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To just want the correct payment from "friend"

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hardyloveit · 12/10/2019 19:53

So a group of friends are going to a show. I organised it and said I don't mind paying for the tickets (so we can be together) as long as payment was in my bank prior to booking.

Anyway there is 6 of us going and I said I'd swallow the booking fee etc so it came to £35 per ticket.

4 have paid and I booked the tickets (6) as the 5th (I'll call her Z) said she had paid.) Didn't have any reason not to doubt (yes i did check online banking and she said it could take up to 2 hours to go in)

Booked tickets and still no money from Z. I message her privately (we have a group Whatsapp) and said it's still not there. She said she will call the bank.

The next day I asked again and she said it didn't go through so she will put £30 in now. I said okay and it's £35!

Still no money by lunchtime. That evening she said she had been super busy and will do it in the am and said £33 and I corrected her agin at £35!

Next day she sends me a photo which was a note to her oh saying
(Oh name)

Please can you put £34.99 in Hardys account and then my bank details.

Still NOTHING! I've now wrote in the group chat if anyone knows of someone else that would like to come let me know ASAP

I know it's only 1p but how many times did I have to correct her in saying it's £35!

Ive swallowed the booking fee etc which was nearly £5 as we are having the tickets posted as some are coming from work.

She has now wrote back in the group that's it's unfair she can't go! Someone else (Y) asked why not and Z had the cheek to say I'd given her the wrong bank details so couldn't pay!

I replied saying no Z that's not true. I've given you a a week from when I said about payments before the ticket and you keep saying you will do it but not with the correct amount. Z has said I'm being unreasonable. The rest of the group haven't commented in the chat since but have privately messaged asking why Z is being a twat!

So aibu to try and find someone else or is Z

OP posts:
Comedyusername · 13/10/2019 16:56

Normal people would feel ashamed and apologise for not having paid on time. I can't imagine being like these CFs!

NearlyGranny · 13/10/2019 17:01

There are people out there with solid brass necks who will never, ever spend their own money if the can spend someone else's instead!

Her reasoning will be, oh OP is loaded anyway compared to me, she can afford it. Never mind what she actually owes.

I'm so glad X called her out for the hen do debt, though I doubt she'll ever see a penny of it.

Smelborp · 13/10/2019 17:02

Glad X finally stood up to her.

Thornhill58 · 13/10/2019 17:06

I like your style. You aren't a bailiff to chase people for money.

MrsLinManuelMiranda · 13/10/2019 17:28

Totally going off the thread, but I hope when X snapped they didn't also fart!

Wildorchidz · 13/10/2019 17:31

Yay !!!
Well done you and X.

Windydaysuponus · 13/10/2019 17:38

Hopefully that will be the end of any future cfuckery....

Emmak789 · 13/10/2019 17:39

Z is being a douche! Honestly in this day and age of online banking and Paym (where you just need a phone number to pay up to £50) it's very easy to pay someone, its quick and easy and almost instant so Z is just a pain in the backside. They had a whole week to pay the correct amount. Dont feel sorry for them, let this be a lesson. If Z was that daunted by online banking they could have given you cash!

FilthyforFirth · 13/10/2019 17:40

I hope lunch club thread has just a satisfying ending! Well done X!

CoffeeWithMyOxygen · 13/10/2019 17:42

I’ve never met X and yet feel weirdly proud of her, so glad she spoke up and you put your foot down! Hopefully now the whole group is aware of what she’s like she’ll be shamed into paying the £60 back. Bet she won’t bother booking her own ticket to this event now she’ll have to actually pay though!

jade9390 · 13/10/2019 17:42

Happened to me before, constant promises of being paid. pity tales of being broke and they will pay after the event. These people take the piss and never do. Now she is lying, trying to make you look bad and attention seeking, drop her and take somebody else.

snoopiij · 13/10/2019 17:42

that's what they do make out it's you in the wrong nothing worse than a WhatsApp group where messages get crossed over then you all start private messaging asking what tf is going on!! take it that she just doesn't want to go what ever her reason is!!

HollowTalk · 13/10/2019 17:43

Great thread! I love it when people are pulled up like that.

DanceItOut · 13/10/2019 17:44

Well done OP and well done X! Both of you calling out Z's cheeky behaviour will make her think twice about doing it again to your group of friends.

M2B19 · 13/10/2019 17:50

Sounds like she can’t afford it and is hoping you’ll sub her.

Drum2018 · 13/10/2019 17:50

That's great. Good on you for going ahead and letting your sister have the ticket. That will teach Z a valuable lesson (not to be such a fucking CF), and has also taught X a valuable lesson (not to be such a walk over). Good outcome all round and I hope X gets her money but I won't hold my breath.

Potnoodledoo · 13/10/2019 17:50

Anyone link me to Friday Lunch thread thanks

Iloveacurry · 13/10/2019 17:51

Well done you and well done X! Z is a CF.

Wonderland18 · 13/10/2019 17:53

I love how you standing up for yourself gave X the courage to out Z I’ll bet it’s been eating at her

PepsiLola · 13/10/2019 17:55

I'm actually more chuffed for X than your outcome, just cause X has finally stood up for herself.

Plus, x's little add in at the end proved you were correct!

Very positive outcome

Lovely13 · 13/10/2019 18:03

I’ve had this buying cinema tickets. One person never paid me back. Also with a meet-up group I co-run. Trying to get £10 a year out of members for annual fee is like getting blood out of a stone! If I were chief organiser, I’d expel them from group! But main person, who shoulders cost, doesn’t want to...

L0bstersLass · 13/10/2019 18:03

Ha! Good for you and good on X too!
Z has brought it all on herself.

timshelthechoice · 13/10/2019 18:10

She's a bitch. Well done you! Never, ever, ever involve her in anything concerning money again. She had zero intention of paying. She feels entitled to go for free.

Aunaturalmama · 13/10/2019 18:11

I have learned that there a selfish greedy people in the world and if they can get away with it, they’ll do it! Cannot tell you how many times this has happened to me. I feel the penny was a fuck you. Is there a reason she’s being so odd? Or is this just her personality??

Inthenewsagain · 13/10/2019 18:12

Well done you and fab for X! Hope she gets her money back although sadly I doubt it.

You're very cool OP I have to say. I'd be so stressed by that sort of situation.

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