To ask at what age you think men become invisible to women

[EnlightenmentwasaPassingPhase]

And do you think it's because they get fat? Lose their hair? Start wearing frumpy clothes? Get wrinkly and jowly?

Do they feel insecure about this invisibility? Or heave a sigh of relief that Julie in Accounts is no longer making eyes at them?

Lol SurgeHopper.

He's a gorgeous, gorgeous 68 year old. I'm 26. We met, thrillingly, at a book club :') bonding over our love of sci-fi.

When you can tell they're broke.

^For me, it's when they become like old women.
Whining, complaining, gossiping^

Aren't they just behaving like whining, complaining, gossiping old men?

enlightenment you really need to work on your comprehension, dear.

They were doing something shit so that is female.

I don't think they will ever become invisible to me.

Rubs thighs and says ooh young man.

@Rixera

"We met, thrillingly, at a book club :') bonding over our love of sci-fi."

That's a lovely story.

If mine's anything to go by, never. He's a small, chubby, bespectacled little thing. He's also bright, witty, amusing and flirtatious. The little bugger can charm the birds off the trees.

Had a giggle at this thread title. Can't imagine a mostly male chatboard filled with men fretting over when they became invisible to women.

In all seriousness though..... despite men thinking they all age 'like a fine wine', as a woman in her late 40s, I see tons of attractive women my age, but sadly very few men. Most of the men I fancy are at least 10 years younger. You do see the occasional 'silver fox' but they are rare.

@Mordred thank you took me a year to wear him down enough to accept my invitation for coffee, he insisted he was too old for me. I insisted he was being ridiculous and it wasn't as if either of us had met anybody else whose company we enjoyed more... So why keep putting it off, making eyes over the biscuit tin once a month

Men don't notice that they have become invisible. They are convinced of their hotness at all ages. It annoys them when young women don't agree.

Does your DH/DP/DB/DF not worry that they are no longer attracting the female gaze?

My DH feels self-conscious walking past a pub in the summertime as the women drinking outside don't look him up and down anymore. He feels irrelevant.

Men don't notice that they have become invisible. They are convinced of their hotness at all ages. It annoys them when young women don't agree.

Yup. Internet is heaving with these losers. They think that just because they've got a steady job and a semi-D in some dull suburb that attractive young women will be flocking to them. What they don't get is that these women will be able to choose from equally attractive men closer to their own age and are unlikely to want to hook up with some middle aged divorcee.

@EnlightenmentwasaPassingPhase

"My DH feels self-conscious walking past a pub in the summertime as the women drinking outside don't look him up and down anymore. He feels irrelevant."

Has anyone seen my eyeballs? They just rolled out of the back of my head.

My DH feels self-conscious walking past a pub in the summertime as the women drinking outside don't look him up and down anymore. He feels irrelevant.

That's terrible. I bet his heart sinks when he walks past a group of women on the street and none of them whistle at him and say 'Nice package!' anymore.

Or that time when he was in the queue at his local Cafe Nero and the pretty young waitress ignored him in favour of the fit young man standing behind him. That sort of invisibility must be hard for a man to bear.

As I've gotten older the men I've fancied have gotten older, so I guess never?

And he can't remember the last time a woman urged him to "cheer up, love - it'll never happen"

@Rixera

Love is love. Age is irrelevant.

Have you read 'Dandelion Wine' by Ray Bradbury? There's a lovely story there about a couple who meet out of time, so to speak. In this case an old woman and a younger man.

I've never found any man over the age of 30 attractive. And that includes Johnny Depp.

I don't know, but I was surprised and amused when I got appraising glances from two young hotties when I stopped to let them over a zebra crossing.

They were fooled by the leather trousers, full-face helmet and big padded jacket. Not an inch of myself was visible.

Hmmm, no sexual validation can knock a mans spirit. Has he thought about the surgical route, totally natural thing to do.

Some lip fillers and buttock implants did the job for me, ladies came flocking back.

@Mordred funny you should mention it! It's one of my favourite books and one I made him read, shortly before us getting together. He had mentioned feeling 'outside of time' as a retired bachelor. It may have spurred him on in his decision :)

Oh come on, PigletJohn, you're never short of attention on MN!

Only from people who've never met me.