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Son shown his willy during lesson

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Harryy · 04/04/2019 18:42

Today after school the teacher has told me that my 5 year old son had pulled down his pants and showed his willy to the class during PE and tomorrow he will be missing out on his morning break time surely this behaviour should be dealt with on the day it happens? (PE was the last lesson)

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MarinetteDupainCheng · 04/04/2019 18:44

If this happened in the last lesson, how do you expect them to deal with it on the day or happens?

AnduinsGirl · 04/04/2019 18:44

It really doesn't matter that he'll have his consequence the next day. It will happen often and does not scar children for life.

PotteringAlong · 04/04/2019 18:44

What would your suggestion be as it was last lesson?

BertrandRussell · 04/04/2019 18:45

If it was the last lesson, how could it have been dealt with?

AgentProvocateur · 04/04/2019 18:45

^^what she said. Did you want him to get after school detention? Hmm

MummytoCSJH · 04/04/2019 18:46

I think the issue is that 5 year olds won't relate not being able to go outside to being a punishment for something they did wrong the previous day. They will just know they aren't allowed to go outside with their friends.

Bloodybridget · 04/04/2019 18:48

Surely a 5yo can remember something like that from one day to the next?

BrieAndChilli · 04/04/2019 18:49

If children can learn and remember thier times tables and phonics from one day to the next I’m pretty sure then can remember why they aren’t allowed out at break time!!

AnduinsGirl · 04/04/2019 18:49

5 year olds won't relate not being able to go outside to being a punishment for something they did wrong the previous day
Yes, they absolutely can. You very clearly remind them why they are staying in, then at the end of break you say you know they're a good boy/girl so let's have a really good rest of the day.

BringOnTheScience · 04/04/2019 18:50

Why aren't you bothered about the fact that he was waving his willy around, rather than timing?

CountFosco · 04/04/2019 18:51

If it was my son who did this (he's the same age) he'd get a punishment at home tonight and be told he will get a punishment at school tomorrow as well. They are little but old enough to understand what he did was wrong.

FrancesFryer · 04/04/2019 18:52

Why is he not just being told not to do it and address it further if it happens again.

He's not the first 5 year old to do this and he won't be the last

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Harryy · 04/04/2019 18:53

Would have thought they would off explained what he didn't wasn't acceptable behaviour or that I could with it at home

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Home77 · 04/04/2019 18:54

Why should the school deal with this behaviour? Is it not for you to...em, speak to him about it?

Catsandbootsandbootsandcats · 04/04/2019 18:55

I wouldn't punish a 5 year old at home for that. I'd have words with them certainly, but that would be it.

And I'd let the school deal with it, and as it was last lesson then the next day would be fine.

Drogosnextwife · 04/04/2019 18:55

I think the issue is that 5 year olds won't relate not being able to go outside to being a punishment for something they did wrong the previous day. They will just know they aren't allowed to go outside with their friends.

Don't be ridiculous, they are learning to read a write, yet they won't be able to remember they showed the class their willy the previous day and that's why they won't get out to play?

Zoflorabore · 04/04/2019 18:56

A little boy in my dd's class does this now and again during changing for PE.
He's 7 and has some SN and dd said that after the first time when everyone laughed, nobody has made a big deal out of it.
She said it's happened with other boys too when they were in younger years.

School will have a way of dealing with it age appropriately and I'm sure his parents will speak to him too. A 5 yr old is hardly "waving his willy around" though Smile

Redlocks28 · 04/04/2019 18:56

This is a completely appropriate punishment! He will know tomorrow exactly what he did wrong.

Bagitup · 04/04/2019 18:57

I’d be quite happy with a teacher to carry out punitive measures the next day. He’ll learn his lesson.

MyDcAreMarvel · 04/04/2019 18:57

I wouldn’t punish a five year old at all. A chat about keeping certain things private is all that is needed.

YourSarcasmIsDripping · 04/04/2019 19:01

5 year olds won't relate not being able to go outside to being a punishment for something they did wrong the previous day

Most will, it's just that some people refuse to accept that.

What he did was unacceptable behaviour in the school, the school are dealing with it and there will be a consequence for his behaviour along with a chat about privates, what's inappropriate etc.

sollyfromsurrey · 04/04/2019 19:04

OP you obviously accept that schools should discipline as you have stated that they should deal with it on the day. So your issue is that they are dealing with it the next day. Nope, you are BU. If it happened later in the day and there was no opportunity to discipline on that day, the next day is totally fine.

Fuppy · 04/04/2019 19:05

I think it's right that the school should punish your son as well as you OP, that way your son will learn that neither school or home will tolerate this behaviour.

I think it's important that schools and parents show a united front about appropriate behaviour.

musketeersmama · 04/04/2019 19:06

Punitive measures??? Wtf? He’s 5! I would tell the teacher that there will be no punishment and a chat about privacy and appropriate behaviour will be quite sufficient.

mrstinky · 04/04/2019 19:06

When I was little and naughty at school they would immediately make me stare at the wall. Teachers these days are snow flakes who cant be arsed to discipline right there and then.