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Original poster

To think this is gross..........

262 replies

CartWHEEL2008 · 27/05/2019 05:54

What are people’s views on this. It’s the middle of the night, DP has number two then comes back to bed completely naked. I find this unhygienic. I would never do that, would at least put a pair of pants on and defo have a mini shower (of private area) if sex was on the cards.
Am I being silly or does anyone else find the action gross?! Love him to bits but I don’t like when he does this at all Shock

OP posts:
checkingforballoons · 27/05/2019 05:56

Uhm, did he use toilet paper..?

Original poster
CartWHEEL2008 · 27/05/2019 05:57

I hope so!! Smile

OP posts:
checkingforballoons · 27/05/2019 05:59

It honestly wouldn’t cross my mind that this is gross!

Thatsnotmyotter · 27/05/2019 06:00

As long as he wipes well who cares?

Igotthemheavyboobs · 27/05/2019 06:01

Agree with checkingforballoons

TescoValueUserName · 27/05/2019 06:01

I wouldnt care either!

WonderWorm · 27/05/2019 06:02

Any naked man in my bed is gross unless fresh from shower.
I'm with you op.

MrsAJ27 · 27/05/2019 06:08

He had a poo and presumably wiped his bum! As long as he washed his hands...what is the problem?? 🙄

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CartWHEEL2008 · 27/05/2019 06:11

@ MrsAJ27 how do I know he wiped properly though. This is the whole issue.

OP posts:
checkingforballoons · 27/05/2019 06:14

I’d say that if you can’t trust a man to wipe his arse properly, you probably shouldn’t be sharing a bed with him. I’ve got high standards 😁

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CartWHEEL2008 · 27/05/2019 06:16

It sounds like most of you must do the same then.

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FiveShelties · 27/05/2019 06:17

@checking Grin

Cariadne · 27/05/2019 06:18

I don’t find this gross, but then I wouldn’t tolerate a man who I couldn’t trust to wipe his own arse properly.

Sux2buthen · 27/05/2019 06:18

Well I imagine most of us know how to clean ourselves

Sux2buthen · 27/05/2019 06:18

That was to cartwheel

Cuppa12345 · 27/05/2019 06:19

Yes, I just wipe, I don't shower after a shit. So I don't think it's unhygienic for my husband to do the same. We are both adults and don't leave shit on our arses after using toilet roll. I take it you do if you need a shower!

ChillaxingInMyKimono · 27/05/2019 06:21

Oh my God.

If you don't trust your DP to have the wherewithal to wipe his own arse (can't 5YOs do this??), then why are you with him? Envy

And no, I've never had a bowel movement in the middle of the night unless I've had D&V.

Downunderduchess · 27/05/2019 06:32

@ChillaxingInMyKimono what is D&V??

I'm Australian btw... haven't heard of it.

Jessbow · 27/05/2019 06:33

You are being silly. If a man cant wipe his own arse after a shit, he wouldnt be sharing my life, let alone my bed.

Are shitty underpants a regular thing in your house then? If they are, maybe you need to teach him how to do it.If its not- what is the issue?

Myfoolishboatisleaning · 27/05/2019 06:35

How dirty are you OP? That you think having a poo before bed is unhygienic. You must be absolutely minging so you think everyone is like you. I can have a poo and clean myself really well after... like most other adults.

Lauren83 · 27/05/2019 06:35

Wouldn't bother me I would expect him to have cleaned up and washed his hands so don't see the problem

megrichardson · 27/05/2019 06:37

i'm with the OP - I would hate this. Skiddy sheets in the morning Envy

twoheaped · 27/05/2019 06:39

As long as he didn't come and wipe his arse on my pillow, I'd be fine with that.
Struggling to see how having a poo can make sex a bit yuck though Confused

WonderWorm · 27/05/2019 06:41

If I poop and can't shower I use moist toilet roll. Dry doesn't clean every scrap so if he's getting into bed not fully clean his sweat is re-hydrating the poop.

Cariadne · 27/05/2019 06:42

Skiddy sheets? Dear god. Is this a common phenomenon, that people can’t wipe properly after a poo?

I’ve never seen so much as a single skid mark on any sheet or pair of underwear in the entire time I’ve been with my husband.

I can’t believe how low some peoples standards are 😬