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To ask at what age you think men become invisible to women

194 replies

EnlightenmentwasaPassingPhase · 18/03/2019 19:40

And do you think it's because they get fat? Lose their hair? Start wearing frumpy clothes? Get wrinkly and jowly?

Do they feel insecure about this invisibility? Or heave a sigh of relief that Julie in Accounts is no longer making eyes at them?

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KismetJayn · 18/03/2019 19:42

I'm guessing this is sarcasm?

Disfordarkchocolate · 18/03/2019 19:42

I've always been fairly invisible 🙂

SexNotJenga · 18/03/2019 19:43

I was about 35 when men became invisible to me.

AlpacaLypse · 18/03/2019 19:44
Grin
FlibbertyGiblets · 18/03/2019 19:47

I know it's a pisstake but I'm going to say never.

Mordred · 18/03/2019 19:47

Well I'm 56 and my Manly Good Looks are still such a burden to me! There's No Escape from the Female Gaze!

Raises back of hand to forehead and sighs in a dramatic way

PositiveVibez · 18/03/2019 19:47

TAAT, but a very good one which highlights the point of the ridiculousness of the subject.

nombrecambio · 18/03/2019 19:49

It's that age when they start making less effort with their appearance - it's different for each boy but usually around 40. Let the grey hairs show through, stop trimming facial hair, middle aged dad-bod, and saggy tits & balls.

And what gets me is all the meninist whining about how they get objectified but as soon as you stop flirting with the baggy old ones they whinge about that too. You can't win!

backmassageplease · 18/03/2019 19:51

I'm 20 and very much attracted to someone of 56. I fancy the pants off of him, in fact.

So it must vary. I'm not particularly 'drawn' to older men either. It depends on the person, their appearance and how they draw you in.

Hazeintheclouds · 18/03/2019 19:51

They are invisible to me if they are overweight or bald. Or both.

FlibbertyGiblets · 18/03/2019 19:51

Because you never know when you're going to be shoulder barged or shouted at to CHEER UP LOVE. You know what I'm saying.

OpalIridescence · 18/03/2019 19:52

I'm 102 and they are still lapping me up.

I don't know why people moan about this, it's such fun.

Hazeintheclouds · 18/03/2019 19:53

Or too short.

Shouldershrugger · 18/03/2019 19:54

Im liking this thread

nombrecambio · 18/03/2019 19:56

I've never liked the meninist types that wear ill fitting suits to cover their bodies. Come on, lads. Show us your assets. No one wants to talk to a lad that looks like he borrowed a suit from John Major.

Those ones have always been invisible.

I like a lad that knows what his best features are.

EnlightenmentwasaPassingPhase · 18/03/2019 19:57

I'm guessing this is sarcasm?

Wrong. Serious question.

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Snoozysnoozy · 18/03/2019 19:59

The real question is at what salary do men become visible to women

SurgeHopper · 18/03/2019 20:00

Totally depends on the guy.

There are 25 year old hotties and 55 year old hotties, depends on the person

EnlightenmentwasaPassingPhase · 18/03/2019 20:00

It's not a TAAT.

Is there an age when they become invisible or do we lust after them forever?

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Rixera · 18/03/2019 20:01

I know I'm doing nothing to help the double standards by having a 'boy'friend 42 years older than me Grin

But maybe even it out by fancying older women too? Grin

SurgeHopper · 18/03/2019 20:01

I honestly think if you've got it when you're 25 you'll have it forever

SurgeHopper · 18/03/2019 20:02

42 years older, Rix? Tell us more!

Sparklesocks · 18/03/2019 20:03

I think it’s more likely women become invisible to men when they hit a certain age.

Chosennone · 18/03/2019 20:05

🤔 Whatever age Eammon Holmes is?

55?

Hiddenaspie1973 · 18/03/2019 20:05

For me, it's when they become like old women.
Whining, complaining, gossiping. I find that puts me off.