have to correct her in saying it's £35!

Ive swallowed the booking fee etc which was nearly £5 as we are having the tickets posted as some are coming from work.

She has now wrote back in the group that's it's unfair she can't go! Someone else (Y) asked why not and Z had the cheek to say I'd given her the wrong bank details so couldn't pay!

I replied saying no Z that's not true. I've given you a a week from when I said about payments before the ticket and you keep saying you will do it but not with the correct amount. Z has said I'm being unreasonable. The rest of the group haven't commented in the chat since but have privately messaged asking why Z is being a twat!

So aibu to try and find someone else or is Z

OP posts:
hardyloveit · 12/10/2019 20:06

I know @tobedtoMNandfart ! 2 paid literally straight away and one later that night and the other first thing in the am! Z then said she had paid etc then I bought the tickets!

OP posts:
tobedtoMNandfart · 12/10/2019 20:06

How long exactly has she been stringing you along?

Marona · 12/10/2019 20:06

Cheeky fucker. Please put a link to this thread on your group chat op so she can see just what a dick she’s being.

Windydaysuponus · 12/10/2019 20:08

Update the group chat imo.
She needs calling out.

Howlovely · 12/10/2019 20:10

Absolute nonsense that she thinks she has paid but to the wrong account! She's not even a very good liar! She sounds awful, the constant messing about with amounts, etc. Bin her I reckon. Whoever pays first gets the tickets, maybe she'll learn not to be such a CF in future.

Passthecherrycoke · 12/10/2019 20:12

Go OP, you are a proper rock star. Love the way you’ve dealt with this

LagunaBubbles · 12/10/2019 20:14

I agree you should update group chat, god knows what she will be going around saying behind your back.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 12/10/2019 20:19

She may suddenly get hold of the "right" bank details and pay you.

If she does - don't give her the ticket if one of the others wants it. And keep forgetting to pay her the money back. hang onto it for a fortnight - what with not having her "right" bank details or anything . . .

JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 12/10/2019 20:21

OP well done

TriciaH87 · 12/10/2019 20:26

Everyone has the details in the chat so she could have asked them. I would post in the chat saying it is £35 a c number...... Sort code....... You have until xx time today to pay the money into my account or I will be forced to sell on the ticket. I have already covered the booking fee and could have added that on too. Please let me know ASAP if you wish to come.

Potnoodledoo · 12/10/2019 20:27

If she does - don't give her the ticket if one of the others wants it. And keep forgetting to pay her the money back. hang onto it for a fortnight - what with not having her "right" bank details or anything . . .

Then send her back 34.98 Grin

SchadenfreudePersonified · 12/10/2019 20:29

Potnoodledoo

Superb!

Grin
IdiotInDisguise · 12/10/2019 20:31

Does z’s name starts with a G? I’m sure it doesn’t but I had a CF who played exactly the same trick on me. The way to sort it is to walk her to a cash point on the day, then badmouth her to everyone else (she started playing the victim saying that I was tight and they never treated each other in such horrible way. You will see you are not the first victim.

londonrach · 12/10/2019 20:44

Id update whatsapp with facts and remove her from group. Not worth dealing with. Silly little girl. Also op...post this thread to her. She neecs to grow up. What happened with lunch cf..

Honeyroar · 12/10/2019 20:47

Yanbu. Why do people have to make things so difficult!

BumbleBeee69 · 12/10/2019 20:48

I hate Shitty Skitty Arse types like this, that think they can enjoy treats at everyone else's expense .. then get arsey as fuck when they need to pay up. Call her out on the Group page then block the cheap bint.

Enjoy the show girls Flowers

MyShinyWhiteTeeth · 12/10/2019 20:51

I think it's a powerplay when people do this. I know someone who can be a bit of a penny pincher at times but is generally quite generous if you are in favour.

He does shit like this. He will get you something for one price then either ask for a higher amount or will get you a smaller quantity. He will also try to renegotiate prices by trying to pay slightly less than he's agreed.

He seems to get away with it because it is easier to deal with him than find an unknown alternative and he does provide quite a lot of business. He's very much in charge and likes everyone to know it.

Whoopstheregomyinsides · 12/10/2019 20:52

How do these people think it's ok to be like this. I'd sell the ticket to someone else for sure

redcarbluecar · 12/10/2019 20:57

I think you’ve handled this well in telling her you’ll give the ticket away if she doesn’t pay you.

MrsEricBana · 12/10/2019 21:05

Blimey, not ok. Def sell it to the first person who gives you £35.

percheron67 · 12/10/2019 21:08

Make sure the other people involved know what she is like and the drop her.

GoodGriefSunshine · 12/10/2019 21:12

She seems totally fine in blasting you. SO why not just outright ask her what the problem is. That she has promised so many times and always for the wrong amount and that she has the correct details so what the hell is the actual problem? Just demand an answer

Poshjock · 12/10/2019 21:13

This reminds me of a joke my DH often tells during money discussions...

"Tight? I'm not tight. Just the other day Posh asked to borrow a pound, I said '50p?, what do you want borrow 20p for?, here let me get that 10p for you'" {pulls 10p out of pocket}.

Grin
Sparklfairy · 12/10/2019 21:15

I love how indignant these CFs get when called out. The tantrums are laughable. It honestly astounds me that people can be so entitled yet expect to keep friends!

OP you've handled this really well, making it clear you won't let her have a free ride. If someone else buys the ticket don't tell her. See if she transfers the money in time then tell her and stall paying it back, or better still if she doesn't pay let her turn up and not be let in Grin

i probably wouldnt have the balls to do this but she deserves it

SchadenfreudePersonified · 12/10/2019 21:17

i probably wouldnt have the balls to do this but she deserves it

I would!

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